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I was about to read my Sunday paper and began the ritual cull. This involves taking the bundle of newspapers and extracting the supplements that I do not read along with countless leaflets and throwing them to one side, before making another pile of the bits that I do not read but someone else in the house will. I would imagine that this ritual is played out in households across the country on a Sunday morning.

I was about to cast the appointments section to one side when an advert caught my eye. It contained a list of the attributes that a company was seeking in the senior manager they were looking to employ. Suddenly I realised that there is probably no better place to understand what leadership in business is all about than in one of these supplements. They tell you what leadership is about from the perspective of the companies who are actually recruiting leaders.

Sure enough, as I read through the supplement, I discovered an abundance of ideas. If you are interested in leadership and management I recommend that you read the appointments section, it’s fascinating. I found myself writing copious notes and I have enough material to form the basis of several articles.

However, what was really interesting was to seek out the common themes.

The adverts listed a variety of desirable qualities. Some wanted candidates to be well respected and have a track record of achievement; in other words proof of previous accomplishments. Others were looking for excellent communication skills and demonstrable leadership qualities. Some candidates were required to be charismatic, engaging and influential.

Ultimately I found one very interesting word which was repeated in a large number of adverts. It is a word that also links with and in some cases accounts for some of the other qualities that were listed. That word is credibility.

Nothing is more important for a leader of a team of any size than credibility. I believe that the most important quality to work towards in a team is trust. Teams thrive when they have good leadership, and credibility is at the core of this.

Credible leaders are engaging and influential. Credibility is more important than the ethereal status of charisma. Even if you are not a good communicator, and not all great leaders are, if you have credibility you will have respect. In recent years we have seen good communicators who have lost their credibility through spinning the truth or outright lies and it undermines the character in question, sometimes terminally.

Credibility is the condition of being convincing or worthy of belief, reputation, status; it is acceptability among one’s peers. A credibility gap is an apparent difference between what is said and what is true.

It is actually not so hard to be credible in business. You must know your subject inside out and have covered what you should know in your position. Do not be afraid to say when you’re outside your area of expertise, never try to bluff but instead use your networking to gain access to the people who know things on the periphery of your knowledge.

Be someone whose opinion, when given, is trusted without question.

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Empathy is an emotion that’s often misunderstood. While it’s easy to say “I know how you’re feeling,” the truth is, more often than not, we’ve no idea how another person is feeling at all.

It’s only when we’ve personally experienced the same emotion as another person is experiencing that we can truly feel empathy. Those of us who have experienced a wide degree of emotionsfrom the deepest darkest depression to elation and excitementare those most likely to be able to empathise with others. After all, it stands to reason that only those who have been depressed will truly understand how it feels to be depressed. Similarly, only those who have won the lottery know how that feels.

It can actually feel very patronising to those who are experiencing a certain emotion to be told “I know how you feel” by somebody who clearly doesn’t.

Think of a mother who’s lost her child. How would she feel to be told “I know how you’re feeling” by somebody who hasn’t even had children, let alone lost one? Hurt? Bitter? Angry?

It’s not unusual for those who are on the receiving end of false empathy to feel angry. Those who are suffering painful emotions are looking for somebody to share their feelings with and that person doesn’t necessarily have to have experienced the same feelings themselves. All they need is somebody who will listen and understand that they’re hurting without patronising them.

If you’re not certain that you’ve experienced the same emotion, it’s better to say so rather than imagine you’re able to understand how the person feels. Saying “I can’t imagine how you must be feeling but I know it must be incredibly painful” is far better than saying “I know how you feel”.

In cases where we are able to empathise, our emotional intelligence works very quickly, reminding us of emotions experienced under similar circumstances. If, for example, you’ve experienced the pain of being abandoned by your partner, you’ll feel what another person in the same situation is feeling. It may be painful for you to relive those feelings but it’s only then that you can truly empathise with those in a similar situation.

Just as we can numb our feelings with alcohol and drugs, so we can numb our ability to empathise. In general, a drunk who says they know how you feel isn’t able to empathise at all. At least, not until he’s sober again. He may believe he can empathise because he knows he’s experienced similar feelings in the past, but unless he’s able to feel them along with you, his empathy will be non-existent.

By staying in touch with our own feelings we’re in a far better position to empathise with others. But remember, if we’re unable to empathise, it’s better to admit it than to pretend we understand because believe me, people will quickly be able to determine whether you truly empathise with them or not.

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Do we want to create our lives and circumstances deliberately and consciously or by default.
The Law of Attraction teaches us that we all create our lives ourselves by attracting what we focus on.
And, since this is always so, why not choose to do it deliberately?

Of course, as human beings we are action orientated. And action is good.
But starting of with action and let our thoughts and feelings follow, means we would go about our creative process backwards.

If we want to create our life deliberately instead of by default, the right order is to think, feel and then act.

First, we need to identify how we want to feel.
Always reach for a feeling that feels a little bit better. If you are depressed, do not try to feel heavenly, for this would not be realistic.
But, there is always a thought for everyone under all circumstances, to be found that will make you feel a little bit better, it is a process with little steps.

We consciously and deliberately choose the thought that makes us feel better. Then automatically the feelings will follow. Remember that looking at our emotions is always the best way to measure our alignment with Source and with who we really are. Our emotions never lie.

Once we are in this place where we feel good, better or fantastic, we decide what we truly want, what we truly desire.
Our focus is now on our dream. And while we focus on our dream with positive and happy feelings we send out our vibrations into the Universe. The Universe will respond and brings us exactly what we need, including the inspiration to take the right action.

Sjef van de Laak, the composer of the newly released E-book “AWAKENING YOUR SPIRIT, MIND AND BODY”, intends, by means of his website (www.enrich-life.net), e-zines, articles and E-books, to help everybody who is interested in “The Law of Attraction”, in using this Universal Law on a daily basis. The more people that understand and apply this Law in a conscious way, the more beautiful and free of aggression our world will become.

The mind and the body are connected. Not just physically in the body, but in performance as well. A super key to increasing creativity is to get the body moving.

Before every improv comedy performance, my group would warm up. We would warm up our minds by doing some quick thinking games, warm up our tongues by doing tongue twisters, and warm up our bodies by stretching and playing games that required lots of movement. To me, the physical warm ups were the most vital because I found that once the body was energized and ready the mind quickly followed.

Interestingly, I could tell how a performance was going to go in advance based on the body language of the performers as they arrived to the theater. If people were down, quiet, and low energy, I knew the show could be trouble and I would do what I could to get the energy up. If people were lively, I knew we would be just fine.

Be it by increasing blood flow, distracting the mind, or releasing endorphins, movement definitely stimulates the mind. The trick is finding a way to get the body moving in a work environment.

The corporate world is not designed to support the mind body connection. Most work days involve sitting down and working on a computer, talking on the phone, or having a meeting. The best exercise you can get is stretching in your seat and going for a walk (which if you are not doing now, you should start). How many meetings are held everyday to address problems and come up with solutions , and how many of these meetings involve a group of people sitting around a large table? And how many of these meetings go on for an hour or more without breaking to get people’s energy back up?

I guarantee that, odd as it sounds, much more could be accomplished in less time if just five minutes were spent energizing the group. There are exercises, improv and otherwise, that can accomplish this. They will seem odd in a corporate work place, but they will work.

Personally, I do some of my best thinking while shooting baskets. My body is moving, my mind is free flowing, and ideas just come out. Find what works for you, then find a way to incorporate it into you work.

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Avish Parashar is a dynamic professional speaker who shows organizations and individuals how to get what they want using the Art and Science of improv comedy. He weaves together humorous stories, witty observations, and interactive exercises from improvisational comedy to get people laughing, learning, and motivated!

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You are a dual being. Part eternal spirit and part temporal body. Together these comprise your soul. The soul is more powerful than the spirit alone. You are the child of a Divine Father. He desires you to become a soul composed of spirit permanently united with an incorruptible, perfected body of flesh and bone. When we were young in the universe we existed as mere intelligences. Our Father gave us bodies of spirit that allowed us to grow and evolve. But without a physical body, we came to a place of limitation beyond which we could not pass.

Now spirits are not weak beings. They are very powerful and full of potential. But without bodies we would not be able to fully exercise our abilities. We had grown from the infancy of intelligence to the childhood of spirit. When we gained a body we entered our adolescence. Now coupled with our powers of spirit, we received the senses of the body. Because we were still adolescents and because this was our first experience of the physical, God wisely ordained a probationary period. During our probation we were given time to learn about the influence of the physical nature of things. We learn about the senses and emotions. At first these new experiences can be overwhelming to a spirit, almost like sensory overload, and we become creatures of the flesh. As we grow physically we strive to bring the spirit and the body into balance. The spirit is the power, ability, and knowledge that is us. The body is the vehicle and method by which our spirits advance and learn.

During our probationary time we are rediscovering ourselves and choosing whether the body or the spirit will rule our lives. The body was never intended to be the leader. Compared to the spirit it is weak. To assist us in turning to spirit and not getting carried away with the physical, our bodies grow old and die. As this happens we become more aware of our spirit.

The spirit is a more refined form of energy than that which surrounds us in this existence. Because it is more refined it is enduring and unchanging. All the things around us that we hold to be real are actually changeable. Their energy degrades and changes form. Those things that are truly lasting are more pure.

As spirits we have certain innate gifts that we brought with us into this mortal life. These gifts, if expressed by the spirit through the body, empower our lives and strengthen our souls.

The first gift is that of Connection. We are able to make connections between pieces of information and between spirits whether human or otherwise. The second gift is that of Creation. We are all creative beings and with our bodies we are able to participate in the ultimate creation, that of life itself. The final three gifts are that of Faith, the ability to believe in something that is true before receiving the evidence, Hope, the ability to maintain a positive attitude and security through optimistic trust in a greater vision, and Love, the crowning gift that goes beyond and encompasses all the others.

These gifts can profoundly affect, even alter, our experience in this mortal existence. If we open these gifts of spirit and harness their power we will advance our true selves in the eternal scheme of our existence.

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First, I would like to mention that each item listed below are not in any particular order. They are all essential elements to being a good husband or boyfriend.

1. Pay attention to your woman. This means, undivided attention. Include eye contact and verbal prompts to let her know you are listening.

2. Be a good listener. That means actually hear what she is saying, because she may bring the topic up again. In addition, if the topic is about you, you need to see if you can fix/solve whatever problem/issue she is referring to.

3. Pamper your woman. By pampering I mean running her bath water (you may bath her, but some women don’t like to be wasted), pay for her nails and hair to be done. (These are only some examples, creativity is the key.)

4. Write small notes and leave them in common areas where she will see them. The notes should be compliments or cute messages to her (ie. I love you, you are beautiful, have a nice day, etc.). You can also send text messages that will have the same effect. Love letters are great. And if you have that artistic side, write poems.

5. Buy her gifts. The size and cost of the gifts aren’t important components, unless she is materialistic. But random gifts are attention getting agents, which show her that you care and love her. In addition, it will make her feel special and appreciated.

6. Take your woman out. Each woman is different as to what she likes, but some examples would be: dinner, lounge, dancing, movies, museums, festivals, etc.

7. Cook for your woman. Generally speaking the woman does majority of the cooking, if not all. So, sometimes it would be a relief as well as a surprise to cook for her. You don’t have to be a chef, you could make simple meals like breakfast in bed, or meals that are already made that just need to be heated. However, if you use meals that are already made, I would suggest that you make the dining table and light some canddles to make it more romantic or appealing.

8. You should participate in the house duties. However, only do what you are capable of, don’t do something that you are going to mess up. Some easy duties would be vacumming, dishing, or taking out the trash. Try to make these things a regular routine, so that she doesn’t have to do them.

9. **THIS IS A BIG ONE** Avoid looking at other women in front of your woman. This is commonly perceived as disrespect. Plus, it’s can affect her self-esteem or self-image. She may think that she’s not appealing to you. To assist yourself in this action, don’t look at other women when your woman is not around. This allows you to get in the practice of not looking. It is common for men to look out of habit.

10. *THIS IS ANOTHER BIG ONE* Control your inner urges. Be self-disciplined and able to retrain your inner feelings for action. Your hormones. This will help from you not getting upset and showing it, when she isn’t in the mood. Which in turn will avoid conflict.

11. As a man you should be able to admit when you’re wrong. This should be self-explanatory.

12. You should be committed to resolving differences. Solutions to problems helps to keep peace. If problems aren’t resolved, then they will keep arising as an issue for discussion/argument.

13, Finally, remember that love is a series of actions such as: patience, tolerance, endurance, sacrifice, etc. Love also gives off a by–product or side–effect which is an emotional feeling. Many people mistaken the side–effect/ emotional feeling as love. For further definitions of love, refer to your spiritual or religious manuals/books (ie. bible).

In closing, I believe that if you apply these simple 13 elements to your relationship, you will be a great husband or boyfriend. Love is the most important element, because when you love someone it will be easier to implement the other elements. Thanks for reading and I wish you the best.

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“Why?” asked the bearer, “What are you ashamed of?”

“Well, for these past two years, I have been able to deliver only half a load of water each day because this crack in my side allows water to leak out all the way back to the master’s house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all this work without getting the full value of your efforts,” the pot said.

The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in his compassion he said, “As we return to the master’s house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path.” Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot noticed the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path. But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad because half of its load had leaked out once again.

Then the bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path and not on the other pot’s side? That’s because I’ve always known about your flaw and took advantage of it by planting flower seeds on your side of the path. Every day as we walked back from the stream, you watered those seeds, and for two years I have picked these beautiful flowers to decorate my master’s table. Without you being just what you are, he would not have had this beauty to grace his house.”

Like that cracked pot, you too can accomplish wonderful things. You can make somebody happy. You can encourage, edify and exhort those around you. You can use your gifts and talents to serve God—and as a bonus, you’ll learn to have joy in every area of your life.

Emmanuel Ayomide Praise is a world leading internet entrepreneur and investor. Some of his areas of interest include sport management, merchandise, ownership, internet entreprenuership, investments, media and writing amongst others.

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