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As we approach celebration of Christmas, reflecting on Christ’s birth will not only help us to bring into our families the spirit of Christmas but also will help us to appreciate the mystery of Christ’s birth and it’s meaning.

Only two Evangelists, Matthew and Luke, describe in their gospels the events surrounding Jesus’ birth. Gospels of Saints Mark and John, describing the life of Jesus, begin with the description of John’s (the Baptizer) ministry and Jesus baptism. The gospel of Saint Luke offers the most details not only about Jesus’ birth but also about his childhood as well.

Nativity of Christ in the Gospel According to Saint Matthew.

The story of nativity of Christ in Matthew’s Gospel can be found the the chapter 1 (verses 18-25). An the entire chapter 3 is dedicated to some events in Jesus’ early life; visit of Astrologers, flight to Egypt and return to Nazareth after Herod’s death. As was mentioned in one of the previous articles in this series, the main audience of Matthew’s Gospel were members of Jedeo-Christian circles. Very likely this audience was familiar with God’s promises to send His “Anointed One” and even with the details of his birth. This explains why Matthew’s gospel, in the verse 23, quotes from the prophecy of Isaiah regarding Christ’s birth:

Behold, a virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and his name shall be called Emmanuel (which means, God with us). (Isaiah 7:1).As well as the citation, in the chapter 2 verse 6, from the prophet Micah regarding the place of Christs birth: And you, O Bethlehem, in the and of Judah, are by no means least among the rulers of Judah, for from you shall come a ruler who will govern my people Israel. (Micah 5:1).Describing the flight to Egypt and the eventual return of Joseph and Mary with child Jesus, aligns Christ along the history of Israel and Moses.

Nativity of Christ in the Gospel according to Saint Luke.

Luke provides us with most details from Childhood of Jesus. From him we learn about the birth of John the Baptizer and it is from Luke that we learn that both Jesus and John the Baptizer have “met” while being in the wombs of their mothers. Luke interconnects the birth of John and Jesus pointing out that the same angel (Gabriel) was send by God to announce the birth of each child. Luke being diligent about details, tells us that John the Baptist was about 6 month older Jesus:

And behold your kinswoman Elizabeth in her old age in her old age has also conceived a son; and this is the six month with her who was called barrenEvangelist Luke also provides us wit an explanation why did Joseph and Mary ended up in Bethlehem for the time of Jesus’ birth, but also links Christ’s birth to a historical event when Caesar Augustus decreed to take the census of the people. It is also worth noticing that the genealogy of Jesus is not connected to his birth in Luke’s Gospel but rather to the beginning of his public ministry. Both evangelists provide us with much material to meditate and ponder upon. Christ’s birth was both a fulfillment of messianic promises (according to Matthew) and arrival of a Savior to the entire world (according to Luke).

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Enthusiasm is passion. Enthusiasm is living your dream. Enthusiasm is a divine energy you will feel as a reward for pursuing your dreams and staying on your own path. Someone who is earnestly looking for his mission, discovers it and lives it, will organize his entire life around this divine assignment. This person will offer his talents to the world, betters his environment, adds his personal value to it, and ends up happy and satisfied. The characteristics below help you recognize this person (or become one yourself!) :

1. Enthusiasm is the most obvious feature. This person lives live fully, enjoys every moment, and lives in the present, radiating a lot of self-confidence. He knows he is valid part of the universe and feels appreciated and guided.

2. This person possesses a special driving force that guides her through the roadblocks. He has access to an endless source of energy that lifts him above the masses. His energy level is much higher than average. People can notice he is being lifted up by a kind of light beam. He is very engaged, travels lightly and makes a delicate impression. He is convinced that any roadblocks can be overcome. Nothing stops him.

3. This person easily makes choices. There is something guiding the course of his life, namely his mission, which he uses as a road map to find out where to go next and with whom. He can tell good company from bad company, unimportant matters from important matters. He doesn’t lose himself in irrelevant details but remains focused on his mission. He is guided by his inner voice, his intuition.

4. He dares to take risks. He has the courage to finish the projects he started. He has the energy and wisdom to concretely manifest his ideas.

5. He possesses an extraordinary creativity, inspiring those people around him. He has the ability to create and produce. He is capable of manifesting his thoughts: what is an idea today will become real within a few months or even earlier. He makes full use of his resources. He fully realizes his psychological and spiritual potential.

6. This person has a mysterious charisma. People like to be near him, enjoy his high energy level and feel invigorated afterwards. People pick up some wisdom from him and feel better after meeting him.

7. He has an unwavering faith in the universe and in himself, as he too is part of this universe. He is aware of spiritual law and lives according to them, consciously or unconsciously. He understands how his dreams and passions are the engine of his evolution and he knows the universe is organized such that it meets his needs. First and foremost he listens to his heart and follows its directions with faith and conviction.

8. This person exhibits a high level of dedication, gets fully engaged, and knows the universe to be his biggest and best partner. He has a clear vision of his goal, does not get distracted, and uses his energy entirely towards the manifestation of his dreams. When he experiences fear, it does not paralyze him, but doubles his devotion. He knows fear is something you have to go through, and for this he can count on his inner strength and guidance.

9. He is original in his approach and experiences total freedom while fulfilling his mission. He is aware of the fact that he is the co-creator of his life. He is not being lived, not warming the bench, not being afraid of what’s going to hit him next. On the contrary, he reflects about his future and takes all necessary action to effectively realize his desired future. Someone who has found his mission and takes it to heart is someone who has deciphered the secret code of the soul. And he receives the corresponding gifts: a great deal of enthusiasm, an extraordinary creativity and deep satisfaction.

He accepts these gifts gracefully and gratefully, and generously offers them to other people who cross his path. He is a shining light in the life of those who are so happy to have met him. Join the enthusiastics yourself! Become a person happy to get out of bed in the mroning, ready to go on with your mission. It’s all about finding your passion and living it out! Get out of this life of misery, do what you like, do what feels good, have faith and start finally living your real life!

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It’s been said that our life is comparable to a drop in the bucket. Although this may seem like an exaggeration, it is pretty close to the truth. While you may live to the ripe old age of 100, you could just as easily die tomorrow. There are no guarantees in this life. Sometimes you don’t always have as much time as you would like. This is why you must live every day like it was your last.

To live a fulfilling life, we must make the most of every minute. What can be done about this? Most people still have to work and support their basic needs. I’m not saying go to work and quit your job tomorrow. Even though you probably wouldn’t go to work if you knew you had only one day to live, this is not a wise move. Your life actually will be cut short if you don’t have food on the table. However, you can live with the right attitude no matter what you do on a daily basis.

Even if you have the most mundane job on the planet, do that job like you will never do it again. Focus on each task with the concentration that it deserves. Not only will you do your work better, but you will be much more productive. When you are productive, it comes with what is known as a “psychic income”. This is that good gut feeling that you get with a job well done. Would you want people to remember you as a clock-puncher that just coasted through life? Of course not! Be remembered as the leader! If you live this way it will not be long before you have what you really want out of life. It will always work out if you live this way. Promotions will be won. Relationships will be wonderful. It is truly a beautiful way to live.

When you leave home in the morning, don’t ever say anything that would not be considered good final words. Would you want your spouse to remember that the last conversation you had was a fight about money? No way! Always tell the people you love how you feel about them.

In every situation, make the most of the minutes that you have left on this planet. No one knows the hour or the day that they will leave. However, they can control their attitude in any given situation. Make the best of your situation and live like you were dying.

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I do things by halves. Sometimes, if I’m lucky I’ll get 80% done before I allow myself to get distracted, just stopping short of completion. Just look inside my wardrobe and see the amount of things completed to 80%. Unfinished bags I’ve started sewing, knitted scarves with the knitting needles still threaded through, unsent postcards that are too old to post, a half assed filing system (the stuff that needs to be filed is in a big fat pile next to the phone).

Look inside my email account and see 10 draft copies of letters I’ve been meaning to send (one is dated back to a year ago), and other countless emails I’ve left unread with the intention to read and reply. If I do eventually finish something, the pressure has to come from an external source (like a boss (which I don’t have at the moment), or an irrevocable deadline). But even then, the journey to completion certainly isn’t a pretty one. It’s sorta like carrying a whinging child up a very steep hill. Eventually, all the noise and distraction stops me from doing what I’m meant to be doing and I’m forced to listen to her concerns.

“You don’t want to keep going?” I say, “What do you want to do then?”
“Eat”.
“Okay”, I think, “I’ll let her have her way this time so she shuts up”.
I go to the fridge and feed her. Then I go back, ready to begin the journey again. But she’s still hungry. So I go back and forth to the fridge until I’m sure food can’t possibly be a concern anymore.
“You know you really should clean the bathroom before you start again”, she says.
“You’re absolutely right”, I say. “I’ve been putting that off forever”. After finishing the bathroom, I feel a little bit tired. I only manage to carry the child another couple of steps up the hill before she says, “You really ought to rest. You can’t get anything done in the state you’re in right now. Why don’t you see what’s on TV?”

“But It’s almost 2pm” I say, “I have to reach the top by 8pm”.
“You’ve got plenty of time”, she assures me. “Once you’re rested, you will be able to get to the top much quicker”. I don’t really believe her but I know I need to rest. So I put on the TV. “Oh, it’s ‘Oprah’, great!” One hour later: “Oh, ‘Dr Phil’s’ on. He’s so relevant.” One Hour later: “It’s ‘Totally Wild’”. This is where I draw the line. “Look”, I say, “Totally Wild is boring and educational, and the intro music is driving me nuts”.
“You’re right”, says the little girl, “we’d better get a start up the hill again”.

Finally we’re off once more, but I realise we’re running very low on time. I’m also extremely tired at this point, but I’m forced to keep going or risk not making it at all. At 7 o’clock I begin to sprint with the toddler on my back. Now it’s my turn to whinge to her. It’s a crazy sprint and I’m forced to leave out certain tasks due to time restrictions, but I make it finally, albeit rushed and 10 minutes late. I’ve finished but I’m certainly not satisfied with the outcome.

So the moral of the story is this: Imagine how much stuff we would get done if boring educational shows like ‘Totally Wild’ were on at an earlier time slot?

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There is a vital distinction between victimhood as a particular situation and Victimhood as a way of being and self-identity. It is the latter that we now have the capacity to change, thanks to The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic).

Since the beginning of time, the default orientation of humanity has been that of the Victim. Living in an often hostile and dangerous world, we human beings have honed the fight, flight, or freeze reaction to our life experience. While surviving is an accomplishment that deserves to be honored, most of humanity lives at a level of material wealth where survival is no longer a question. However, surviving is not thriving ─ spiritually, mentally or emotionally. And surviving is not creating. There must be a better way – and now there is!

Transactional Analysis pioneer and psychiatrist Stephen Karpman, MD, has observed that most human dynamics involve three roles – that of Victim; Persecutor (or Perpetrator); and Rescuer – which result in what he described as the “Drama Triangle.”

The Victim, which is the central figure in the drama, sees life as happening to them and believes they are powerless in the face of the onslaught of the problems they encounter. In order to be a Victim, however, one must have a Persecutor. The Persecutor is very often a person, but it can also be a condition (maybe an illness) or a circumstance (for instance, a hurricane). When a Victim encounters a Persecutor, they then look around for a Rescuer, to save them or, at least, to alleviate their suffering. Here, again, the Rescuer may be a person, but it can also be various forms of escapism and/or addiction such as gambling, alcohol, video games, even television.

There is a subtle and powerful seduction in being a powerless Victim. Besides being a great way to elicit pity and assistance from others, the role of Victim lets one believe that they are not responsible (i.e. able to respond) for what is going on in their life and often, the victim becomes the star of the drama. This position lets the victim avoid responsibility for their life, since, as far as they are concerned, they are usually not the cause of such occurrences in their life and, therefore, it’s not their fault! But the real question is not “whose fault is it?” The real question is, “What do you want?” and “Who do you want to be?” given your situation.

Make no mistake, there are victims in the world – stuff happens! Man’s inhumanity to man is infamous. My friends who make (or made) their homes in New Orleans certainly have suffered at the hands of hurricane Katrina. Again, there is a vital distinction between victimhood as a particular situation and Victimhood as a way of being and self-identity. This is where The Power of TED* (The Empowerment Dynamic) turns our assumptions about “the way it is” upside down.

The Power of TED* offers a new Orientation that is the antidote to the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). By engaging in life as a Creator instead of experiencing life as a Victim, a whole new set of alternative roles emerge that have broad implications for living more effectively and with much greater fulfillment.

The Creator is the central role in The Empowerment Dynamic. A Creator claims and taps into their personal power in order to choose his or her response to life circumstances. This role is result- and goal-oriented, focused on desired outcomes. Creators work consciously and deliberately to deal with their current reality while moving toward the life they intend to create. Along the way, they invariably meet up with the Challenger, which is the antidote to the role of Persecutor. Creators welcome Challengers. Creators are able to transform their perspective toward difficulties with people, conditions and/or circumstances into challenges to be met, understood, and (whenever possible) overcome. The Challenger calls forth a Creator’s will to create, often spurring him or her to learn new skills, make difficult decisions, and do whatever is necessary to achieve a dream or desire.

In order to more effectively move toward their dreams and desires, a Creator often seeks out a Coach, which is the role that is the antidote to the Rescuer. A Coach supports, assists, and facilitates a Creator in clarifying and manifesting the Creator’s desired outcome. Coaches help Creators perceive new possibilities; coaches dare them to dream! Thus, a Coach acknowledges and helps leverage the power and capabilities of a Creator and holds them accountable for taking the steps necessary to move forward.

Making the shift from Victim to Creator can take an instant or even many years. The process is achieved one step at a time, each and every day. It requires reviewing and previewing our actions to determine whether we are acting in the role of Creator or Victim. This conscious shift requires daily attention and is not necessarily easy. It is, however, a shift worth making.

TED* shows how to make the shift and makes possible a life of purpose, power, and compassion. The result is a profoundly higher quality of life and more fulfilling relationships. This remarkable transformation can be achieved through a simple series of Baby Steps, small but important shifts toward recreating your self-view. To illustrate, imagine seeing your doctor for your annual physical and hearing life altering news. Perhaps it’s high blood pressure and cholesterol, maybe it is diabetes, or even the news that you have a life-threatening disease. How you respond to this Challenger will define whether you are a Creator or a Victim. A Victim will wallow in self-pity and despair. While a Creator would certainly be unsettled by this news, they would set about envisioning a goal and then work daily to make that goal happen. Perhaps they begin an exercise program, take medication to lower their blood pressure or start yoga and meditation classes. The circumstance or Challenger (in this case poor health) does not by necessity define who you are. It is your conscious reaction and the choices you make every single day that will ultimately determine the role in which you live your life.

The Drama Triangle is a familiar scenario that everyone has experienced in their lifetime. Escape from this triangle has often seemed impossible, but as TED* so powerfully illustrates, you can indeed escape the drama. You have the power to be the Creator of your own life. The time has come for you to plan your escape and begin taking Baby Steps toward a new and better life by cultivating the Creator within you!

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David Emerald is the author of The Power of TED* (The Empowerment Dynamic). He is committed to living his life from a vision-focused and passion-based orientation. His commitment to express his life purpose has led him to serve individuals, teams, and organizations in making and living this conscious shift. David has founded Evolutionary Management and co-founded the Bainbridge Leadership Center, both of which provide him with the ability to deliver his profound message to a wide variety of people and organizations and to facilitate their efforts toward this goal. David brings the skills, knowledge and experience he acquired from 25 years of executive leadership development in the corporate and higher education arena, as well as his personal experiences to his writing. He has a Master’s Degree in Applied Behavioral Psychology and is working with the University of Notre Dame’s Mendoza College of Business Executive Education, where he helps deliver their Executive Integral Leadership Program to the next generation of enlightened leaders. He resides in Bainbirdge Island, WA.

Want to quit smoking? Want to give up alcohol? Want to be more attractive to people? Want to make more money, be more spiritual, be more popular?

Want to change the parts of your life that will make you quit smoking - give up alcohol - make more money - etc.?

Then change ANY area of your life. Any area at all.

How does this work?

Anyone who has ever taken Management 101 in college (and I did. And I got an A, thank you.) has heard of the “Hawthorne Effect.” See, back in the day, “efficiency experts” would go into factories and study the workers and processes and suggest changes, and tah-dah! Productivity would improve. Every time. So someone had the insight that maybe it was CHANGE ITSELF that improved productivity. So the “Hawthorne Experiment” was conducted. And it pretty much proved that making ANY change at all led to increased productivity.

Why?

Because change caused the worker to focus on their work, which led to better productivity. So try this in YOUR LIFE. Starting tomorrow, put some money - ANY AMOUNT AT ALL - into a bank account. Want to quit smoking? Cut DOWN your smoking by that dollar amount. Want to be more attractive? Speak to potential partners, KNOWING that you are saving money (that really is an attractive feature, and not only to gold-diggers and gigolos). Want to be more spiritual? Take the time that you would have been spending THAT money, and do whatever spiritual exercise you want.

See? Change ANY area of your life, and it can ripple over into the area you WANT to change. But you can actually AVOID confronting the area you want to change, and “blame” it on the little change you made in the first area.

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How to Be Abundantly Supplied

Matthew 6:26,33

Where Have You Put Confidence?

Do not be anxiously concerned (Webster defines this as being in “painful suspense“) but expect all blessings, the supply of all your wants to come from Him. If our great Creator through Christ Jesus has made us capable of know, loving and enjoying Himself eternally, what may we not expect from Him, after so great a gift? (Romans 8:32)

Jeremiah gives us the picture of the heart rejoicing in the knowledge of God (not just a head-knowledge but the experiential knowledge of God) which by His Word He shapes and fills the heart and mind and imagination and will with - that righteousness supplied by the Holy Spirit
(Romans 5:17).

“[Most] blessed is the man who believes in, trusts in, and relies on the Lord, and whose hope and confidence the Lord is.”
“For he shall be like a tree planted by the waters that spreads
out its roots by the river; and it shall not see and fear when the heat comes; but its leaf shall be green. It shall not be anxious and full of care in the year of drought, nor shall it cease yielding fruit.”

-Jeremiah 17:7-8

Do not put more confidence in your business acumen, your college degree, or your job all of which can fail but learn to put confidence in the unfailing love God cherishes for you. If God feeds and provides for the sparrows, how much more will He provide for you? This is not to say that we need not work, but work at what God has created us to do and place your confidence in Him. This is to be supplied abundantly without the gnawing fear of the troubles of this world!

In Psalm 138:8, God promises to fulfill everything that concerns you, and whatever He promises He will fulfill - let Him take thought for you but simply rest in His promises and He will bring them all to pass.

Ask Him for His Plans First

He promises in rest - calmly reposing on Him for assistance - quietness - in quieting our minds - and in confidence placed in Him and His promises. In a quiet submission to the will of God, and in quietly waiting upon Him for the issue and event of things, abiding in our own houses, and not in a hurrying tumultuous manner, running here and there for help; and in a holy and humble confidence in the Lord, and in the power of His might, where they should find such strength and security, as the world could not give them (Isaiah 30:15)

Seek the Kingdom of God first - The promise is make that if we seek it first, and its righteousness, all earthly wants will be supplied.

Saturate your mind and heart with His promises and all that He is, for He is your all in all - The condition demands:

1. That we seek the kingdom first in point of time (do not seek competence first)

2. We must make it first in importance before temporal blessings.

3. It must be first in our affections, have our whole hearts. We must love the Lord our God with our whole heart (Matthew 22:37).

Seek the Kingdom of God and His righteousness (His way of being and doing right). Wait upon Him (expecting, looking, and longing) for His victory and favor, His love and peace and joy, and His matchless, unbroken companionship!

Enjoy the Free Gift of Righteousness

Seek Him in His Word, search out His promises, and whatever He says you can be and do and have rest in those promises waiting on His thoughts and plans for you to unfold, to take shape in your heart and mind, your imagination and will.

Let Thy Spirit convince of us of sin in the want of this disposition, and take away the worldliness of our hearts. Singly aim at this, that God reigning in your heart, may fill it with the righteousness above described.

And as your heart holds faithfully to His Word and His Promises, He will be able to do far above anything you can imagine -

“[That you may really come] to know [practically through experience for yourselves] the love of Christ, which far surpasses mere knowledge [without experience]; that you may be filled [through all your being] unto all the fullness of God [may have the richest measure of the divine Presence, and become a body wholly filled and flooded with God Himself]!”

“Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]-”

“To Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations forever and ever. Amen (so be it).”

-Ephesians 3:19-21

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I have been thinking about writing this for some time and finally broke down to do it. My specialty is self-help, and I think this is related to self-help, in a roundabout way, as in – you can help yourself by preventing a speeding ticket with just one simple concept.

I “Directed Dreaming, Success From the Subconscious.” It has been really nice not having to answer to anyone else but myself. I get to sleep in, I have time to analyze my dreams, and it was all good!

One day I decided to take off for the mall about 3:00 in the afternoon to buy some baby shower gifts. I got my gifts and headed for home. I was traveling down a road that I have gone down a million times before, and my mind was wandering, thinking about all the work I had to do when I got home. Then suddenly it happened – I looked back and saw a policeman on a motorcycle behind me with his flashing lights on! I was certain that he was after someone else; I pulled over, only to find him pulling in behind me.

I didn’t know what to do because until then I had a perfect record. No accidents, no tickets, nothing! At first I thought I might muster up some tears, but then I felt foolish about that so I sent up a prayer, and tried to focus all the energies in the world on the hope that this officer was a nice guy, and I was a nice person, and he would not give me a ticket. I begged the officer not to write me up, but to make a long story short, for the first time in my life I received that dreaded speeding ticket!

As I was driving home, I wondered why I had never seen a policeman on that road before, and what had changed that day? As I said earlier, I had traveled down that road a million times, but never once noticed a policeman, or even saw anyone pulled over.

As I was thinking about it, the only thing that changed was my freedom. Usually when I am on that road, it’s full of other travelers – doing errands on weekends, at lunchtime, etc, I never thought about the speed limit before, because I never got up enough speed to even be concerned about it with so many others on the road. On that day, I was driving at a time when I am usually not out, and even though the road and the surroundings looked the same, they were, in reality, completely different than usual.

I guess what I’m trying to warn you about is to be careful in your normal surroundings, but even more importantly, when something in your life changes, be especially aware of your surroundings until you get a feel for them. There are small changes that happen thought the day – and things are not always as they seem.

Of course now I found this book on “Proven Tips to Avoid and Fight Speeding Tickets” The Author is a person like me, who wants to prevent others from getting in this sticky situation. And, I found out that it was a good thing that I didn’t cry!

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An occasional hour of gossip with the girls isn’t so bad……or is it?

The first thing to determine is the difference between gossip and healthy “girl” talk. Gossip involves repeating idle talk about other’s private affairs or starting rumours that are intended to harm or criticize the person being talked about. We tend to use this destructive chatter to make us feel better about our positions in life. For some reason, we feel better when someone else is worse off than we are. Girl talk, on the other hand, focuses on more constructive conversation - you may be discussing something going on in another person’s life, but not at their expense.

It can be difficult not to listen to gossip, although listening is just as wrong as speaking. When someone gossips and you listen, the pass is complete whether you meant to catch it or not.

The problem for the person perpetuating the gossip is that although she may seem interesting enough to listen to at the time, she can’t be trusted to build an intimate relationship with. No matter how ‘together’ she may seem, the gossip and criticism she puts out, reveals what’s going on in the inside - negative thinking, anger, hurt, and hatred.

Criticism of other people will eventually spill over into other parts of people’s lives. The more we see wrong in other people, the more critical we become at home and with our more intimate friends and relations. This is because gossip and criticism actually undermine your integrity and ultimately oppress the spirit.

Perform A Reality Check

-Is the conversation destructive or constructive? Once you have determined which, you have the choice to remove yourself from the conversation. The people who are gossiping may take notice and be offended, but in the long run you will win the respect of others. If you really feel that you need to share some information with someone about another person, first think about what your purpose and motive are for sharing it.

-Ask yourself why you are drawn into the gossip ring? Is there a sense of insecurity, self loathing, hurt, fear or anger within yourself that needs healing?

-Choose friends carefully. The special part of friendship is being able to confide in each other during rough times. This is unsafe if your friend is known to gossip.

You will find that your friendships will grow deeper once you shelve gossip and the conversations you share will be more about things you have in common with some substance.

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Would you have ever guessed that a bad decision that you made and you knew it was wrong or bad when you made it, would have ever turned out so right?

Several years ago a friend of mine decided to separate from his spouse because of a difficult marriage. After a year they agreed to give it another try and he moved back in with his spouse.

Several years later the marriage finally ended for good. It was just one of those relationships that was doomed from the beginning but they both of them did their very best to handle their sever differences in outlook, personality and lifestyle.

After the divorce, he met what was to become the first real true love of his life. Their relationship has been filled with harmony, love and every ideal that most married couples dream and hope for.

My point - if he had not moved back in with his spouse, which at the time seemed to be a good decision, that turned very quickly into a bad decision, he would have most likely never met his true soul mate several years later in that very town.

It is unlikely that they would have ever met if he had stayed in the residence where he was when he and his spouse were separated. If they had divorced then he most likely would have never returned to the town where they lived as they lived more than forty miles from each other in a metropolitan area of more than two million people.

There are several ways to interpret or view this combination of circumstances and events.

One is that if they had never separated in the first place none of the succeeding events would have taken place.

Another is if he had not moved back in with his spouse there was still no guarantee that he would have met his soul mate after they divorced.

There are unlimited ways to evaluate and consider the consequences of every decision we make. The key thing to remember is that no one knows what the future holds. No one knows in advance how their decisions will turn out. No one knows what options they might have tomorrow or next year. If they did we would not have the significant divorce, bankruptcy and substance abuse problems that we do today in society.

Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind, 81 Challenges Managers Face and Your First Year In Sales. He is also the CEO of Sales Clubs Of America. He can be reached at mailto:tim@timconnor.com tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his websites at timconnor.com timconnor.com or SalesClubsOfAmerica.com SalesClubsOfAmerica.com