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When you have a situation of any kind whether you like it or don’t like it, the outcomes may differ but being in the human experience it can often look to you like it was all the fault of some external person thing or situation.

Taking responsibility for what seems to come to us then becomes the task. You will understand how to work with each of these situations as one of the 7 Doors, Each a key to Your Personal Power, become known to you as simple tools which when applied will give you a way out of your dilemma

The reward for this is well worth the effort. Changing your attitude from victim to responsibility will change what happens next in your world. If you are willing to look at the significance of repeating patterns you will see the synchronicity of events and situations and once integrated through the action of mind called love and forgiveness the miracle of One is established, and you will become accepting of yourself.

You cannot be separate from anything. You are the creator and the created all at once. The Love of the Universal Mind or Higher Power is in you as you. The negative experiences you have is your souls way of bringing that pattern to the surface or the Light of Consciousness, where you can now use the tools of Forgiveness with your Higher Power

Projection is an unconscious mechanism. You project onto other people parts of yourself that you don’t like or disown. You will usually not identify with the projected quality or characteristic at all. It’s them, not you, you cry!

It is the integration of these aspects of you that creates the whole! Each of the 7 Doors is an opening to this higher consciousness And understanding of yourself as you walk through your world, Each Doorway will give you the opportunity to align with a higher ideal And therefore be able to place your attention on the possibilities of a brand new way to view everything. Wipe the slate clean or reformat your self; these possibilities are yours for the asking.

Margo Knox is a coach in “The Field of All Possibilities”
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When I was a young man, even a teenager for that matter, I always had an optimism that was hard for others to overcome. Even in the midst of the all the negative influences from family and peers, this positive optimism was difficult to beat down. I was powerful, I was lucky, life was magic. I remember it like it was yesterday.

It didn’t matter how many times I was chased home. It didn’t matter how many times the girls bullied me. It didn’t matter how many times my father beat me. It didn’t matter how many times the teachers picked on me. I just knew; This is not it! There is more greatness to come!

When I was kicked out and made to join the military, I wasn’t feeling particularly lucky at that time but I still had that positive attitude. Sure there was grief, and I knew, I just knew that there were still great things to come. I did my military service and got out and that pervasive optimism, while struggling for a while arose and pulled me into the most amazing journey within another set of circumstances that saw many wonderful things happen.

As I remember, my body begins to remember. There is an energy that lives inside the memory, it’s not just the mind. I am lucky. Life is good. Great things will happen. This is exciting. What next? Bring it on. Even when the bad stuff happens, it’s acceptance was easy. “Okay, that’s okay, this will pass and even greater things are coming.” That’s all I had to say. More often than not, these statements have proven true, time and time again.

It’s the power of your mind and body. The power of belief. The power of faith. The power of trusting. It’s inside - not outside. Energize yourself, your body, your mind, keep checknig in, keeping boosting yourself. It’s a game and so is life. There are no winners and losers; just you. Abundance is everywhere, there is plenty of love, money, opportunities, peace, and more to go around! Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change.

I’m writing this today from the memory that has come alive in my body, not just a mind-memory. The outcome has been new friends, new opportunities, new clients, new energy, new aliveness, joy, and happiness. Not just with life - even more - with me, my purpose, my talent and gifts, and the embracing of this knowledge and truth.

If you find yourself strugglnig with those truths of yourself, look at the negative influences that pull you from peace and eliminate them from your life. Better to be alone and soar like an eagle than to be in the company of oppressors and jealousy that robs you of your magic, your inspiration, your value, your purpose, and your life.

A victim no longer, take responsibility for the choices, the people, the actions, that are keeping you prisoner to your fears. Time for freedom, for love, for magic, for purpose and passion. Live out loud! Love freely!

Lee Down is a Professional Coach, Trainer/Facilitator, Speaker, & Writer of onemancan.ca” target=”_new One Man Can Human Capital Development that focuses on relationships, the key foundation to success in business and life. With more than 15 years professional experience and a thirst for truth and understanding, he focuses on the human spirit and human capacity.

Working with clients, he facilitates the breaking down of beliefs, barriers or obstacles that bring clients forward on their journey of discovery with spirit, energy, abundance, passion and purpose, integrating the mind and body experience. Working with business, he brings visionary leadership and relationship skills to the forefront that witnesses an empowered culture evolve and develop directly impacting the improvement to the bottom-line.

What is subconscious mind power? It can be something as simple as automatically smiling when you meet a person, and so improving the odds of getting what you want from that person. It can be the way you unconsciously approach a problem and solve it. Essentially, it is the power that comes from good programming of your mind.

How do you program your mind, so you’ll have more subconscious mind power? Consciously, one step at a time. First, you learn a new technique or “program,” and then you use it consciously until it becomes automatic - an unconscious habit. A couple examples follow.

Use Subconscious Mind Power To Develop Rapport

Speak to someone at the same speed they speak, and they will feel more at ease with you. Mirror their expressions and body position, and they will also feel more comfortable with you. There are dozens of simple techniques like these that salesmen use to develop rapport with customers. They work in all areas of life, though, not just when selling a product.

Of course, you’ll likely get confused if you try to remember and use ten of these techniques when you meet someone. You may even annoy the person. To make the whole process more smooth, you need to train yourself in a technique or two at a time, until they become automatic. Then start working on the next technique. Soon you will be subconsciously doing what needs to be done to have good rapport with the people you meet. That’s subconscious mind power.

Intuition Power

Einstein relied heavily on intuitive hunches. Gary Kasparov can beat the best chess computer even though the computer can calculate positions many moves further ahead. Experience allows him to combine analysis with a “sense” of which move is best. These are great examples of the power of intuition.

Your skill, knowledge and experience determine the potential effectiveness of your intuition. A weak chess player will never intuitively beat that computer. Having enough good information in your mind is the first important part of intuition, then.

However, to regularly benefit from your intuitive mind power, you have to encourage it. Start by watching for it. Stop during problem solving, and note any feelings or hunches you have. Note when your hunches are good ones and when they seem to be just random feelings. Do this until the whole process becomes a habit, and you’ll begin to have more intuition.

The Key To Subconscious Mind Power

Just from these two examples, you can see how you can benefit from “programming” your mind. Even training yourself to regularly ask a simple question, like “How can I best use my time right now,” can be very useful. The key is to simply find any technique that works when you use it consciously, and then use it daily (carry a reminder if you have to) until it becomes an unconscious habit. This is how you develop your subconscious mind power.

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The act of celebrating naturally inspires a sense of abundance and blessing. To celebrate is to delight in the gift, so it puts us in a very positive, life-affirming state of mind. Celebration is a high form of praise and of gratitude.
Most of us are not into celebrating just for the heck of it. We remember to celebrate holidays and personal events; like birthdays, wedding anniversaries, and major achievements like a promotion or retirement. Then we brush off the small wins waiting for the big one. But, isn’t the big success usually the results of a series of small wins?

Celebrating is a matter of choice. And for those who have ultra-high standards or who are our own worst critics, there may be nothing worthy of celebration through an entire lifetime.

A lot of us are starving for good news about ourselves. We get so caught up between where we are and where we hope to be that we forget to pay attention to the things going on in our lives right now. We don’t see what has been accomplished-only how much is left to be done.

By the way, now is a great time to let go of old conditioning that might have indicated that you could not feel good about what you have done lest you travel the downward road to arrogance. Here’s a newsflash for some; to enjoy and celebrate the good does not mean it will be taken from you!

If you accept that celebration is a matter of choice you always have something to celebrate. When you have success, when you accomplish something, enjoy it! Pause, reflect, and rejoice. It doesn’t matter if you shout out Whoopee or if you call your best friend to share the news. Just take time to celebrate each success because it anchors positive feelings into your consciousness which will help build the momentum for more success to come. Like attracts like and our feelings are powerful magnets. What accomplishment can you celebrate? Helping someone through a tough time? Losing those five pounds? Giving that presentation? Did you make a new friend, or renew an old friendship? What is success, anyway? Sometimes it is as simple as tying your own shoes.

Also, become accustomed to accepting compliments with grace. Don’t demean anyone sharing an appreciation by saying something like; it was nothing. Anybody would have done the same thing. It goes with the territory. Respond with a simple “Thank you”. You show respect and compliment the person who had the awareness to notice and you allow yourself a [long overdo] pat on the back.

All along, you have been a gift to yourself and to the Universe.You are beautiful, delightful, a joy. You do not have to try harder, be better, be perfect, or be anything you are not.

Life is too important to take seriously –Corky Siegel

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This is probably one of the most important lessons I have shared with business people this year.

Do you want to know the secret of becoming Immortal in Business?

You leave behind a legacy that outlives you and your business. Your business becomes a vehicle for giving you AND others a level of freedom.

How do you reach such success to be able to do this?

You find a way to turn your passion into profit for a purpose.

Passion is the starting point to all great successes and happiness in life. The business owners who thrive are driven internally by their love for what they do. If you have ever found yourself lacking motivation it’s because you have lost your passion for a moment.

Your passion can come from the strangest source. It doesn’t have to be your product necessarily. It can be the Team work. It could be the success of your customers as a result of dealing with you. It can be training others to succeed.

Whatever it is, stay focused on that passion and act on it daily. You will notice it becomes effortless as you get into the “flow”.

This “flow” is something many sports people speak of. Business owners can access the same power.

But turning your passion into profit is another thing. To do this, you must combine your passion with your strengths. Without your strongest talents and skills being naturally used, your passion can leave you running around in circles like a motivated dog chasing its tail.

You see, I have a passion for music. The problem is I’m not highly talented in music. So for me to pursue a career in it would be foolish. We all have passions in many areas. To succeed you need to work with your greatest strengths.

One of my other passions is for business. I love the psychology of selling and marketing. Thankfully, it is also one of my greatest strengths. You must get clarity around your own strengths and passions to truly experience freedom, wealth and happiness.

“Success becomes a natural consequence of combining your passions with your strengths.”

Delegate what you are not strong at and give it to someone who is.

Every minute you invest working on something you are passionate about is a minute well invested. Every minute spent doing something that you don’t enjoy or aren’t very good at is doubly wasted.

You lose the minute you could have invested on your own passion. And you lose a minute of someone else’s life by not giving them the opportunity to work with their strengths and passions by delegating it to them.

Ever notice how many people are running around working on projects or jobs they don’t like. If we all began to develop a deeper understanding of this, we could collectively begin to change it. And it all begins with you and me.

I hope this helps give you some clarity as you enter the New Year.

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Dual diagnosis treatment spans the full gamut of addiction, psychological and societal methodologies. The term dual diagnosis can be misleading since someone may have more then one addiction or mental health problem. About 70 percent of people with drug and alcohol addictions may suffer from dual diagnosis. Statistics in the United States, such as 22.2 million persons (9.1 percent of the population) in 2005 who have substance dependence or abuse show the magnitude and commonality of the problem. Equivalent populations include ten percent of the United States population that are foreign born, ten percent of the worlds’ population that lives in coastal areas that may sink as the oceans rise. Ninety countries have more than 10 percent of their population in areas of high mortality risk from two or more hazards (drought, floods, cyclones, earthquakes, volcanoes and landslides), and more than 10 percent of children that do not survive their first year of life in Ethiopia. While immigration, climate change, natural disasters and third world starvation, disease and civil war are daily headlines, dual diagnosis is not found in the lexicon of our day-to-day colloquy. This is quite interesting considering that the cost of substance abuse exceeds 500 billion dollars in the United States and Americans’ cultural taboos generally stop them from discussing the very common link between substance abuse and mental illness. Maybe we should rethink our standards of decorum and social embarrassment so that we may become informed as a people, to remove the stigmas of substance abuse and mental illness. Then those with these very common problems may address their plight as casually as we do with immigration, climate change, natural disasters, third world starvation, disease and civil war.

Dual diagnosis treatment is initially looked at by asking the question, which came first, the chicken or the egg or which came first, the substance abuse or the mental illness. This intellectual dalliance should be left to the professionals since there may be multiple addictions and multiple mental illnesses to address and treat.

The question becomes moot since social alcohol or drug use (even small amounts for some people) may lead to psychiatric symptoms, or pre-existing mental health problems may lead to increased drug and alcohol use. To complicate matters withdrawal or detoxification may lead to psychological or psychiatric symptoms. Sometimes intoxication may result in short-term behavioral or psychological problems that disappear with the intoxication affects.

Since so many substances are abused and there are many mental illnesses, the professional uses an array of tools in the process of recovery, such as, psycho-education lectures, groups, and individual sessions to educate the dual diagnosis patient about the medical and psychological aspects of his/her dual diagnosis. There should be expert pharmacotherapy if medications are prescribed so that only the most effective medications offering the greatest benefit and the least side effects should be used.12-Step programs are provided according to their specific needs. Relapse prevention programs are specifically designed for ongoing recovery of the dual diagnosis patient. Dual diagnosis patients are encouraged to invite their family members to participate in a family program. These programs should be the staple of the dual diagnosis treatment plan.

To enhance and reach more specific areas, adjunct groups that focus therapeutic work on specific areas of concern to the dual diagnosis treatment of the patient, such as , cocaine/heroin addiction, eating disorders, stop smoking, grief and trauma, healthy sexuality, compulsive gambling and womens’, and mens’ groups should be included. Integrative therapies may include acupuncture, and massage. Other lesser known therapies include eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) which uses eight distinct steps the client focuses on a visual image related to the negative memory and the therapist assists by directing eye movements for 20 to 30 seconds. Therapists will often use auditory tones, tapping, and other types of tactile stimulation. Also somatic psychotherapy, which assists in the learning and understanding of the relationships between sensation, emotion, illness and thought and how this impacts on our sense of wellness and well being. drug-rehabcenter.com/contact_transitions.htm Contact us today to find out more about substance abuse and dual diagnosis treatment programs.

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Not enough time, boss pushing for work to be completed, children are annoying you, bills to pay, shopping to be done, housework to do, partner asking for your help…

Does this sound like a familiar scenario in your life? Stress is always with us controlling what we do and how we feel. If you’re stressed you do things faster and in an unhappier way. You either become aggressive towards other people as a form of releasing the stress or you become submissive by hiding the stress.

By becoming aggressive towards another person, it temporarily feels okay, but then reality kicks in as you feel even more stressed from hurting the other person. When you are submissive and hide your stress, it internally eats at you hurting your emotions and your relationships.

When under stress, your communication style will change in response to the situation. You can go from a cool and collected person one moment when not under stress, yet when a stressful situation impinges your tolerable threshold your calm style will shift into the aggressive or submissive behavioral states.

What behavior you fall back on in the stressful situation will be the one you have been comfortable with using in the past that will most likely have “protected” you. It’s a natural human extinct built within us that we use to block out external factors and listen to internal ones. You probably now are able to realize that when you are stressed you begin to block out external factors such as how other people are feeling as your interpersonal skills begin to lessen You begin to only show concern for what your internal factors are telling you.

When someone has surpassed their tolerable stress level, telling them to get their “act together” or how ineffective their current communication is, often does not work.

You need to learn ways to manage your stress and not let it get the better of you and the people around you. Stress motivates us to take action but it too often works against us. I’ve come up with the best ways and techniques to manage stress:

1) Prevention - As telling someone who is overly stressed to get their “act together” is often ineffective, arguably one of the best strategies to manage stress is preventing yourself or someone else from reaching high stress levels. You can incorporate other stress management techniques listed below into the stressful situation before it’s too late. Preventing and reducing the problem is a highly effective self-management technique.

2) Leave others alone - If the other person is not involved, leave them alone. It is so tempting to release your stress on other people. Do not treat people inappropriately. By treating them the way they do not want to be treated, you build up their stress which they will be happy to put back on you. If someone is causing stress, you need to address the person explaining to them how you feel, why you feel that way, and what can be done to fix the problem. Do not stress out the person by focusing your reason for being stressed directly on the person but focus on the problem. It is being problem oriented and not person oriented.

3) Self understanding - You need to manage yourself and control your emotions. You need to be aware if you are treating a person in an appropriate way because of the stress. You need to know that you are stressed, why you are stressed, and ways to manage the stress.

4) Responsibility - When you accept responsibility, you live in truth. You do not become a victim of others. You begin to control and create your feelings. You stop blaming others for what has happened to you and you become proactive controlling feelings, thoughts, and stresses. By accepting responsibility as way of managing stress, you begin self-control.

5) Self-control - You are in complete control of your emotions. It’s learning to manage your mind that you correctly manage your stress. This is where your self discipline kicks in. Other people do not have access to your mind unless you give them the authorization. You have complete control of your emotions and actions. However, you’re ability to be in control of your emotions and actions are dependent on your desire, discipline, and skill set.

6) Stop worrying - worrying is extremely destructive for your health. It is about anticipating the future and doing nothing about it. If you did do something in anticipation of the future, you would then be planning and not worrying. You try to think what will happen in the near future, but nothing more then unnecessary thoughts occur. “What if…” “What will happen…” STOP LIVING IN THE FUTURE and think about what you can fully control now. That is, think about today!

7) Don’t stay still - When feeling down, it is easy to throw in the towel and give up. Winston Churchill said “If you are going through hell, keep going.” Don’t stop and give up. I encourage you to stop, relax, and be smart, but do not lose the perseverance to keep going. If you are going through an awful patch in life, by stopping there you remain in the awful patch.

Go away - You may just need to go away for a bit to refresh your mind. If you can afford to go on a Carribean cruise, go for it! For us others who cannot do that, go for a walk or work-out. By being active you release hormones that counter stress. Being away from the stress also takes your mind off the problem and gives you clearer thoughts and feelings.

9) Be flexible - Stress is like the sunrise and sunset. It is inevitable. You need to be able to recognize when others are stressed by reading their verbal and non-verbal language then adjust accordingly. Be flexible by going a bit out of your way for them to assist their temporary needs and wants. Don’t run around the world for them but do be more aware and respondent of them.

10) Ask others - It is very useful to ask others what you do when you enter that threshold level where you begin to block out external factors. Just ask them what you are like and how it makes them feel when you are stressed. You are asking others because assessing yourself when you are experiencing heavy emotions is known to be an inaccurate source of information. By understanding your communication responses you will deepen your self-understanding and build more awareness and self-control.

Stress shouldn’t make us miserable. We were given the ability to produce stress to get things done otherwise we would be sitting on our lazy behinds. Learn these ways to manage your stress, and you’ll have stress working for you and not you for it.

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Unfailing in their ability to stand tall and proud over years, decades, and even centuries, trees demonstrate their capacity to join earth and sky through their own bodies and to transmit the energies of both.

Rooted in the deep earth, they absorb from the earth all that is needed in order to maintain their form and life. This life-force moves through them with a gentle murmur, like the hum of a distant plane. At the same time, the tree receives from the sky, the light it needs to nourish its foliage, to convert carbon dioxide to oxygen, and to replenish the earth’s supply of atmospheric nutrients.

The inner being of a tree is both a part of the earth and an individualized life-form - not a physical spirit in the sense of one that could independently move, speak, or think on its own, but a spirit with feeling, consciousness, and a capacity to remain in continual communion with the state of the earth and with its own participation in that state.

When man, through, greed, indifference, selfishness, and a departure from the sacred, assumes that the life of a tree can be used indiscriminately for his own purposes, this assumption is a violation against the law of life which grants to all beings, whether human or non-human, the respect accorded to those possessing the essence of the One divine Spirit that pervades all. Not only do trees feel and respond when they are indiscriminately cut down, but the earth feels this as well, and where such wanton or indifferent action takes place without reverence for the needs of the earth, there, a wound grows that is often very difficult to heal.

The spirit of each tree can speak to those who listen, sometimes with words, but often in the hum of its existence - the vibration of its life-force which connects its roots with the tips of its branches. These giant beings are willing communicators as friends of the earth, friends of souls, and guardians of the planetary atmosphere. If they were given more in the way of respect and appreciation, they would be able to produce more replenishment for the earth’s atmosphere than what is currently thought of as possible.

Today, by contrast, trees in many places of the world are in a sad state. Their spiritual vitality has been diminished by wanton logging practices and their strength and beauty have been affected. Ultimately, when the earth’s cries can be heard by a sufficiently awakened humanity, trees, as well as the earth herself, will be found to have suffered through a great ordeal at the hands of men and of human greed, and a way will be sought to correct the balance with which we relate to the natural world. At that time, the spiritual nature of trees will shine once again, and we will return to a more authentic way of respecting the earth and all that she contains than has been possible since the departure from the sacred that took place long ago. In the meantime, it is possible to act in recognition of the sacred life of trees, and to begin the process of restoring to nature the gifts that have been given so abundantly to mankind over the years, centuries, and millennia of human history.

Julie Redstone is a teacher, writer, and founder of lightomega.org Light Omega, a center for spiritual teaching and healing in Western Massachusetts. The purpose of Light Omega is to create an understanding of the sacred transition into light that the earth is presently going through and the changes this will bring to individual and planetary consciousness.

Is the gathering area (a.k.a. family room, living room, den, great room) in your home chaotic and cluttered? If so, try the following prescription to create a calm, comfortable and orderly space you’ll love to relax in and entertain family and friends.

Pin down the purpose(s) of your room. Is it your intention to use the family room as a place to watch a movie, curl up and read, play with the kids, take a short nap and gather with friends? Whether you have the foregoing functions in mind or something different, move objects unrelated to the purpose of your room (shoes, clothing and the ironing board) to other more appropriate quarters of your home.

Specify the major categories of items to be kept in your family room. For example:

Reading - books, magazines and newspapers
Media – TV, VCR, DVD, stereo, videos, CD’s, DVD’s and remotes
Toys – dolls, action figures and vehicles
Games – board games, puzzles and cards
Collections – photos, baseball paraphernalia, etc.

Sort everything in your family room into piles that represent the major categories identified in step #2. Begin with all surface items, and then move to objects stored in baskets, drawers, and cabinets. Smart tip: If you haven’t edited your belongings for a number of years, you will find it easier to sort large quantities of things by using a large box to hold the contents of each major category; the boxes will ensure your piles don’t spill over and get mixed up.

Cut out the clutter and organize what remains. Working with one category at a time, evaluate each item using the following rules: don’t keep anything you don’t love or use; reduce multiples of any single item; recycle all but the current issue of magazines and newspapers; dispose of broken and unwanted items by pitching them, giving them to someone else, selling, or donating them. Then put the remainder of items in order. For example, eliminate: duplicate pictures, out-of-focus pictures, and unflattering pictures. Then arrange the pictures you want to keep by date or theme, such as home, family, school, vacations, etc. Smart tip: As you’re weeding out clutter from each major category, let go of 20% more stuff than you have room for, that way new acquisitions will have a ready made home.

Arrange your room for comfort and functionality. When you have one space that serves multiple functions, consider setting up your room in zones - each to accommodate a different activity. For instance:

Reading and gaming. Place a game table and chairs where you have a good light source, it makes a great spot for perusing the paper and playing board games. The same table top can also double as a place to set out snacks when you have friends over. Mount shelving or spot a bookcase on an adjacent wall to house books and gaming materials.
Watching TV. Pick a good place to locate your TV and hide electronic gear in cabinetry if you don’t want to see it. Coordinate the arrangement of key seating pieces so you can readily see the screen (and take advantage of the view, if applicable). Position a magazine rack nearby and toss a throw over a plush armchair so you can cover up and catch a cat-nap when it’s chilly.
Playing. Tuck toys into baskets or storage ottomans that blend with the aforementioned zones. These types of containers offer an ideal way to store distracting clutter and make the family room a welcoming adult space after the kids have drifted off to dreamland.

If needed, use containers you have around your home to accessorize and containerize items that are easy to access. Family rooms are a magnet for books, papers, magazines, and supplies that get piled on the floor and table tops. However, you can organize these items with budget friendly solutions you likely have around your home.

Shoe boxes of the same size and color can be used to corral photos, letters, CD’s and more. Using multiple containers with the same color and symmetry will elevate the ordinary into an appealing collection.
Fruit crates, baskets, and sturdy totes can be used to hold books, magazines and newspapers.
Pottery, glass jars, and mugs are good holders for pens, clips, rubber bands, and push pins.
Ice cube trays, muffin tins, box lids, and cutlery trays make great drawer organizers.
Vintage luggage and picnic baskets stacked on top of each other work well as side tables and make for durable, attractive storage.

Slip items you want to confine into their new vessel and place them where they’ll be pretty and practical. That’s it! You now have a family room that’s organized, easy to clean, and makes smart use of your space.

Stay tuned—the next addition of the Decluttering Blueprint will be released soon.

Pam N. Woods is co-author of a bestselling book, Create the Business Breakthrough You Want: Secrets and Strategies from the World’s Greatest Mentors; endorsed by Ken Blanchard & Dr. Stephen Covey. She is a respected authority on personal effectiveness who has mentored hundreds of executives, managers and professionals over the last three decades. Now, through her business, Smart WorkLife Solutions, she is helping individuals at home and at work to declutter their space, their schedules and their lives.

Pam’s website is a resource with information and services to help a diverse population of individuals organize their office, home and life. If you want to save time, boost productivity and reduce stress visit the Smart WorkLife Solutions website today.

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The Inspirational Leader, one who can instill passion and direction to a group requires an understanding of how the Psychology of a group affects its individual members.

In numerous Group Dynamic Disciplines such as Directive Communication and theories like The ripple effect by Sigal Barsade, leadership is a product of awareness and command of the reactions and influences of a group on the individual.

Leadership is NOT about changing the mindset of the group but in the cultivation of an environment that brings out the best (inspires) the individuals in that group… Each individual has various environments that bring out different facets from their own Identity, and each facet is driven by emotionally charged perceptions within each environment…

To lead, one must create a platform through education and awareness where individuals fill each others needs. This is accomplished by knowing Why people may react favorably to a situation in environment A, but get frustrated or disillusioned in environment B.

When a leader changes their actions in accordance with their awareness of what those actions really mean, they affect the emotional and perceptive affects on a group. By taking control of the “standard” reactions to the actions of the group, a leader can in effect change the psychology of the group and change the culture of the organization.

THE 8 ASCENTS OF THE ULTIMATE LEADER

1. Master Your Rules of Engagement

In War, “Rules of Engagement” are what you do when you engage the enemy.
The enemy in this case is experience of when your surroundings don’t match your perception of ‘what should be’.
Psychological “Rules of Engagement” exist as reaction responses to these surroundings and the experiences.

2. Increase Your Circle of Tolerance

This is the measure of your ability to deal with things “intelligently” and without reaction. The more rules you have about the way things should be, the smaller your Circle of Tolerance.
If you have a large Circle of Tolerance, you can deal with more situations intelligently and make better decisions.
Things that happen outside of your Circle of Tolerance usually trigger your Rules of Engagement.

3. Remove Your Colored glasses

There are 4 primary “Brain Processors” that interpret the world in very different ways. A “Colored Brain” perception is like looking though colored glasses. A leader who can remove his colored glasses, can see past his own perceptions and bring out the best in others who process differently.
To discover what colored glasses you are wearing with the Colored Brain Communication Inventory (CBCI).

4. Stop Need Sucking

When we are in charge of others (and sometimes when not), we unconsciously make decisions that leave others questioning our motives or are left unfulfilled in their jobs or tasks. This is because each person has specific emotional needs and gratifications that doing or completing a task provides. When someone takes those gratifications away (even accidently) this is “Need Sucking”.
To stop Need Sucking, leaders must take care not to take too much of the following emotional needs from a group:
i. Control or security (the less control one has, the less secure)
ii. Recognition or significance
iii. Diversity in tasks or job
iv. Sense of completion or achievement (let people finish)
The more of these emotional gratifications a leader takes for themselves, the less there is for everyone else, translating to less fulfillment .

5. Command your Leadership Postures

Postures are the connection between Body and Mind that influence our moods. We are constantly using Postures without realizing it and they are affecting our emotions, our focus, and the type of influence we have over others.
Controlling your primary postures: Warrior, Child, Lover, and Emperor, will allow you to command the suitable energy to affect others on an emotional level with greater effectiveness.
Identifying postures on others will give you greater power to influence and inspire the best in them.

6. Map your world

Each workplace has defined areas that create your “Work Process” these could be for example: Meetings, Working Alone, Working in Teams, Directing others or being Directed, Social Elements of Work.
By defining our motivations, frustrations, processes, and the importance we assign to each, we can clearly define our expectation and determine, by comparison to others, if they are realistic.
When our “World of Work” is mapped, it becomes easier to navigate through the emotional turbulence of leadership to smoother sailing and greater effectiveness as an inspiring leader who is prepared for anything.

7. Align your Values to the Environment you would Create

As an individual, you have specific values, these values are reflected in your leadership.
Do you know what these values are? Are there any differences between your personal values and your leadership values?.
As a leader, your success will come from cultivating an environment conducive to your vision, and to inspire that environment to enthusiastically participate in that vision. To achieve this, your values as a leader MUST reflect the values of that the environment that will create the vision
The values aligned with the vision alone is NOT enough; identify what the diverse people in your organisation need to “FEEL” for inspiration to take place?
What values do you need to change to make those feelings happen?

8. Cultivate your Leadership Identity

Leaders are the greatest influence to an organization corporate culture. Leaders may not be aware of the psychology of why their “Leadership Identity” may often be an obstacle to an inspired and effective organization.
The realizations and awareness gained through the first 7 Assents will influence decisions that affect culture. They are the essence that determines our ability to consciously decide and “Act” intelligently instead of “React” to our environment. A leader must act and create.
To cultivate YOUR Leadership Identity. Reflect of the first 7 Assents and write a definition of Who You Need to Be as a Leader! Then live by this Leadership Identity and ascend to the level of Transformation.

Directive Communication Intl. offers a free “Foundations” Mini-course for more in-depth information about the 8 Assents.

Only when a leader has mastered these assents, can he shape the 5 Pillars of Transformation

THE 5 PILLARS OF A TRANSFORMATIONAL ENVIRONMENTAL

The pillars are the foundations that convert a team to a organization transforming powerhouse. When a leader becomes aware of Directive Communication Psychology and how it applies to the formation of transformational teams, it becomes apparent in the perception of that leader and becomes apparent in the teams results.

The more people around you that become aware of Directive Communication psychology and how to use it, the more success you will have in achieving your objectives.

Share this article with others in your different environments, teach them what you have learned. With a greater awareness of the Directive Communication methodology, you can cultivate environments that cause you and others to be more effective and fulfilled in your work and life.

Here are the 5 foundations to make this happen:

Have a Methodology for Change.
Have a Greater Purpose.
Speak a Common Language.
Create a Supportive Environment.
Have a Unified Identity.

You must have a Methodology you believe can make a Change

This article has given you some foundations in the Directive Communication Methodology that influences individuals and groups in a powerful enough way to change organizational culture. If you have applied some of what you have learned earlier, if you have become more aware and have increased your circle of Tolerance, then this works for you.

Having a greater purpose

Find a something bigger than the group, something that is even bigger than the organization. A reason the group is greater than just the people in it, a purpose that is greater or nobler that the personal goals of each individual.

You must speak a common language

Because of the specific nature of Directive Communication methodology it carries with it a specific language to be able to understand and explain awareness, change, and a higher level of living in a concise and effective way.

You must maintain internal supportive environment

As an elite group that shares and uses this psychology, you can excel far greater than as an individual. Supporting one another is essential for ultimate success.

You must have a unified identity

While each individual has his/her own identity, the collective group must have a common goal and thus, a common identity in line with that goal. This can be as simple as “The Efficiency Group”…

Each pillar represents an essential characteristic of groups capable of bringing out the best in each other.

You have learned the foundations to Ascend and Transform as a Leader.

Now the next step is up to you!

Arthur F. Carmazzi is the Principal Founder of the Directive Communication Methodology and specializes in psychological approaches to Leadership and corporate culture transformation. He is a renowned International Speaker / Trainer and best selling author of “The 6 Dimensions of Top Achievers”, “Identity Intelligence” and “Lessons from the Monkey King”.

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