Self Improvement Information

Molecular Energy Strings


Strange as it may seem; it is actually very simple to experience the power and influence of Molecular Energy Strings. You may find the experience that you are about to have more comfortable if you carry out the demo in an environment in which you feel very comfortable and secure. Rest assured however that this is an extremely safe and harmless exercise, we’ll simply become aware of the strings that surround us at all times. Most moderately sensitive people can accomplish this demonstration easily.

Let’s begin:


-You are in a comfortable and safe place, maybe its your home or the home of your partner, maybe somewhere else

-You can feel the sensations of the chair in which you are sitting, your buttocks against the surface of the seat, maybe it’s soft and yields to the shape of your body

-Maybe the air temperature is just right, maybe it’s a little warm, maybe not, make a note of it

-Now you want to stand up, do not turn at this stage, simply remain facing the screen

-People usually feel a prickling sensation at this stage, that’s normal but don’t worry if you don’t yet.

-Maybe you just need to alter the position of you monitor

-We’re now going to tune you in

-Everyone has a fine covering of soft downy hairs across the top of their shoulders and running down into the small of their back. You can probably feel these right now. These are your very own energy antennae, incredibly sensitive and in most people usually asleep

-Nature’s energy strings are typically well aligned, let’s find out which way they run in your home (this is sometimes called ‘Feng Shui’)

-Feel the electricity across your shoulders, give it a mark out of ten, 1 for low and 10 for extreme

-Now close your eyes, don’t move yet. (most perceptive people experience a jump of 1 point simply by closing their eyes!)

-Now turn very slowly and concentrate on that feeling of electricity across your shoulders. Feel how it changes in intensity and adjust the level in your mind as you turn. You are in fact tuning your physiological molecular energy strings to those of the Earth.

-Find the peak, the point of maximum intensity, you may find that up to three complete turns are necessary to find that ’sweet spot’

-Make a mental note of the position and intensity of the spot (some people make a mark on the wall)

-Repeat the exercise, if you’re remotely sensitive you’ll find the same spot and the same intensity

You’ve tuned in! Many people find their homes are aligned with the molecular energy string, that’s not co-incidental!

That’s it, you’re all done. This is a very straightforward and yet extremely clear demonstration of Molecular Energy Strings. Now that you’re familiar with this technique you might want to experiment with it in different places. See how the MES’s vary. This is a harmless exercise, you might not feel that you can share it with your friends but it’s really very easy to do so.

Aklan is the conduit to the hidden past. More information at monkeyism.com monkeyism.com or email mailto:aklan@monkeyism.com aklan@monkeyism.com

I once saw an advertisement targeting guys from a big online dating website that read like this: “Never walk across the bar to talk to a snob again - www.NeedyMatch.com” If that advertisement appeals to you, and you’re a guy, and you’re not willing address the issue of why that advertisement appeals to you, delete your profile from It’s Just Coffee. There is a plethora of witty, attractive women on my website, and the last thing I need is you scaring one by being overly rattled, intimidated, and nervous, when you meet face to face. And your affinity for that advertisement conveys you’re probably to too afraid of rejection, overly needy, mad at your mom, and mad at Tim, the evil step dad, for whipping you with a belt at age nine because you lied about doing your homework.

1. Always Talk to Strangers:
Always strive to be skilled at Offline Dating, and approach women in public you are attracted to. It behooves you (and me) tenfold to cold approach that women standing in the dairy section at the supermarket, in the Astrology section at the bookstore, or in the post office on Saturday morning: To approach pretty much anywhere save for a parking lot or gas station.

Remember that episode of Happy Days (set in the 1950s) where The Fonz taught Richie how to pick up women at the supermarket? The Fonz’s technique was to smash his shopping cart into the woman’s shopping cart, and from there it was on. When Richie tried this approach it didn’t work. His face turned red. His voice became shaky. And he could not hold eye contact. So what did Richie do? He gave up and turned to online dating, sent badly crafted messages, creeped out the smart girls, emasculated himself, and turned into a stalker.

If you’re like Richie, it behooves you to practice approaching because by taking action you’re overcoming your fear of rejection; and most likely confronting core feelings of fear and shame (I read this on the Internet so it’s got to be true). Thusly, by taking action, approaching, and confronting core issues, you will auto-adopt and internalize the aura of a confident alluring man with options. This happens regardless of the response from the person you approached. When you take action you’re intrinsically rewarded no matter what. In other words, even if she responds with “Thanks, but I have to go rearrange my socks” you’re still rewarded with momentum and confidence from taking action. Then, that newfound momentum and confidence exudes from you and is noticed by other prospects in the vicinity - Guaranteed.

The confidence and momentum you earn from approaching is also noticed by the women you meet on itsjustcoffee.com” target=”_blank It’s Just Coffee. Hence, it behooves me to encourage you to improve your ability to approach and offline date, because you’ll become like the Fonz, James Bond, or Terry Geezer Butler from Black Sabbath. As a result my site will remain fun for women.
The women on my website will be meeting men of abundance in the dating department. Men with abundance in the dating department have standards, options, and know how to manage their fears. Men with standards, options, and in control of their fears are not needy and often attractive to many women.

The Obligatory Introvert Excuse
No more excuses about how you can’t meet strangers because you’re an introvert. That excuse is often nothing more than that - an excuse for fear of rejection. Introversion and fear of rejection are two different beasts. The former is artsy, mysterious, and hip. The latter is more about too much need for others’ approval. You can stay your introverted self. Just be you. You don’t have to be the overly extroverted alpha party guy, or the overly alpha jerkish frat guy that still thinks Smash Mouth is cool, to be successful at talking to strangers and offline dating.
Just take action. By taking action you are gaining momentum and confidence, and that is the same as tapping into your extroverted side. If you read this far I am confident you can do it, and still stay YOU.

You’re not being yourself if you’re not present. And you’re not present when you strongly fear rejection. Repetitive approaching will desensitize fear of rejection and bring out elements of your true self you forgot about. I know you can take action. Do it for the Fonz, Do it for Geezer from Black Sabbath. And, do it for the witty gorgeous blonde from Santa Monica that just joined It’s Just Coffee yesterday. Just be ready. Because she’ll look you in the eyes and know if you’re not ready. And if you’re not ready she’ll be glad it’s just coffee and leave in under twenty minutes. But if you are ready - from challenging yourself and growing - your chance of connecting is favorable.

2. Getting Started (If you are like Richie from Happy Days)
Does the following still happen to you. It occasionally still happens to me, but now I love it: You’re alone when you see her looking at cereal in the supermarket. You look twice, she’s nicely dressed, and you think I’m going to meet her. In fact you just committed to meeting her in your head. But now your heart speeds up. Your face gets warm and flush. Your breath gets short. Your stomach feels fuzzy and your shoulders are stiff. Your legs get stiffer and it feels like you’re walking funny. You feel like Al Gore. You think “What will I say - ‘Um, hi, do you like Fruit Loops?’”. With no mutual friends to introduce you to her, no social proof and no shared experience to start bonding about - save for the possibility of a situation in the environment you may be able to leverage; e.g. “Did you see those two girls fist fighting outside?” - will you be able to walk up and say “Hi-”? Can you start a conversation with her in a way that conveys you have standards beyond “she likes me.” and convey you’re courageous, witty, and considerate? Or will you talk yourself out of approaching: “I’m not feeling it”, “She’ll think I’m a player”, “She likes raisin bran, gross”, “I’m in a hurry to get back on the computer and set up a date,” et al.

Now there is a plethora of information on overcoming anxiety: Even approach anxiety. There is Neuro Linguistic Programming, anti-depressants for social anxiety, and the semi-creepy/semi-manipulative seduction communities mentioned in The Game by Neil Strauss.

Tony Robbins suggests pretending you’re wearing a cape, like superman. I’d like to upstage Robbins and suggest that you add a football helmet and boxer shorts to the cape outfit. This will put a natural smile on your face that will allure women and peak their curiousity.

There is only one cure for fear, and that is action towards it, perhaps just beyond the edge of comfort. Baby steps if you will. If getting her phone number or having an insta-date (coffee on the spot) is too much for you at this time, take action to desensitize yourself by doing this: Say; “How is your day going?” to every retail clerk you see from now on. Especially the clerks you find attractive. They can’t run, they’re paid to talk to you, and you can quickly exit the interaction. From there build to up to approaching women and giving them sincere compliments and quickly exiting. After they blush and say “Thank you”, you say “You’re welcome” then split. If your compliment is sincere you’ll make their days most of the time, and you’ll feel like James Bond. If you’re still pretending you’re wearing a cape, football helmet, and boxer shorts, exit as if you are flying away with one arm pointed straight up.

Do this regularly and in a few months you’ll be striking up situational conversations with everyone in a natural way, getting dates offline, and the phrase ‘out of my league’ will go back to being the fable that it truly is. The goal is to slowly desensitize yourself from fear of rejection and internalize that the only failure is inaction - every approach is a success. Internalize this and you’ll open up a new chapter in your life - the chapter of dating abundance. Once that chapter opens It’s Just Coffee will be exactly what it should be: entertaining, fun, insightful - and only one of MANY places you can meet quality people you find alluring, authentic, and smart. Ultimately, women will come back to It’s Just Coffee’s personals between relationships because they know the guys here rock. Perhaps one day I can then quit my day job and type these articles from my dream home that faces north just off Pacific Coast Highway overlooking the ocean in Southern California.

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Dear Men of the World,

I have a confession to make:

While I consider myself to be the ultimate motorbike-riding, gym-owning, shaved head, big-bicepped (made that word up) Alpha Male Warrior, I have, on several occasions (okay, many) been known to experience…. fear (please keep this between us as I wouldn’t want the girls to find out and possibly think I’m weak… or worse, human).

And while I’m getting things off my chest, I’ve got a few other confessions:

I’ve been wr..wr..wr… wrong (there, I said it)… on numerous occasions.
Hard to believe, I know.

I’ve cried… and not because a bug flew in my eye or I was cutting onions (I know you’re losing respect for me by the minute).

I’ve expressed my emotions to another human being (crazy I know).

I’ve had a conversation with another male about relationships and feelings (surprisingly, neither of us spontaneously combusted).

Anyway, I thought I’d drop you all a line because it has come to my attention that there exists wide-spread confusion about (1) the role of the male of the species and (2) acceptable and expected behaviour of the male… and who better to clarify such issues for all mankind than the ex-fat kid who cries through chick flicks.

Unlike the DVD player or the microwave oven, it seems that we blokes come with neither an instruction manual, or any form of warranty.
Sure, there have been a few ‘how-to’ guides for men… but take a look around, they’re clearly not having the desired impact; maybe only the girls are reading them!

And not unlike other ‘household appliances’, we have so many ‘features’ and capabilities that we never even test drive… or know how to use (the sympathy, the apology and the humility capabilities, just to name a few).
Most of us are kind of like those mobile (cell) phones with two thousand features… but all we do is make and receive calls… ’cause we have absolutely no clues how to use the thing properly!

My extensive(!) research tells me that some of the younger males of the species have been receiving mixed messages and lessons from the elder males of the tribe who are often confused, uneducated, emotionally dysfunctional, sick puppies themselves.
And with role models and mentors such as these, what hope is there for our future Alpha Males to be well-balanced, emotionally healthy, loving, caring men?
Assets to society?

When Junior ‘learns’ from his father that it’s okay to scream at mum(mom) he receives a (bad) lesson in human behaviour, relationships and being a husband.
And when he gets taught that same lesson over and over for years it makes sense that eventually he embraces dear old dad’s mentality and communication style… and so the dysfunction, the destruction and the pain continue.

While I’m still a work in progress, it has been my pleasure to consult with thousands of blokes over the years working through all kinds of issues ranging from lowering body-fat, to learning to deal with criticism, to learning to become a more effective communicator, to learning to cope with and overcome all types of fears.

There’s not a bloke on the planet who doesn’t experience fear… but for some strange reason we men seem compelled to regularly demonstrate how fearless we are.
I’ve even heard men brag how they are…. afraid of nothing.

“Mate, nothing scares me.”

Always remember this wise old proverb:

“Show me someone who has no fear.. and I’ll show you an idiot.” (C.Harper, 2007)

Well… all ‘wise old proverbs’…. have to be new proverbs at some stage.

No, we don’t want to be controlled by fear but there are times when fear is ‘normal’ (even sensible) and it’s okay to acknowledge that fear… and no, that acknowledgement does not put our manliness into question.
Clearly some men confuse stupidity with bravery or toughness.

Just watch Jackass Two.

And now we have young men all across the world demonstrating how effectively they can mimic their Jackass heroes by putting themselves through massive physical pain and mutilating themselves in front of their buddies… to be just like their famous role models.

So clever.
And fearless.
We are a society which teaches and condones stupidity.

“Hey don’t ask me about my anger issues or my fears or insecurities… but watch me put this massive fishing hook through my cheek and watch me shoot this rocket out of my ass.”

If only I wasn’t telling the truth, it would be amusing.
Sadly, it is true and it is tragic.

Okay, so we’re not going to ‘fix’ this issue with one small article (post) but I thought we could start with some simple guidelines of acceptable and unacceptable ‘bloke behaviour’.

Here we go:

1. Crying - good, healthy even. If you’re crying all day, every day; not good.

2. Punching people who disagree with you - not good (as a rule).

3. Being scared occasionally - normal, healthy.

4. Abusing people in traffic (although not only a male behaviour) - not good.. and not surprisingly, achieves nothing but stress.

5. Threatening people - stupid, immature, unnecessary… actually a sign of weakness.

6. Admitting you don’t know something - very good.
While a rarity in testosterone land, it actually shows a sign of confidence, maturity and good self esteem. Give it a go… it’s liberating.

7. A compulsion to show people how physically strong, athletic, co-ordinated and tough you are - pathetic and embarrassing.

8. Admitting you are wrong - good.
Don’t rationalise it, justify it or explain it… just go the humility route and say “I am wrong, sorry.”
End of story.
Simple, but rare.
When we admit that we are wrong but then endeavour to justify it… we ruin the moment.

9. Holding a conversation about something other than sport - good.
If you can actually incorporate some dialogue about your feelings and emotions, even better. If the conversation lasts for more than three minutes and you are completely honest; bonus points.

10. Reading the paper while your partner pours out her heart to you - not good. Stupid, in fact.
Potentially dangerous.

11. Man hugging. Good. Healthy to a point.
Personally not a fan of excessive whisker on whisker contact…. but overall it shows a certain level of emotional maturity. Many blokes will run into a burning building to save their buddy but never tell the same buddy how they feel about him or demonstrate any affection.
“Don’t be stupid Craig, he just knows.”

12. Farting - good. Healthy. Hilarious.
Doesn’t matter how old you are; farts are always funny.
(Didn’t expect that did you girls… and by the way, why are you reading this; it’s for us blokes!)

Craig Harper (B.Ex.Sci.) is an Australian motivational speaker, qualified exercise scientist, author, columnist, radio presenter, and owner of one of the largest personal training centres in the world.

He can be heard weekly on Australian Radio SEN 1116 and GOLD FM and appears on Australian television on Network Ten’s 9AM.

craigharper.com.au/ Motivational Speaker - Craig Harper

Many organisations have an oddball character who sits in the corner of the office and does things in their own unique way. These people may very well be the cleverest and most valuable people in the company. You of course would dispute that wouldn’t you?

So how does your organisation work? Of course, you are the star and the place simply could not function without you. In your inner circle are a few highly driven and well motivated individuals who carry the whole business along. Some of your colleagues do an ok job, some are plainly not motivated and a waste of space and then there are the oddballs, the nutters who dress differently, crochet incessantly and go on caravanning holidays. What do they do apart from create endless piles of paper and tap on their calculators all day?

Just because these people use methods different from yours, it does not mean they are wrong. There ways of solving problems could be more effective than yours. What if they actually were doing a better job than you?

Jerry Sternin, former dean of Harvard Business School has labelled these people as positive deviants (PDs) and the process by which their activities are brought from the fringes of a group into the mainstream is termed positive deviance.

Sternin, has many case studies and examples of these types but his principle is that PDs should be used to change the behaviour of their peers so that improved practices are taken on and owned by the wider group, by a proves he calls ‘making the group the guru’. This is more effective than simply calling in outside experts and blindly following their instructions.

The beauty of this method is that it works in social as well as business environments. To see of you have a positive deviant in your office that can help you solve a particular problem, use Sternin’s 4 Ds:

Define the problem that you wish to solve.e.g. salesmen are not selling enough widgetsDetermine if there are any deviants who exhibit the required behaviour e.g salesmen who are outselling their peersDiscover what uncommon practices or strategies these people use to succeed e.g. less sales visits but explaining the marvels of widgets to customersDesign an intervention that would enable others in the group to grasp the positive deviant behaviour e.g. allow salesmen to shadow deviants or get deviants to demonstrate their methodsNote this is not dissimilar to spreading best practice, the one huge difference is that positive deviance is not imposed from outside.

Derek Cheshire is an expert, speaker, consultant and facilitator in the areas of Business Creativity, Innovation and Idea Generation. He is creator of the Innovation Toolkit, and co creator of workshops such as Creating The Difference, Creativity as a Business Tool, Sticky Strategy and The Idea Factory.

You can receive regular ideas and updates on Business Creativity and Innovation by visiting creative4business.co.uk creative4business.co.uk and filling out the simple sign up form.

If you are working on your dreams, you might be just one
ingredient away from unlocking and unleashing your destiny.

You might be one ingredient away from living your dreams.

You might be one ingredient away from becoming a Millionaire or
Multi-Millionaire or even a Billionaire.

This one ingredient often means the difference between taking
decades to reach your goals or speeding up the pace of
advancement to a matter of weeks or even days.

That one ingredient is a Mentor.

There are seeds of greatness within you right now, but sometimes
it takes the assistance of a Mentor to help them flourish.

I have been blessed to have had many types of mentors throughout
my life, from teachers in grade school, to youth service workers
in my community, to business people who saw something in me and
encouraged me or offered to guide me.

I lived in the same impoverished ghetto as people who went on to
join gangs, drop out of school, become addicted to drugs, and
many of them are no longer with us. They made different choices.
Those people had the same potential within them that I did. But I
had mentors to look up to.

I made a decision as a youth, to search out positive Mentors.
Not just as a one time thing, but as a lifelong mission. And
even though I have gone on to success in mentoring thousands of
people, I still Mentor others and I still seek out Mentors.

When mentors appeared, I embraced them and studied them. I read
what they told me to read, I went where they told me to go and I
did what they told me to do.

Sam Walton said, “Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the
self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves,
it’s amazing what they can accomplish.”

What makes a great Mentor?

A great Mentor sees more potential in you than you do in
yourself.

A great Mentor can show you the way and point out things you
might not otherwise see or be aware of. Sometimes weaknesses,
sometimes strengths, sometimes patterns that you unconsciously
practice that hold you back.

A great Mentor believes in you.

A great Mentor inspires you.

A great Mentor knows that the same seeds of greatness that are
inside them are inside you too.

A great Mentor cultivates and nourishes those seeds, they help
you grow.

A great Mentor helps you bridge the gap from where you are now
to where you want to be.

A great Mentor Coaches you to breakthrough your limiting
beliefs.

A great Mentor convinces you to believe you can achieve what
others deem impossible.

A great Mentor brings out the best in you.

Great Mentors do all of this and so much more…

I have been invited to be a part of an amazing new movement to
bring you some of the greatest Mentors of our lifetime. It is
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Do you have the energy to sustain work life balance or do you sometimes suspect that if your dreams came true you would be too tired or scattered to sustain them?

Work life balance is essential if we are to be effective. Without work life balance, we may leak our energy and resources and lose focus. We leak energy to unimportant activities or unconscious commitments as a result of not having focused intentions and make considered choices. The simple (if not easy) solution is to call our energy home by returning to a work life balance that will support our values and intentions.

Use this energy inventory to assess the quality of your work life balance. Call your energy home by noticing where you are gaining or losing energy. Simply notice without judgment, holding yourself whole, competent, and resourceful to redirect your energy when you choose to do so.

Unfinished Business

Are my bank accounts balanced and all transactions current?
Do I have unresolved conflicts with a friend or family member?
Do I have unresolved conflicts with someone at work?
Am I behind on my debts? Do I know exactly what I owe and to whom?
Do I have an overdue assignment?

Do I have incomplete projects at home? at work? in my community?
Is there a phone call or letter that I have delayed answering?

Physical Environment

Does my household environment express and support my intentions?
Does my work environment express and support my intentions?
Is my car (bike) clean and in good repair?
Is my equipment in good repair?
Are there chores that I have been putting off?

Support Systems

Do I give and receive energy with my family in a healthy way?
Do I give and receive energy in friendship in a healthy way?
Am I giving and receiving energy in a healthy way with my spouse/partner?
Do I know where to get help and do I ask for help when I need it?

Physical Health

Have I been putting off a physical or other health care service?
Do I sustain my energy and well being with exercise?
Do I eat in a way that supports a stable and high level of energy?
Do I get enough sleep?

Mental/Emotional/Spiritual Health

Do I own an apology?
Is there someone I need to forgive?
Do I practice a form of prayer or meditation that centers and renews me?

Am I learning something new?
Am I interested and engaged in my work?

Once you have identified your energy leaks, you will begin to recognize ways to close them and regain work life balance. Each time you close an energy leak you become more focused, clear, and balanced. Be patient, be honest, and you will soon develop the momentum to live your life in a more satisfying manner.

Molly Gordon, MCC, is a leading figure in mollygordon.com/ business coaching and personal growth coaching, writer, and a frequent presenter at live and virtual events worldwide. Join 12,000 readers of her Authentic Promotion® ezine, and receive a free 31-page guide on authenticpromotion.com/ self promotion. While on the site, read Molly’s authenticpromotion.com/work-life-balance/index.html articles on work life balance to find ways to become more vibrant, more authentic, more engaged in your life as well as your work, effortlessly attracting business.

As promised in Chapter Two of Rascal’s Spiritual Life Series, “I will write Michael’s story in Mestory – History Chapter Three Rascal’s Spiritual Life Series, this is a little about my Earth Angel friend, Michael. It is by no means Michael’s complete story.

That, like the stories of each of us Earth Angels who have accepted our call to be a part of ‘A Rainbow Reminder’ deliverance mission, is being recorded in The Lord Commander’s Books of Lives. Our full stories are only just beginning. Michael’s story that he will more fully elaborate in his own words and which I will post in the “Confirmed Earth Angels” section of one of my websites, MilesBooks.com, will follow this next brief recap for those who are new.

As fully elaborated in Chapter One of this series, I arrived on this planet “The child of a promise” – thanks to my mother – who had promised God that she would never again have an abortion. It wasn’t a matter of whether abortions were legal or not. This was 1947. In the United States, at that time, all abortions were illegal! Even if it meant a divorce from the husband whom she loved, who had insisted that his wife do again – as he had another time demanded – mother believed that her promise to “The Almighty” was more binding than the marital promise she had made to “Obey” her husband.

I’ll also repeat that the name of this series of articles is Mestory – History because it is about me, Rascal. Yet it is His, God’s, story. All recorded writings and oral traditions involving His created beings on this planet, Earth, are rightfully classified as History. I suspect the person who first coined the word, History, had the revelation of this fact in so selecting this name which is normally used in reference to records involving earlier events, activities, and in the lives of His people here. I am but thankful that my name is recorded in His “Book Of Life.”

Now in 2006, that same “Supreme Being” has instructed me to write this series of ezine articles to laying the foundation as to by whom and/or what authority I speak. Fortunately, as they did with Moses, my words of introduction come from God by which to establish credibility. He is “The Creator” of all words and the words that He has me use contain within themselves the power to achieve His directive.

Joshua 3:7: The LORD told Joshua, “Beginning today I will show the people that you are their leader, and they will know that I am helping you as I helped Moses.

Michael was the leader of a motorcycle gang in Chicago, IL. His was the power of “Thumbs up & Thumbs down.” Some would say that Michael was a “Bad person.” Those would most likely include those who knew him at that time in his life. At least, those who are still alive would concur.

In 1981, Michael had hopped a train which ended up taking him to Eugene, OR. After beating another “Boxcar Billy” unconscious, he dragged the not tough enough roughen onto a train track to allow an engine to finish the dirty work. Fortunately, for both Michael and his foe, the police arrived before a train. The not so tough adversary was removed to a hospital and Michael was taken to jail.

A Gideon Bible representative visited Michael in the Lane County lock-up facility. He was given a Bible like those you find in so many hotel/motel rooms. The Lord, or His Holy Spirit, moved on Michael’s heart and reminded him of what he had been exposed too as a child. Michael gave his hurting heart and wasted life over to The Lord.

After spending some time – several years in fact – in Oregon, helping youth as a youth minister in a camp and writing a book, Love Violated, Michael returned to the Chicago area where he had formerly lived a much different life. He was sharing The Lord with former biker friends. He no longer wore a “Patch.” In Oshkosh, WI, – about 69 miles from Chicago – Michael and a former biker buddy came out of a bar together to be confronted by twelve members of his friend’s rival motorcycle gang.

With a 2½ in. galvanized pipe, much like those used in parking meters, both Michael and his friend were beaten lifeless. The pipe used was 12 ft. long. One of the ladies carved up Michael’s calf when he was no longer a threat and had stopped writhing.

This was in 1989. The local newspapers and radio station reported: “Two Men were found beaten to death.” The reporters cited Michael Kempf’s name. The stories said, “The men had no visible signs of life” when taken away by ambulance as ordered by police who arrived at the scene.

Michael’s friend was discharged from the hospital – with a reformed face – the next week. Michael spent the next 21 days in that hospital and was then transferred to a mental facility. He would spend a much longer time there.

Michael would once again be convicted of a crime, which, in this case, he might well have been innocent. On furlough, he walked away. When I met Michael, we were both living in Vancouver, WA. He was married and very much involved in opposing the death penalty.

What a beautifully illustrated man, I thought. His fabulous tattoos were not where they couldn’t be covered. It made it less distracting for other church attendees – many of whom believed that people who had “Tats” were going to hell. Other than domestic disputes, Michael was a law-abiding citizen – although a wanted man in Wisconsin.

One day, Michael told me, “I’m going back to turn myself in.” He did, serving out the remainder of his sentence a model prisoner. Then, he returned to Vancouver. I lost track of Michael because I was dealing with some of my own issues including the dread disease for which I am now “Cured”, MS (Multiple Sclerosis), relocating to AZ, and only God remembers what else. Michael opened and operated a successful tattoo parlor, participated in the establishment of a halfway house, and I was never able to find him until last week.

Does Michael have any problems? You bet! The same Lord that we both serve has told me to air a little about one of them. I am confident that Michael will not mind as the same God calls Rascal too. ” Luke 12:3 So then, whatever you have said in the dark will be heard in broad daylight, and whatever you have whispered in private in a closed room will be shouted from the housetops.” Such is part of my assignment.

Michael still has some issues to resolve. The one that I will mention involves his still wife with whom he was involved in domestic violence. Michael will be led of The Lord to properly remake or remade the situation. See, Earth Angels aren’t perfect. No, we are yet being molded and reshaped by our Master Potter. He knows us and continues to provide the stimulus that He knows that we – as “His Dearly Beloved” – need.

Can Michael function as an Earth Angel while resolving his own issues? Absolutely! His remarkable loving heart, vast knowledge of both “The world” and “Our Lord’s Word” uniquely qualifies Michael to provide sound direction to those who are led to ‘A Rainbow Reminder’ cyber deliverance vessel for help in the areas of health, financial shortages, serious other problems in need of resolution, and spiritual growth.

I am honored to co-captain ‘A Rainbow Reminder’ deliverance vessel with Earth Angel, Michael John Kempf. Michael can provide magnificent insight to “His Chosen” – both earth-bound visitors and those who have become so heavenly minded that they risk becoming of no earthly good.

~Rubit “as the Earth~Angel Rainbow Riders appear”~

Rascal :))

RASCAL RUSS MILES IS AN APOSTLE. Chosen by The Lord, in the Apostolic Order of Apostle, Paul, Rascal says, “I Am The Lord’s Playfully Mischievous Apostle.” Expert in Scriptural understanding, Rascal’s mission includes the assignment to “Shout from the rooftops the Lord’s Inspired Messages via Ezine aArticles, Cyber-Space, Books, Mailings To ‘My Good Buddy’s List’,and Many Other means.”

Under his pseudonym, Russ Miles, Rascal’s credits include mystery novel, For Sale By Owners:FSBO. 1-800-AUTHORS or B&N, & Amazon

“Seasoned Real Estate NAR Broker,” Rascal Russ became increasingly disabled by “Incurable” Multiple Sclerosis over 5-years. Now “Cured”, Rascal offers nutritional health products, healing prayers, writes books & articles on varied subjects. Comments: Rascal.Miles@Gmail.com.

Via “The Feast” Sanitarian Jesus4You.ws Jesus4You.ws, “Rascal’s Blog”, & his ezine articles themselves, Rascal maintains personal contact with those that e-mail him, and those whom he believes the God of this Universe has joined together with him as per “Destiny’s Plan Of Salvation For The Planet Earth.”

My biggest achievement and the happiest day of my life!

One morning not really knowing why, I felt the need to find out more about my roots and my ancestors. To my surprise, once I started asking around, all I could uncover was my family name and little or no history regarding my ancestry. Before I knew what I was getting into, I was meeting relatives that I didn’t even know existed, asking them questions about my great-grandfather, the late Salvatore Santoro. Nobody knew when he emigrated to Brazil or where he first arrived.

One thing I found to be common among European families is that if something went wrong with a family member, such as a husband committing adultery and after years of heated arguments and endless attempts mostly by the wife and the rest of the family to keep things together, separation eventually would follow and anything to do with that family member would be erased. For example, he would be cut out of any picture he was in, especially the wedding photos. Then came pictures by himself, which would be burned along with any documents left behind and very, very rarely talked about again. I may have encountered a little more difficulty because of similar circumstances, but that was not the main reason. Somehow, along the years due to the young age of my ancestors when they first entered South America (Argentina more precisely and Brazil by land afterwards), things were lost and names were changed.

To make a long story short, after five exciting years of research through the archives of churches and registry offices in Sao Paulo, Brazil and Catanzaro, Italy, and many, many phone calls and letters sent all over to anyone who could give me even the smallest clue about the town where and when my great-grandfather was born; I came up with an idea that proved to be infallible. I started criss-crossing the names of Salvatore’s father and his mother’s maiden name (in a current telephone directory of the Italian villages back in Catanzaro, Calabria), therefore leading me to believe that if both names were found in the same town, there was a chance that the couple was probably married there and undoubtedly had their children baptized in that community’s church - and BINGO!, that’s exactly how I found my great-grandfather’s date and place of birth. Believe it or not I came up with sixty small towns which beared both names. I wrote to those sixty community churches in Italy and when the replies started coming back, the ninth contained my great-grandfather’s certificate of baptism. It turns out he was born in the town of Umbriatico, province of Crotone/Catanzaro, region of Calabria, Italy, on November 25th, 1859. To give you an idea of what I felt that morning, picture yourself winning a 10 million dollar lottery all by yourself! It was truly amazing that after all the years of research, a trip to Italy in 1995 for a month to do further research, would uncover all the secrets which were hiding the true identity of my ancestry.

You maybe asking why I’m telling this story, it’s because I needed that document to be able to claim my Italian citizenship, and in doing so, be truly proud of my heritage! I would also like to mention that I am interested in hearing your stories and especially hearing from other Italians who are currently searching for their ancestors. I would be happy to provide any tips or useful information which I have accumulated over the past six years. Arrivederci!

Brazilian by birth, Italian by ancestry and Canadian by choice! I currently live in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. I’m also a professional model and an aspiring actor. I have appeared in more than twelve national television campaigns as well as countless editorial publications. I am always open to new ideas, either locally or abroad which will enhance my experience as an individual. I welcome anyone to contact me through my e-mail address in order to discuss any possibilities.

Ever been in a meeting with something important to say and remained silent? You may have felt the flush of the good idea and the rising adrenalin. You may have moved to the front of your seat and readied your body to speak…and then didn’t. What stopped you?

Certainly there is wisdom in knowing when to speak and when not to. Knowing the politics of a situation or the time constraints, you may choose not to speak. Often, though, you may have a unique view, perspective, issue or concern that needs to be raised. That contribution would add a new dimension to the discussion or change the decision about to be made.

You may feel strongly about a new policy and your silence allows folks to think you agree. Is that the message you wish to send?

Recently I was involved in the creation of a new management team for a department of a public sector organization. This brought together four people who previously had felt that they were in a ‘pecking order’ and changed them into a cohesive decision-making team. Two of the four have strong opinions and are very comfortable expressing them. Two are very quiet. In forming the team, we discussed this dynamic. How are we each going to best contribute to the team? We talked about the possibility that the talkative two could overpower the silent two. In fact, they might even do the talking for them! Focusing on the fact that each person was hired because he or she is an expert in a distinct field, it was soon decided that each person’s opinion was vital to good decision-making.

The two who are quiet are very competent as are the others. Increasing their level of comfort with adding their voices to the group was important. Two things were agreed upon: every person would speak on every issue and each person would take responsibility for doing so. One of the natural ‘talkers’ offered to ask the quiet two for their opinions. This seems like a good idea on the surface, however, as a rule, it is a poor idea.

Why is it a poor idea? Simple. If one person takes responsibility for the contributions of others there are two new kinds of control being encouraged. The ‘talker’ has control over when the others are asked for their opinions. The ’silent’ could be waiting to be asked making their contribution the ‘talkers’ responsibility. Neither of these options are optimal.

The important piece is that each person understands that he or she was hired to contribute his or her expertise and experience to the team. It is the responsibility of the individual to contribute. For the talkers that is easy. In fact, it is enjoyable. For the quiet folks, two things seemed to be true. One of them only felt it necessary to contribute if she disagreed with the direction of the conversation. The other is very shy. What to do?

With some individual coaching for each team member, each began to monitor involvement in the meetings. For those for whom it was difficult, they undertook to at least say when they agreed or disagreed. For those for whom it was easy, they undertook to leave some airtime free. Often, it is a challenge to find a quiet moment to summon up the gumption to speak!

When you have something you feel is important to contribute to a meeting, formulate your thoughts, take a deep breath and jump in. Nothing life-threatening will happen. It’s a little like learning to swim. The first few times you may get a mouthful of water and sputter a little. You may find yourself gasping for air. You may flail around a little, but, with practice, things even out and you make progress. Yes, it may feel awkward. Yes, you may discount the importance of what you have to say before you say it. But, jump in. You are there to offer your skills and learning. It is your responsibility.

A tip or two about handling those who only value the sound of their own voices may be in order. They have to take a breath sometime. Be ready to step in and take that opportunity.

AGREE WITH THEM. Beginning with ‘I agree with _________ part of your opinion…” and go on to offer your thoughts. Being agreed with, even in part, will encourage them to listen to you.

USE POSITIVE LANGUAGE. Tell folks what you think would be best and why rather than telling them what is wrong with their ideas. Again, you may capture their attention.

HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOUR IDEAS. Work within yourself to clarify your thoughts prior to the meeting. You may even make some notes. Being prepared will make it more likely that you will have some energy behind your points of view and, therefore, be more likely to express them.

BE BRIEF AND SPECIFIC. This is a great tip for everyone at the meeting. Stay on the topic and the point. Give your thoughts and reasons in short sentences, then stop and let others respond. This is the way business gets done! Who wants interminable meetings?

Speak up! You have the right and responsibility to do so.

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45 year old John terrorized his family when they were his passengers. He would yell at them if they complained about his driving.

He would ignore them when they showed signs of discomfort and even seemed to enjoy scaring his passengers with his maneuvers such as tailgating, weaving in and out of traffic, passing other cars dangerously, and pulling too far into crosswalks so pedestrians are unable to safely cross the street. John would show aggression in other ways too — like insisting on choosing the radio station, controlling the volume of the radio, and controlling the temperature, the fan setting and where the vents are aimed while driving. He refused to stop for restroom breaks on long trips.

John was anything but “passengerfriendly” yet he did not see himself as the problem. Statistics show that while 70% of drivers complain about the aggressiveness of others, only 30% admit to their own aggressiveness. John saw other drivers as “stupid, ” his family/passengers as “whiney,” and the roadway as his personal terrain. Unfortunately, we all pay the price for this kind of distorted thinking.

High Cost of Aggressive Driving

According to recent statistics, aggressive driving is at the core of numerous fatalities, injuries and dollar costs associated with accidents. More specifically, it is linked to:

Fatalities (425,000 per decade)
Injuries (35 million per decade)
Dollars (250 billion per year)

The cost to the emotional well-being of family members is also very high. Often, family members develop a fear of driving with the aggressive driver. While they may not talk about it, passengers may lose esteem, respect and affection toward the driver.

Younger passengers may also be affected later in life by being exposed to this kind of driving behavior. By watching and then modeling their aggressivedriver parent, the child may develop similar attitudes and driving behaviors when he or she becomes a driver.

Driving Under The Influence

At its root, aggressive driving is caused by poor ability to handle angry feelings. The aggressive driver is, in effect, driving under the influence of impaired emotions. Studies list many reasons why driving arouses anger in aggressive drivers.

Some of the most common are:

- Territoriality. The car is a symbol associated with individual freedom and self-esteem. Our car is our castle and the space around it is our territory. When other drivers invade our space the aggressive driver responds with hostility to protect his “castle.”

- Restriction. In congested traffic, you are prevented from going forward. This can lead to frustration, anxiety and an intense desire to escape the restriction.

- Multitasking. We become irritated at others when we see them driving poorly while talking on the cell phone, eating, or performing personal grooming.

- Poor life planning. We don’t allow enough time to get to our destination on a consistent basis so we “press” to make up for the lost time and then become stressed and angry at other drivers who we see as frustrating our mad dash.

What can you do as a passenger?

While aggressive driving behavior ultimately must be changed by the driver himself, the following are some survival tips that may help until that occurs:

1. Refuse to passenger with such a person until he or she changes.

2. Share with driver how you feel when they drive aggressively. For example: I feel anxious about how fast we’re going (instead of “you are driving too fast”); I’m upset about the way you swore at that driver and I am fearful how it will affect our children who heard you; I feel afraid when you approach pedestrians too fast; I feel bullied by you when you won’t stop for a bathroom break.

3. Encourage person to look at their “driving philosophy” and to develop more empathy regarding how others (like the family) are being negatively impacted by his or her poor driving behavior. That is, help him see himself through the eyes of his family.

This honest feedback from loved ones can be a powerful tool to encourage the aggressive driver to become a better citizen of the roadways.

2006 © Dr. Tony Fiore All rights reserved.

Dr Tony Fiore is a licensed psychologist, marital therapist and certified anger management trainer. He is a Fellow of the American Stress Institute and a Diplomate of National Anger Management Association. He has received advanced training in marital therapy at the Gottman Institute in Seattle,Washington. In addition to his active clinical practice, Dr Tony regularly conducts anger management classes in Southern California, consults and provides trainings to companies for anger and stress management, and trains anger management facilitators. He also publishes a monthly newsletter “Taming The Anger Bee.” With Ari Novick, M. A. he has recently published a new workbook/manual: “Anger Management For The Twenty-First Century - The Eight Tools of Anger Control.”