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(This is the third in a series of three articles on “The Organized Move”)

The moving truck is pulling in the driveway of your new home and soon you will be surrounded by all your stuff. You have dreamed about the additional space…you have agonized over paint and furniture choices…and you have steadily purged the non-essentials among your belongings. Things will be different in this house! Everything will have a home, the spouse and kids will do their part to create order and the vow to ORGANIZATION has been made — but before this vision can become a reality, you must unpack and set up your new home.

Highlighted below are simple tasks that you can do to make unpacking a snap and keep the clutter in check.

If possible give yourself a realistic time frame. Arrange well in advance for personal days or use vacation days from work. If you have young children send them to Grandma’s or fly your mother-in-law for a few days. Delegate everyone’s tasks and remind them this is not social visit, but a working one. (If it’s your mother-in-law, let your spouse be the point person for that conversation!)

It is essential to give yourself this block of time so that things can get done properly and not be sentenced to garage limbo for 6 months. We have all witnessed this phenomenon, and in some cases the garage is not clear until the weather changes or in extreme cases the next move day.

Whether you are moving into new construction or an existing home, plan to get into the space early to do some light housekeeping. If budget permits arrange for a cleaning crew. Please remember this is not a thorough housecleaning, but a once-over for the bathrooms, kitchen and cabinets. If the carpets are in bad shape, you might consider having them professionally cleaned (although the move-in process may mess them up again).

Your moving day can be extremely chaotic, so make sure you have a small bag packed with your essentials — basically an overnight bag. Medications, toiletries, sweatshirt, cell phone, and your first aid kit. It is very difficult to predict when those wardrobe boxes will be opened, so just be prepared for anything. If you are moving during the school year, keep backpacks and kid’s school projects in a safe and accessible space.

Reveal your unpack schedule. All “essential” family members should have their own copy. “Essential” refers to family members that are of the appropriate age and physical capability to assist in the unpacking and I am sure that in a few homes only one unpack schedule will be needed. In this situation you should inquire about outside services for help.

The unpack schedule prioritizes the day and keeps things moving at a smooth pace. Bed setup and large furniture placement require immediate attention. Tape a simple diagram of the room to show placement for the movers and or family/friends; this will eliminate the constant back and forth. If possible place lamps, pictures, and boxes in the closets temporally for safekeeping. Closets should never be tackled on the moving day. Closets require your undivided attention and a proper mindset and the moving day is not conducive to either one.

The kitchen should be the next area of focus. If the kitchen is a main traffic area, hold off until the space is less traveled. If all is clear, tackle the necessary items first. For example you may want to run daily glassware, flatware, and dishes through a short cycle in the dishwasher. All serving and entertaining pieces will make do with the quick wipe of a clean towel. Place decorative pieces out of the way, this is not the time be arranging your collections. Now that all the boxes are open and you are waiting for the dishwasher to finish, think about your kitchen activities and position the equipment relative to these activity zones. These zones vary upon the type and size of kitchen. Store your frequently used kitchen equipment between knee and eye level. Make sure your kitchen works with the flow of your family’s lifestyle.

In the common areas of the home, the furniture can be arranged with relative ease. The family media center may require a bit more time. If you have school age children, bribe them with few dollars and have them separate their videos and music from yours. Kids can also put all the pillows with the coordinating sofas and chairs. Open some of the family book boxes and have the kids fill the lower shelves.

Bedrooms can be done in tandem with the closets, so if your first night is spent in fully made bed — congratulations!!. But realistically spend a day on each bedroom including the closet, it does not have to be the entire day, but finish one area completely before moving on to the next room.

The garage: This space is often forgotten, so put your best foot forward and spend a few hours when things inside are winding down and get the garage in order. Break down and recycle your used cardboard boxes and get them to the curb. There are some really inventive garage organizers out on the market. Invest in a couple that fit your budget and activities. If space permits, place a shoe organizer and hang a couple of hooks by the door. This is great for the overflow from the hall closets. Don’t forget to look up for the additional storage. Hang your bikes during the off-season and large baskets for those rarely used, but must keep items.

The months of planning, packing, and unpacking are complete. So relax and relish in your accomplishment. Get out, meet the neighbors and show off your new and very organized home.

Copyright 2004 Bridget Messino

About the author: Bridget Messino is a Professional Organizer and co-owner of Clutter Free Living, Inc. Her work frequently appears on many Internet sites and on her own organizing site

Memory is something that many of us have a fixed idea about. You hear people saying ‘I have a good memory’ or ‘my memory isn’t what it was’ as if there was nothing to be done about it. In fact, memory is very like a muscle - if you do the right exercises you can strengthen it considerably.

What’s more, the exercises which strengthen your memory are enjoyable in the same way that - say - playing games or walking or swimming or riding a bike can all be enjoyable. I should also point out that if you do even a modest amount of memory exercise you can dramatically improve your ability to remember people, places, events, faces, facts, words and so forth in the same way that if you do even a modest amount of physical exercise you can dramatically improve your health and life expectancy.

Before I say another word about memory perhaps I should explain that of the reasons I accepted an invitation to sit on the board of Bowden Hall College in Manchester was that they offer just about the longest established and most successful memory training course in the whole world! A course that has been taken by a staggering 3 million students! It was created by a university professor, public speaker and lawyer called Dr. Bruno Furst in 1939 and although it has been updated regularly ever since the core principles remain unchanged.

Basically, what Dr. Bruno Furst’s Course in Memory & Concentration offers is a simple, easy-to-follow, proven method of remembering just about anything you want to remember. I speak from personal experience because I have been using it to learn French and I have to tell you using a method outlined in the first section of Furst’s course my studies have been progressing in leaps and bounds. If only I had had this course in school.

If you would like to know more take a look at the relevant part of the Bowden Hall College website www.youcanremember.com. You will notice, by the way, that there is an opportunity to Risk Free Trial Offer plus all sorts of other free gifts and benefits available if you act relatively promptly.

Justin Power
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This morning in my time of quietness and meditation I determined that my focus would be in fact, just that, to focus or concentrate on God and more specifically on His blessings to me. I found that even in this act of gratefulness for personal blessings my mind was diverted from concentrating on God as my attention wandered elsewhere…on earthly benefits and blessings.

I want to learn to discipline my mind, my thoughts in a way that I might narrow my mind, my heart, my interests to truly respond to Christ’s invitation to, “Look to me…” It is His example, His likeness that should be the pattern, the mold for my life. Sometimes I “focus” on the lives of other Christians, looking for His image.

This can becomes a hindrance as I see their human flaws. I then struggle with my own imperfections, knowing that I, too, am imperfect. Turning this over to the Father, through Christ the Son, I will know and experience the peace that He offers. As I respond to His invitation to, “Look to Me.” I have come full circle.

And so now I look at His benefits, His gifts to me and thank Him, for family, for friends, and for health.

The world in turmoil
The promise is peace
The soul in turmoil
The promise release

The answer to turmoil
To the world, the soul
Is the Christ of Calvary
Of the resurrection morn

He lives in this world
He lives in men’s souls
Just claim His promise
His life will be yours.

Richard R. Blake, Christian Education Consultant, Book Store Owner

Ride the Wheel

It’s a challenge to stay at the centre of the wheel of change. It’s like riding the merry-go-round in a playground. The centre is the safest part to stay, with much less risk of being thrown off. Yet the centrifugal forces of our emotions threaten to send us to the edge as we struggle to maintain our grip of the centre. The longer we can stay there, the more laughter we experience in the face of adversity. I’ve been experiencing that too. Today was a bit of a challenge and I rode the ledge for a couple of hours. Having this perspective of existence that I’ve spoken of before, I’m finding it easier to find my way back to centre. Even so, I’ve also noticed that to edge away a bit from centre propels me into more action. There’s a fine line there that must be negotiated. The dance of life.

Never Give Up

You know, I just responded to someone this evening and wrote that I could see the light at the end of the tunnel. We all know that saying. When times are hard and the situation seems hopeless, we usually turn a corner and can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Looking at the situation, I fully saw this about a month or two ago and figured that the light at the end of the tunnel would’ve materialized by now. I mean, it’s there, just not here yet. I still have more tunnel to go through. In the dark, I’ve noticed, the distance of the light is deceiving. Will I reach the opening today, tomorrow, next week, next month, or 2006? I don’t know. Hanging on is really tough some days but I still refuse to give up.

Lee Down is a Professional Coach, Trainer/Facilitator, Speaker, & Writer of onemancan.ca” target=”_new One Man Can Human Capital Development that focuses on relationships, the key foundation to success in business and life. With more than 15 years professional experience and a thirst for truth and understanding, he focuses on the human spirit and human capacity.

Working with clients, he facilitates the breaking down of beliefs, barriers or obstacles that bring clients forward on their journey of discovery with spirit, energy, abundance, passion and purpose, integrating the mind and body experience. Working with business, he brings visionary leadership and relationship skills to the forefront that witnesses an empowered culture evolve and develop directly impacting the improvement to the bottom-line.

Your thoughts are strong and powerful and they influence your life on a daily basis. Positive thoughts or negative thoughts, they all play a role.

Your subconscious mind does not know the difference between a positive thought or a negative thought. It will just produce what you focus on. You receive what you believe.

So what are you focusing on? What are you believing in? Are you focusing and believing in yourself? That you have abundance and joy in your life? That as long as you continue to take action that good things will happen in your life? That you will achieve your goals? Or are you always expecting the worst, doom and gloom? Nothing is ever going to happen good in my life?

Well, no matter which way you are thinking you are right. Cause you will receive what you believe.

If you are always focusing on the negative, what you can not do or what you are lacking in your life then you are receiving exactly what it is you want. You are making those thoughts your dominate thoughts and what you make your dominate thoughts is what you will receive.

The Universe will always supply you with exactly what you dwell on, the things that you make your dominate thoughts on a daily basis.

What you believe in, in your life, has a great impact on what you receive in life.

Change your future by changing your beliefs today. Start believing in yourself and your abilities. Start believing that you can overcome any obstacle that gets in your way, that you are a success in anything you do and that you will have abundance and wealth and happiness in your life.

When you start to believe, you will start to receive.

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Hello everybody and a good day (or night !) to you all.My name is Nicholas Dixon and I am in my early twenties and I reside on the beautiful island of Jamaica.I work full time in a public library , but in my spare time I design and market websites.I personally think that it is fun to help my fellow brother or sister to get what they want out of this life.

Success.What a powerful word and so sought after , yet it is so elusive to so many of us.If you look carefully at my personal quote on my website , you will realise that it contains a lot of truth.Success is never achieved by thinking of your own wants and needs , but by thinking about other people’s wants and needs.Have you every notice that the more you give of yourself , the more you have to give ? This is called the law of abundance , the more you give the more you receive.

Believe me my friend , this is one of the most fundamental keys to success along with hard work and perseverance.When you apply these steps to your life , I am sure that you will find it fuller and more richer than before.

Once I was “down on my face” and living life everyday without any meaningful purpose and going through a lot of personal torment.I used to believe that happiness came from the things and people that surround me , but oh what a terrible mistake !! As Woody Allen puts it , “The talent of being happy is appreciating and liking what you have , not what you don’t have”.The morale to that is quite simply , learn to love and believe in yourself.Learn to believe in the word believe , because it is a powerful word.It breaks down all barriers and removes all fears once firmly established in the mind and will not stop in the path of any obstacle.Believe in your dreams my friend because it is the basis of your success.

One last thing I would like to mention is a mental-spiritual theory called Positive Thinking.Positive thinking , my friend is simply recognising the negatives in life but refusing to dwell on them.Some people may argue at this point that I am being unrealistic by doing that and that it may not work.But believe me my friend it does work , but only if you give it a try from the bottom of your heart.Try giving yourself daily “mental cleansing “ so as to clear your mind of any negative thoughts that might exist in it.

The positive thinker always stays on top of his game , always triumphing in the end.He refuses to lose , but if he does lose , he goes after his prize again and again.He does not lose heart when he fails , because he knows that the real failure comes when he does not learn from his mistake.

The positive thinker views each day as a new opportunity to make himself and the world in which he lives a better place.Being positive minded makes the difference if you are going to be sad or happy ,bright or dull , dreary or cheery , productive or non-productive.

This is not simply to do, but when practise regularly it becomes quite natural.This is key to Positive Thinking because what a man thinketh that is what he will become.If you think about small things you will achieve small things , but if you do it the other way around you will be surprise at how life can be to you.

At the end of the day , when you have reconditioned your mind , buy yourself or a friend a gift so as to show your apprecation.This can be in the form of anything , as long as you it makes you feel good about your self which is the reason of this article.Until then peace and I hope that you will put into action what you have just read.

©2003 Nicholas Dixon

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Nicholas Dixon is the Webmaster/CIO for the Oceanroc family of websites.A positive minded individual in his early twenties , Nicholas believes in striving to be the best of one’s self in this world.His mission for you his readers , is for you to feel the same way about yourself.You can visit his online store at WWW.Cafeshops.com/Oceanroc” target=”_new WWW.Cafeshops.com/Oceanroc

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“Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one’s values.” Ayn Rand

Have you ever consciously looked at your values and worked out what is important to you? More often than not we go through life without recognising what it is that drives us, what we’re truly searching for. The following exercise is designed to help you get clear about what it is you want, the principles that truly govern your life.

When your lifestyle harmonizes with your values things have a way of flowing, everything just feels right. By the same token when your way of life does not reflect the values you hold dear it can seem that you’re constantly swimming against the tide, that you’re perpetually stressed and frustrated.

The following exercise can help you clarify your values, the principles by which you live.

Look carefully at the following list of words:

Wealth; happiness; love; companionship; autonomy; charity; community; success; health; respect; creativity; dignity; integrity; recognition; authenticity; beauty; peace; family; humour; orderliness; fame; status; self-expression; justice; influence; spirituality; adventure; honesty; nurturing; leadership; service; power; commitment; independence; stimulation; relaxation; risk; security.

You may think of others that aren’t listed in which case just add any that come to mind. Some of the words may mean the same to you, depending on your interpretation of them, and you can group those together as one value.

Having considered the list carefully, go back and score each value from 1-10, depending on how important it is to you with 10 being very important. Be as honest as you can. This is not about listing what you think your values should be. No one else is going to see this exercise – unless you choose to share it with them. There are no ’shoulds’ – it’s about listening to your heart, rather than your head. Remember, when your way of life doesn’t reflect the values that are important to you, you are out of alignment and will struggle to feel fulfilled.

Once you’ve worked your way through the list, scoring each, choose 6 that seem really vital to you and then ask yourself whether your lifestyle truly reflects the 6 values you’ve highlighted.

When you know what your true values are you may look at a prospective job, a relationship, where you live etc. and see that you need to make some adjustments to bring things more into line with your values.

For example, ‘peace’ might have figured in your list of 6 values. What does that mean to you? Quiet, when you’re actually living in a very noisy environment? A calm domestic life when it’s maybe often fraught and angry? Or perhaps there are battles going on at work, personality clashes that are causing tension and stress. Or are you searching for an inner peace, maybe some kind of spiritual calm? You need to be very clear about your interpretation of your values.

Take time over this exercise. You need to be really honest with yourself if you’re serious about making changes in your life, getting ever-closer to who you really are and what you truly want from your life.

Finally, you may choose to create an affirmation from the 6 values you have selected as being the most important to you. For example, ‘My life is filled with creativity and adventure. I am healthy and successful in everything I do and I feel loved and respected by my family, friends and colleagues.’

christinecompton.com/ Christine Compton is The Vision Coach and helps people create the blueprint for their life and start to live the life they only ever dreamed of.

I would like to begin the task of breaking down the barriers that hinder our own success. We have all been thought the basics of life and what it takes to succeed in the world. Unfortunately for most of us that meant this basic mentality: we grow up, we acquire our first job and focus on moving up within that company and or changing employers to better our income along the way using and applying the skills we have learned. This is what I consider to be the first barrier, one must overcome this as well as other instinctive (first response) barriers in order to achieve the success they desire.

This mentality is not necessarily a bad thing, for some they are quite happy to go through life being an employee. For others they follow the same path but are not as satisfied with the outcome. These are the individuals that always dreamed of something more but never acted on their true feelings. This also spans back to the first barrier mentioned in the beginning of the article. To achieve independent success one must travel outside their individual comfort zone and break free of some instinctive barriers we learn growing up. We all have a bad habit of becoming complacent when it comes to employment, we get to comfortable, we get use to that regular pay check and the thought of change also brings out the fear of failure. This is the comfort zone that is difficult to break free of.

Along the way we don’t stop to consider the possibilities we can create for ourselves. Today the cost of opening a small home based business is extremely modest in comparison to years past. The financial risks have also been decreased significantly. The cost of a franchise for instance in most cases is a make or break situation for the average person. Let’s face it who has that kind of money to risk and frankly I never liked the idea of having all my eggs in one basket. The internet has revolutionized the entire work at home industry, it commands a global reach to its users. Global reach means global sales opportunities for anyone willing to learn and put fourth the effort. Owning an internet business is really no different than a brick & mortar business except when it comes to the area in witch it can service. There are millions of internet users world wide (if you’re reading this your one of them) it makes you no different than me or your neighbor down the street or the man or women in the next state or country. The fact is that the potential is absolutely huge and will only continue to increase as the next generation grows up never knowing a world without the internet.

When I first started out I was not by any means a computer genus nor do I make that claim now, all I had was a dream to work at home, gain financial independence and spend that ever so precious quality time with my family. Prior to my first child I was caught where many of you are now. I was working a 70-80 hour work week as a manager of an automotive dealership. The money was good and a sparkling new car in the driveway was nothing to complain about. I struggled with the idea of letting it all go to try making it on my own. I quit my job and walked out with only a dream and a willingness to learn. In retrospect I would highly recommend getting your business off the ground prior to leaving your current job. I did experience the good the bad and the ugly when I first started out, but what business owner wouldn’t have a story or two to tell. There is certainly plenty of quality information and courses available on the internet today, the trick is finding something that interests you.

Always remember if you enjoy what you do you will never work a day in your life. I hope, if nothing else this article will encourage you to re-evaluate your current situation and help you start down the path of unlocking your true potential. The best of luck with all your future endeavors.

Jim Williams, is the owner of Opportunity Knox a small home based business running several affiliate realated websites.

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Emotional Drivers and Replication

In a revolution, a leader’s greatest weapon is the ability to inspire others to act from their own heart. When people act because they believe in something, they are acting from passion which is far more powerful than acting from obligation.

Understanding the color of a person’s brain (as described in part 1 of this article) is the foundation for the awareness and communication that motivate and institute productivity. This is the mental component of the complex matrix of leadership psychology. The emotional component has its foundation in the eight basic human needs.

Every decision you make and every action you take can be linked to at least one of eight human needs. These needs drive your motivation and greatly affect the emotions you have toward anything. These needs and the importance you rank them in will determine parts of your “personality”, they have been influenced by the way your brain processes information (brain color), the culture you grew up in, the friends you’ve had, your family and your experience. Studies have shown that the genetic makeup of your brain will also have an effect on which needs you would rank over others.

While any of these needs will give us a certain amount of drive, the more needs that a particular action or inaction fulfills, the more pleasure we get from it and the more it becomes addictive. So if, lets say, your job fulfills the needs of security, diversity, achievement, excellence, recognition and growth, you would really love your job. On the other hand if it only met your need for security, you would likely get up every morning and try to find a reason why you shouldn’t go to work. As a leader, if you look at subordinates’ actions from a perspective of the brain color and their needs, their behavior, and how to direct it, become extremely clear.

The problem is that we do not always fill these needs in a positive way. For example, in order to fill the need for belonging; people sometimes have a problem saying “No” when they know they don’t really have time for the request. Or some may put others down in order to make themselves feel more significant. While we will never really be free of this, the awareness of it will make a huge difference in the way we make important decisions. Self awareness of these needs is just as important to a leader as being able to perceive them on others. For example if a leader knows that significance is one of his top 3 ranked needs, the next time he is in process of making a decision, he will ask questions like “What need am I trying to fulfill” and if significance is suspected “Is this really in line with being a good leader, or am I just trying to get a quick fix of Significance?”. The answer will gage which is the better leadership decision.

The Eight basic Emotional Drivers

Belonging/Love
Connection from being with others, or sense with self

Security/Control
Knowing what will happen, having security in our lives

Diversity/Change
Wanting a surprise, having variety and adventure

Recognition/Significance
Having others pay attention to us, feeling important

Achievement
The need to succeed in our plans, completion

Challenge/growth
The opportunity to achieve and to grow

Excellence
Self-satisfaction and pride in the things we do

Responsibility/Contribution
The need to give to others

The eight Emotional Drivers are in essence emotional triggers. What we do and enjoy in life is the result of one or more of these needs being fulfilled. Any one of these needs can give us a certain amount of motivation, but the more needs that a particular task fulfills, the more motivated we are to take action.

In the context of Revolutionary Leadership, (DC) applications of the colored brain and the eight needs start with the leader’s awareness and implementation within specific groups of key influencers within the organization. These create micro-cultures that in turn replicate to the rest of the organization.

Replication is the essence of revolution and takes place when the core group has internalized the “Directive Communication™” concepts and applies them with others to increase their personal fulfillment at work.

Once this has happened, leaders train the organizations key influencers (core group) in the US Special Forces “Force Multiplication” tactics.

This has allowed US A-teams to go into countries ,find those who are dissatisfied with the current system of government, get them passionate about a cause, train them in psychological and guerrilla warfare, and create a revolution from within the country itself.

The corporate revolution follows the same premise to create a more productive, more fulfilling workplace. From the core group, individuals create “Colored Brain” A-teams incorporating different organizational hierarchies (i.e. management, supervisors, front line, and support). This team will find better solutions to productivity obstructions and cross relate to most people in the organization. The team then becomes the strike force that ignites the revolution from within, they are the force for the good of the organization. They gain a strong sense of purpose because they are fighting to fulfill their own needs, not just doing the job. They are armed with the psychological weapons of progress and their own emotional levers to give strength and fortitude whenever needed.

For example: a senior manager in a Singaporean organization came up with the following personal new associations to his eight human needs after a Directive Communication™ based Leadership course.

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Control
over the change process gives a deeper sense of security instead of sitting back and waiting to see what happens, and then complaining about it.

Belonging
is found in groups and their support, and in my own efforts to make a difference in the lives of others.

Recognition
may not always come from superiors but from those inside and outside the group for my efforts to work with everyone well, and the results we achieve as a team.

Diversity
comes from creating an attitude to find new ways of dealing with old issues and play a part in creating a constantly improving environment that is exciting to everyone that is in it.

Achievement
comes from the results of progress and the personal success of moving forward. Every problem is an opportunity to achieve.

Growth
comes from the ability to do something meaningful that makes me grow personally

Excellence
comes from proving a point that I can do it, that I can take control

Responsibility
comes from helping others in the organization to get a better life at work.

With greater awareness and through experiential methods, people within an organization Change their perceptions of what work really represents to their lives. A leader catalyzes and replicates this change.

When an individuals needs are aligned with the organizations mission, individuals internalize the belief that “being” a certain way on the job fulfills their personal needs of who they want to become as a people.

The greatest leaders are those who understand the emotional needs of others and are willing find alternative ways to fulfill their own needs in order to exalt others. They are the leaders that help others to lead and bring organizations to greatness.

When a leader gives up his significance, he allows others to feel it. When others feel that they are significant in the process of revolution, the concept of “buy-in” is no longer an issue.

When there is ownership, there is long-term commitment, when there is commitment there is enthusiasm, when there is enthusiasm, there is a sense of fulfillment in what we do, and when we are fulfilled, we are more innovative and productive. We are then, living and performing at our peak.

To lead change, remember that every revolution starts from the People.

For more information on the detailed 6 step process for Transformational Change, find a Directive Communication practitioner in your area.

Arthur F Carmazzi is the founder of the Directive Communication Methodology and has 19 years specializing in psychological approaches to workforce enhancement and corporate culture transformation. He is a renowned speaker in the Asian Region and has advanced the Corporate Training industry with innovative experiential techniques and tools that have been acknowledged by some of the world’s greatest organizations. He is the best selling co-author of “The 6 Dimensions of Top Achievers”, and author of “Identity Intelligence” and “Lessons from the Monkey King”

Arthur is the developer of the CBCI (Colored Brain Communication Inventory) and HDMA Emotional profiling tools used for “Psycho-Productivity” management. These tools has been implemented across a variety of HR and Leadership disciplines to generate greater efficiency of human capital.

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Have you ever felt that incredible weight of the world on your shoulders, spinning out of hand? I’m here to show you ways to relieve that overwhelming feeling of stress that just sends you reeling into the pit of doom.

1. Step back and find the humor.

Today I was visiting with a friend, after several months of missing her. I mentioned that my son was out of control these days, and we talked about how we’d both threatened our sons with not making their next birthday if they didn’t settle down. Neither of us would do anything to hurt our sons, and they know that. But suddenly we both felt the humor in our empty threats. Their behavior seemed less extreme and we knew we’d be able to get through the next moment because we were laughing at the last moments.

2. Go ahead and cry your heart out.

Tears are cleansing. Allow your tears to wipe clean the heavy burdens you’ve carried. Accept that part of life as what it is and move past the stressor to a new step. Sometimes we forget the blessing of rain upon dry land. When the storms come, the land may be barren, but as sure as the raindrops fall, there’s life beneath the surface.

3. Focus on the tasks at hand.

Sometimes we focus so much on the issues that we forget our work to be done right now. When we let go of the issues and stressors; we give them to God so we can turn our focus back to what has to be done right now. Living in the moment often reduces our stress. When we can’t change the past, and the future is just out of reach, we can stay focused on the moment and life becomes simpler.

4. Stay the course.

When stress dumps on us, we’re often tempted to make radical changes in our lives, adding more stress onto the heap of changes that we have to deal with at that moment. But we don’t have to react to stress with more stress. If we choose in that moment of time to simply stay the course, do what has to be done to deal with whatever issues we’re faced with and keep our course the same, the results are two fold. We remove additional stressors. And we give ourselves time to get past one stressful time before we must stress again.

5. Chuck the stress.

You know you want to chuck it. So, for the moment, do just exactly that. Chuck all the stress and go for a walk, take the kids for ice cream, get a manicure, give yourself a pedicure, but do something that totally distracts you long enough to clear your mind and focus on the issue. There are times when this isn’t a realistic suggestion, but other times, this is the only solution that even remotely is feasible. Look it over, if nobody is bleeding, nobody is dying, chuck the stress for some instant gratification and then go back and face your lions with a fresh face.

Are you living with incredible stress and want to find an exit?

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