Archive for March, 2007

God’s Gifts

Saturday, March 31st, 2007

The desired end of man on earth is not happiness, nor health, but holiness. God has one destined end for us: holiness. We were made in the image of God and His aim is the production of saints.

God didn’t save us because He pitied us. He created us to be holy and He sent Jesus to die for our sins so that we could be rightly related to Him.

The Atonement means that God can put us back into perfect union with Himself, without a wedge between, because of the death of Jesus Christ. Do we long for that union or do we just want the blessings of God?

Sometimes I think God’s purpose is to make me happy. If you listen to my prayers you would think I’d found a link to a “blessing machine.” It’s not necessarily all prayers for myself or my family - even prayers for others present a long list of wants for them.

It’s not about what I want! God isn’t waiting to hear our wants! He desires to bless us, but in being a Perfect Father, we don’t always see his blessings as blessings. You know what I mean? We’re not always excited about the gift of patience when we have to wait for our dreams to come true. We don’t want the gift of endurance when we have to suffer through many trials to become a stronger person.

Sometimes I think I’ve refused to open some gifts. Instead of “giving thanks in all things” I refuse to open the gift. Oh yeah, I get the circumstances regardless, but I refuse to accept the blessing gift of endurance because I just whine and complain and beg my way around it, never opening the actual gift given.

Seems I also notice that when God wants to give us a gift, He doesn’t give up after one try. When we refuse those character-building gifts, we in essence, open up the door for the enemy to continue to mess with our circumstances.

Do I believe God sits up there making a long list of “character gifts” I need and then sends bad circumstances my way? No! God gives good gifts. The devil can easily handle sending evil our way. God only allows it if it is actually going to be for our good as Romans 8:28 promises. It’s hard to see the good of bad circumstances when we can’t get away from looking at the outside wrapping.

If we respond right to circumstances, we will always be blessed by them. Not only us, but others around us. We are either a light on a hill shining Him for others, or we are in darkness under the bushel basket.

Oswald Chambers says, “The first thing that will hinder [this] joy, is the captious irritation of thinking out circumstances. The cares of this world, said Jesus, will choke God’s Word. Be rightly related to God, find your joy there, and out of you will flow rivers of living water.”

We get so caught up in ourselves. Advertising has convinced us that life should be easy and beautiful and full of everything we want.

It’s not about what we want! It’s about God being a Good Father! Have you been refusing His gifts to you because they aren’t what you would choose for yourself? Children weren’t meant to know what they really need. Parents were provided for that. Many of us didn’t have good examples of who God is in our parents and we have a hard time seeing God as a good parent.

Believe the Word!

When you are rightly related to God through salvation and sanctification, you will be exactly where you need to be. Wherever you are, you are there by the permission of God, and your reaction to the circumstances will determine whether you fulfill your purpose.

Joy is available when we are truly thankful in all things. Not about them, but in them. Not thankful for them, but in them — that you may be sanctified and set apart for God’s purpose.

Think again about your circumstances. Where do you stand with your gifts? Have you tossed them on the ground refusing to open them as a child having a temper tantrum would? Repent, crawl up into His lap and find Peace and Joy amidst the circumstances.

Donna L. Watkins lives in Central Virginia with her wonderful husband enjoying birds, wildlife, gardening, forests, nature travel and her cat, Squeek. She has one grown-up son who inspires her life in many ways. Read more of Donna’s articles at TheHerbsPlace.com and subscribe to her free mailing, A Healing Moment. theherbsplace.com/ahm.html theherbsplace.com/ahm.html

Six keys to keys build vision - point four

Saturday, March 31st, 2007

4. Start somewhere (put to use what you already have)

“Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.”
-Benjamin Disraeli

“There is nothing more frightful than ignorance in action.” -Johann von Goethe

“Remember, people will judge you by your actions, not your intentions. You may have a heart of gold — but so does a hard-boiled egg.” -Anon.

The missing link between inactivity and achievement is initiative. I believe the missing quality in the homogenized society that we live in is initiative. Ask any employer who is building a business and the number one quality they seek in new recruits is initiative. Having the ability to think and act.

I recall years ago having to address the off duty phone calls I received from my staff of the Hotel I managed, that were not essential. Missing lemons, staff not turning in, an individuals phone number, the list was endless. The first week-end following my staff address was free of calls but not without event. On my return to the hotel the following Monday, I discovered there had been three fire appliances called to the scene and the hotel kitchen had burnt down.
Apparently my request consideration towards my free time had not enhanced my desire to build initiative in problem solving.

In order to be a visionary one must show initiative in our educational development. Ignorance is intelligence gone to seed, as is a vision without initiative. We must seek to develop a consistent plan of personal growth, which includes our educational needs. Read when sat and listen when on the move. Redeem time by making the best use of it. Motivational tapes, inspirational biographies and documentaries are great ways of enhancing our education and so is networking with fellow visionaries.

· Serving someone else’s vision is a great way to develop your own.

As a coach, I am as committed to building my practice, as I am someone else’s. I provide coaching on life issues, strategic planning, vision and values along with support on a friendship level. We don’t have to have all the answers to be successful in a given field, but we do need to have a positive mental attitude and a teachable spirit.

Successful business people are generally motivated people. The prime reason for this is they have learned time is the main resource that cannot be squandered without good intent. Being successful in business generally allows us to use our time as we choose. This can provide greater leisure opportunities and more quality resources.

A great way to appreciate an improved quality of life is to spend time with those who are doing so. More resources, faster cars and bigger houses are not everyone’s idea of success. These may well follow as a result of careful planning and our responsible attitude towards initiative, however most visionaries are not driven by success they are motivated by purpose.

Here are some ways of defining where to focus your activities:

· Ask yourself the question “What stirs your emotions?”
· What would cause you to move country in order to participate in?
· Who would I like to be mentored by if time or history allowed?
· If all the resources were at my disposal, what would I do right now?

“Write the bad things that are done to you in sand, but write the good things that happen to you on a piece of marble.” -Arabic Parable

“Do to others what you would have them do to you” -Bible, Matthew 7:12

There is an old Chinese proverb that says, “The hardest step of a long march is the first”

Identifying what we have does not come easy to an individual who can only focus on what they need. This paralyzes us into inactivity unless we start at the point of which we can. Excuses for
Starting are based in procrastination and procrastination is brought about by too many options. When we reduce the options our focus becomes sharper.

I was in Africa recently doing a little shopping at a local shed in the middle of two townships. I had a raging thirst and the intense heat drove me to this drinks shed. There were cases of coke in the old-fashioned style glass bottles stacked in the shade. It was not chilled, and cherry flavoured. There were two options. Drink it or leave it!
Back home in my local supermarket recently, I became intensely agitated and rather sad when I had to stand amongst the huge aisles of soft drink as my children debated as to the flavour of drink we should buy. Too many options are not always a good thing, and especially when our future depends on the outcome.

· If you are faithful with a little you will never lack

Building a life out of vision requires an unselfish motive. Being mean spirited with your vision and resources will only lead to isolation and lack. I have watched individuals over the years with so many resources but no vision to make use of them. They eventually lose them or even worse have them rot before their eyes.

I friend of mine in England started a club where young disadvantaged people could attend and have fun and food. So popular was this activity that they decided to bus the kids in from the surrounding city. I met a businessman who had bought a custom bus on a whim to use in the future. I suggested he may wish to give it to this organization to help them achieve their objective of giving support to their community. He declined for all sorts of reasons. Today the businessman’s bus is rotting and my friends community programme owns twelve double-decker buses (London type), local bus mechanics give their time free to maintain them and all the resources to run them have been provided.

Vision attracts resources whether we support it or not. We can be generous in helping others succeed or we can be selfish and focus on our own needs. A generous attitude is always a great place to start. Interestingly, most genuine visionaries have started out supporting in some way or another someone else’s vision whilst defining their own.

· Responsibility or ownership

The difference between taking our responsibility within the vision and ownership of it is motive. One can never own something that has been entrusted to us, just as one can never give away something that we are responsible for. When defining our vision, we must accept responsibility for the leading of it, yet recognize we cannot treat those drawn to it as if we have exclusive ownership of it. One sure way to kill vision is to hold onto it as if we were the sole owners of it.

In our awareness of growing vision, we must treat those resources that are added to it from a perspective of being responsible leaders, whilst letting go and letting growth take its course.

This is a fundamental principle we must observe along the journey to fulfilling vision. Those that join this vision will also need a sense of ownership or partnership within its operation. The motive by which we serve this vision will determine whether we understand our responsibility without declaring ownership of it.

· If we become confused in the midst of this vision, re-visit the point of conception

Vision is in a sense alive. It requires our attention in the same way that a baby would. We never own our children we are entrusted with them. This shows our responsibility towards their growth, nurture and eventual maturity. The end result is an individual that we have invested boundaries, values and behavioral skills into. The day will come all too soon when we have to open the door to the world and let them take their place in it, hoping and praying that they will live by the values that we invested into them and so complete the cycle of life.

When in the midst of the kinetic like activities that vision attracts, it is all too easy to lose sight of its humble beginnings. Many an individual and organization has learned to its own demise, that moving into other opportunities that we are neither skilled nor gifted in will often result in something that we never intended to take place. It is at such a point we need to ask the questions before we continue down the pathway presented to us.

a) Is this consistent with my personal values and boundaries?

b) Will this direction achieve my overall objectives?

c) Will this new direction strengthen or weaken what we / I, do well?

d) What is my motive for considering such a path?

Remember what builds vision is pertinent to growth. We should not ask the question what will cause vision to grow, but rather what will stop it. We don’t spend time looking for things to make a child grow, but we instinctively know what will hider its growth. By applying the same principle, we will give vision the life it needs to grow.

Tony Mckeown is director of Coaching 4 life NZ and regularly travels the world speaking and motivating groups and conferences. His passion and personal mission statement in Life is “To bring a message of hope to a people of destiny”. Tony has authored many “How To” manuals along with regular weekly and monthly newsletters.

His services and free motivational downloads are available from his resource site coaching4life.net.nz coaching4life.net.nz

The Be-Attitudes-The Conscious Road to Peace and Happiness

Saturday, March 31st, 2007

It has been my experience that the Beatitudes from The Gospel of Matthew is often misunderstood and, be clear, I am not trying to explain them now (A great explanation of The Beatitudes can be found in “Sermon on the Mount” by Emmet Fox). The “Be”- Attitudes are just some effective ideas to guide you on the road to more peace and happiness.

The model for manifestation is Be-Do-Have. You must first Be what you want to Be, in order to Do what you want to Do, and to Have what you want to Have. Sounds pretty simple and in fact it is. The “Course in Miracles” states, “Only what you have not given can be lacking in any situation,” and you cannot give what you don’t have within you.

How many times have you had a thought such as, “As soon as I get a house I’ll be happy? Or, “When I lose 10 pounds, I’ll be satisfied.” These are examples of putting the Be-Do-Have model in the wrong order. If you think you need to have a house in order to be happy, the order is reversed. If you need to lose 10 pounds to be satisfied, again, the order is reversed. There are some questions that beg to be asked, what if you don’t get the house, or lose the 10 pounds, then what? Or, if you do get it, will you truly be happy? And, How long will the feeling last?

Let’s say you decide to Be happy or satisfied first. Then whether you get what you want or not, you will already Be happy or satisfied. There are some much more empowering consequences that follow your decision to be happy/satisfied. How about, you get to be happy/satisfied now! You also bring a totally different energy to the process of getting what you desire; you will naturally attract what you want.

“Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside.” Og Mandino

When you Be what you desire, then you will “Do” what is needed in order to “Have” what you desire. Remember the word is “Be”-havior, not “Do”-havior, the “Be” comes first. Simply, decide to Be what you want in your life and “Be”-come it.

• Be Happy
• Be Peaceful
• Be Loving
• Be Accepting
• Be Joyful
• Be Mindful
• Be Still and Know
• Be Grateful
• Be Appreciative
• Be Forgiving
• Be Creative
• Be Expansive
• Be Faith-filled
• Be Nurturing
• Be On Purpose
• Be Open
• Be Flexible
• Be Generous

Within you is everything necessary for living a full, happy and purposeful life. The best gift that you can give to yourself is to “Be” YourSelf.

Barbara Dixon is the author of “Opening to God as Source: Discovering the Keys of the Kingdom” and co-author with Rev. Robert Yarbrough of “Who Told You?” Visit Barbara’s store at lulu.com/Barbaradixon lulu.com/Barbaradixon She is a life coach, hypnotherapist, spiritual teacher and creator of “The Four Cornerstones of Wealth Coaching Program, which explores Values, Vision, Purpose and Mission. For a free Life Evaluation send an email to mailto:mindfulresolutions@yahoo.com mindfulresolutions@yahoo.com and put Evaluation as the subject. Find out about upcoming teleclasses and personal appearances go to mindfulresolutions.com mindfulresolutions.com

How to Mind Read Someone

Saturday, March 31st, 2007

How wonderful it would be if we can read the mind of our partner or even anyone whom we are attracted to. We would know what he or she likes, whether he or she is in love with me or simply whether he or she is cheating on you!

Although I do believe that there a psychics who can really mind read, I also understand that it may be a God given gift and may not easily be modelled or learnt. So well what can we do? Cry and wallow into self-pity because of a lack in skills?

NO WAY!

I attended a course call Patterns of Excellence which encompassed the essentials of NLP. One part of the program included this thing called language pattern of “Mind Reading”. This is really cool I thought! This trainer taught that the tools could also be used to seduce someone! This is way too cool.

In NLP, mind reading is simply using phrases to embed a suggestion into someone else’s mind to make the person more receptive and comfortable to what you propose. For example, when out on a date, you can say this to build rapport and play the lead role of the date:

“Did you know that XXX Restaurant serves the freshest oysters? You want to go there for dinner?”

Your date will be amazed at how well you understand him or her and you know he or she will be in agreement. And the rest of the journey is made easier.

Have fun testing it out!

Mark is a Certified NLP Practioner who writes articles to help help others discover more about themselves and unleash their latent potential for excellence or attracting the people they like. Visit 1seduction.com 1seduction.com

Fighting Grief: The Time To Show You Care

Friday, March 30th, 2007

The news came as a shock to us all. He who had been ill for days had been taken to the hospital. It was found out that he had very high amount of creatinine in his blood, resulting from a stone in one of his kidneys.

Creatinine is a liquid waste. It causes slow blood circulation, making even breathing difficult. While the normal amount of creatinine in our body is 1.5%, he had 23.3% of it.

He had assured us it was only a frustrating duo of ulcer and bronchitis so no one thought it was a kidney problem, which I only used to hear about from other people’s sob stories but never thought would happen to my own flesh and blood- my father.

A tube was inserted into my father’s body to start the perritonial dialysis. The nurse had warned it would be painful because the anesthesia would not reach the innermost part of his body. Still, I was shaken to hear his tortured scream as the nurse punctured his abdomen.

For days my father struggled with a tremble to move a muscle or to eat without vomiting the food out. He couldn’t seem to swallow anything down his throat. My father…whom I neglected while others longed for a paternal presence in their homes…oh, how I had wronged him!

For the first time, my siblings and I showed how we truly felt, even humbling down to our knees to pray and beg God, in the midst of weeping and yes…running noses, to show us mercy. It was quite a scene…sure beats “Maalaala Mo Kaya”.

Friends became out of reach, or perhaps it was me who was withdrawing from them. In their absence, strangers and people I hadn’t heard for years came pouring in to help.

It took great effort to focus at work but like a puppet I moved on, not daring to disturb normalcy. Somehow I had kept myself from bawling for moping could not help my father.

Our prayers and (this will sound corny as hell) love have done wonders to my father although he still has to undergo hemodialysis. Now he could even make faces at us. Funny how he tries to make us smile in the face of grief.

My siblings and I have become closer than ever. And the realization that our parents had raised us well dawned in. In this hell we are going through, we’ve found a little heaven. Indeed I had a lot to thank God for. He had allowed us the pain that has shaken us to the core. But a pain meant to heal us spiritually and emotionally, a pain that has brought with it people we could count on. Sigh, God’s mysterious ways!

Only now have I heeded to the good ol’ saying romantics often chided to me: Always take the chance of showing that you care, for you never know when that chance would be taken away from you.

Thank God, I still have that chance.

Clarity

Friday, March 30th, 2007

Before you begin a thing, remind yourself that difficulties and delays quite impossible to foresee are ahead. You can only see one thing clearly and that is your goal. Form a mental vision of that and cling to it through thick and thin. (Kathleen Norris)

If we are ever in doubt about what to do, it is a good rule to ask ourselves what we shall wish on the morrow that we had done. (John Lubbock)

The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners can tell you where they are going, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them. (Denis Waitley)

We can be our own worst enemy at times.
How often can you see that it was you who actually got in your own way on the path to fulfilling a goal?

It was usually only a thought that got in the way! Something that you made up…so, you could make up something else.
A replacement thought that empowers you.

Write down as many of the discouraging thoughts that you can recall, from those times you actually stopped yourself.
Alongside each of these, record a replacement thought that really gives you some power.

What could you put in place so that you remember to replace your negative thoughts with an empowering thought?
An automatic pop up on your computer screen?
A colourful card sitting up on your desk or pasted to the front of your diary?

Most days we say some horrid things to ourselves and we aren’t even conscious that the tape is playing!

Consider also, the people with whom you surround yourself.
Are there people with whom you could spend more time?
Are there people with whom you could spend less time?

Lastly, when exploring your 2004 New Year resolutions - here are a few pointers to send you on your way:

Are your intented outcomes crystal clear to you and do you have them somewhere on display for yourself - in words or images?
Do you have powerful reasons for wanting to accomplishing your chosen goals?

Make a practice of writing down your 6 top priority goals, daily.
It is worth those extra 5 minutes each day - recreating your desire for reaching that next stepping stone.

Are your New Year resolutions feasible?
Are the deadlines too tight? Could your goals be broken down into bite sized chunks (i.e. milestones along the way).
You may easily become discouraged if your goals seems impossible to achieve. This can chip away at your confidence in going after what you want.
A strong belief in your goals is mandatory.

Have you put something in place to really celebrate each milestone victory, great or small?
This will expand your personal confidence. Reward the source of your results.

For further personal exploration:
A site with practical tools for creative dreamers is howmuchjoy.com
An extremely resourceful site to visit is ehappylife.com/custom/about.html

If the links (above) are not ‘live’, then simply cut and paste them into your browser.

©Thea Westra is an international life coach who resides in Perth, Western Australia. She is editor and publisher of a free, monthly newsletter at forwardsteps.com.au forwardsteps.com.au Thea also publishes a few blogs, visit here inspiration-daily.blogspot.com/ inspiration-daily.blogspot.com/ for directional links to each.

Setting Goals - 5 Secrets for Success

Friday, March 30th, 2007

Keep falling short of your goals? follow these 5 secrets to achieve your most success yet!:

1. Know your “WHY”

What is a “why” you ask? It is the reason why you decided to make your resolution or goal in the first place. Perhaps it is a health goal that will allow you to be more active with your kids and live longer. Maybe it is financial and you are ready to finally get peace of mind and reduce stress. Whatever the reason you are going after your goal, make sure you write down your why and put it somewhere that you will see it every day. I guarantee if you are making a change to appease someone else, it won’t work because your why becomes all about another person. Be very clear on why you are making your sacrifice and visualize what your success will look like. If you want, clip pictures of what you will be like, look like or feel like when you reach your desired goal to keep your eye on the prize

2. Be Realistic

Too many people fail because they create such an unrealistic expectation that they realize soon after that they took on more than they could handle. If you are trying to achieve a goal to quit smoking, lose weight or spend more time with family make sure it is reasonable. Losing 50lbs in 6 months would be a stretch for most. Why not commit to losing 1 pound per week? If you desire to spend more time with family why not look at your schedule and plan one evening or afternoon that you can spend with them and give them your full attention and love. You will see far more success when you stop expecting it to happen instantaneously and let the course of transition take its place naturally.

3. Keep track of your Progress

It is hard to know where you are at if you don’t know where you were or where you want to go. In other wards, write down where you are currently at today, maybe it is the amount of money you spend monthly, your current weight and measurements with a photo or taking a picture of the most unorganized room in your home. Once you can visually see in a picture or on paper where you are, next you will want to ensure you have your realistic goal set. Track daily or weekly your progress on your computer, camera, a calendar or in a notebook. Perhaps if you are trying to quit smoking, get out a calendar and for each day list the number of cigarettes you smoked, if it was zero give yourself a big happy face or a “you did it!” sticker to encourage yourself to do more of the same. Whichever your method keep track of where you are at. You are more likely to stick with a program if you are actually seeing the fruit of you labor.

4. Find a Support Group or Buddy

There is something to be said about accountability. Just knowing that you have someone to share with and also answer to, is invaluable. It keeps us on track and focused on our goals. Before I got married, one of my best friend’s was my financial accountability partner. This was to force me to harness my spending and not let it get out of hand and incur mounds of debt while I was trying to actually eliminate debt. I also used to have a gym partner to keep me on track. I knew I had to show up every morning because I would leave her hanging and would have to explain later. Life can get tough sometimes and even the fittest, finest and healthiest individuals have gone through frustration, disappointment and mini setbacks to get to where they are today. The difference is you need to get with a good buddy who doesn’t tear you down or nag you but rather inspires you to get back on the horse and be your best because they know the goals you have for yourself.

5. Reward Yourself!

For all the hard time and effort you are putting forth into your new resolution, you need to reward yourself. As a Personal Trainer I would follow a dedicated weigh training and cardio program as well as a strict diet for 6 of the week. To reward myself I would take day 7 to do whatever I wanted, which for me was no gym workouts and just lounging around and eat what I craved during the week even if it was ice cream, chips and a hamburger. The next day I’d get right back at it again. I knew that for every six days of hard work came a fun and relaxing reward. Maybe for you, you are controlling your spending but one day per week you can spend $25 on what you like frivolously like a dinner out with friends or a manicure. Whatever you do, don’t camp out there though. Once the reward day is over, it is time to get back to work.

**Remember to enjoy the process as much as the result you are seeking to achieve. Most people are thrilled to see even the smallest improvement. It gives us hope that we can achieve our goal if we commit and believe in ourselves. Love yourself and even if you fall down, don’t stay down-get back up and conquer! I know you can do it!**

Karla Davis is the President of Florida Home Staging & Redesign. She is a Home Stager, Professional Organizer, Interior Re-designer, as well as Public Speaker. She specializes in Staging and Organizing homes, office spaces and has over 10 years of experience and success within inside/outside Sales and Marketing. Karla is also the wife of Author, Paul Davis and is currently writing two books of her own. Karla’s life mission is to positively transform the homes and lives of everyone she meets.

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TEARS, STD’s and Winners

Friday, March 30th, 2007

Of ALL the things you think about, do you ever think about - what you think about? Have you ever thought that it matters?

Norman Vincent Peale, Napoleon Hill, W. Clement Stone and others understood what Earl Nightingale called “The Greatest Secret” — the power of the mind to change, achieve, conquer, and create. They understood the biblical injunction found in Proverbs - both a declaration of the human condition and the great promise of its change - that “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

What you tell yourself - not only matters - it absolutely controls your life. It determines the quality of your life and the results you’ll experience. A rose by any other name may not “be” a rose at all - but what someone else tells you it is, or what you think it is. The same holds true for us. We must constantly watch our self-talk — the most important feedback of all.

Dr. Maxwell Maltz made the landmark discovery he documented in his book “PsychoCybernetics” that the sub-conscious mind, and the body, can’t distinguish between reality and what is vividly imagined. Countless experiments have been conducted through the years that verify this.

I refer to the principles that encompass this whole phenomena as the T.E.A.R.S. syndrome: Thoughts give rise to Emotions which lead to Actions that generate Results which are Symptoms (both positive and negative - of either success or sorrow) of what we were thinking about.

It’s well known among experts of human achievement and performance that we move toward our dominant thought - we become what we continually think about. Well, this ALMOST always holds true. As I heard Brian Tracy once remark, if it were always true then most young men would become young women by age 20 and people that love to overeat would become a pizza!

Our dominant thoughts are often determined by who we listen to. Who do YOU LISTEN to? Why them? Often, others put you down to make themselves feel better, saying things like, “Don’t waste your time. I was going to try that, but I realized it wouldn’t work!” or “If it was that doable, then don’t you think everybody would be doing it?” (NO, because everybody else may be afraid of trying or hearing these “put downs”!)

Some well known examples of people that come to mind are Lucille Ball, Michael Jordan, and Walt Disney. Lucy was told by her first acting teacher to do anything with her life but act, and especially not comedy. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Walt Disney was told by the editor of the newspaper that he worked for that he should do something else because he just didn’t have any imagination! Thank goodness for all of us that they didn’t listen to these other people but persisted in nurturing their own dominant thoughts.

Do you ever feel that other people, circumstances or “things” are blocking your path to success? While they may contribute, these are merely external environmental factors. The distance between us and everything we want is only 6 inches - the 6 inches between our ears.

STD’s

There is a distinct difference between what Winners see, think and do compared with others. Winners See Touch Downs - Losers Self Talk Down.

Winners see with or through a “vision”. Winners see opportunities and openings in obstacles. They see chances and choices for change in challenges and they see triumph in trials and tests.

Winners watch what they think - is it empowering or disempowering? Does it help them focus on and move closer to achieving their goals or hold them back? If it holds them back, they let go of it quickly and replace it just as quickly with a winning thought.

Haven’t you ever felt that you have much more potential than you’re experiencing? You’re right - you do! What do you need to do to “get out of the way” of your own success?

Think differently - think different thoughts. Think, learn, be and do things differently - as well as do different things - so you can achieve different results.

Much like a Michelangelo working with a plain looking piece of marble and converting it into a masterpiece, I KNOW there’s a winner inside each of you - just waiting to be discovered and let out. But YOU are the sculptor - YOU hold the key.

No doubt you’ve heard the sentiment expressed that one of the saddest things in life is when someone “dies with their music still in them.” What keeps you from singing YOUR song? What are you thinking? Can you understand better the saying, “Whether you think you can or you can’t - you’re right!” ?

Of ALL the things you think about, do you ever think about - what you think about? It’s critical! T.E.A.R.S. of success or of sorrow. It’s all up to YOU. And THAT’s something to think about!

ACTION STEPS

Here are two action steps you can take to immediately go to work and start to master your thoughts to help create habits of success that will lead to your desired results:

First, study the T.E.A.R.S. concept until you “get hold” of it. Understand that even random Thoughts give rise to Emotions which lead to Actions that generate Results that are Symptoms (positive or negative - of success or sorrow) of what you were thinking about. Look at what you are experiencing. Is it what you want? Start with whatever point stands out and “work” backward and forward through the event chain to identify each of the aspect of the T.E.A.R.S. equation in that particular circumstance. This will increase your awareness of the power of this cause and effect relationship.

Next, when you face a challenging situation, ask yourself this simple question, “What would a Winner See, Think and Do?” in this circumstance and then immediately “Do it!” This will help your self-confidence and begin developing the habit of embracing empowering thoughts.

Until next time, all the best and keep winning!

©Larry H. Gassin 2006

Larry Gassin, CPA, is Co-founder and CEO of Advanced Coaching Solutions and is an author and speaker with over 20 years of experience as a professional business, executive and leadership coach. His passion is pointing people to the power of their potential and helping them achieve it.

He has had his own consulting, tax and accounting firm where he successfully competed against Big 4 and large regional and local firms for new clients - including a high-tech subsidiary of DuPont Corporation - winning the clients’ business. He’s gained in-depth entrepreneurial experience as the President and CEO of an energy systems technologies company he founded that has done business with customers across the nation.

He states, “Hope is great. But hoping that things might change directions on their own isn’t the best way to lead your life and build your career or business. It is unpredictable, unfulfilling, and unreliable.”
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What Motivates You - Desire or Fear?

Thursday, March 29th, 2007

The energy of desire is a powerful motivator and creative force. Yet we must state our desires clearly with the rewards of success in mind.

One of my recent clients had spent six years in a job where he felt unappreciated. Although he had the skills and experience to take other work, he was having trouble leaving his current position. While expressing his frustration, he kept saying, “I can’t stand this job!”

Desire and the energy it creates affect our intentions and actions. However, it is important to distinguish between desire motivation and fear motivation. We are either moving toward something we want, or, as my client was, away from something we do not want.

Fear motivation aims to protect and focuses on avoiding penalties for failure. It leads to feelings of inhibition (e.g., “I can’t”) or compulsion (e.g., “I have to.”). Desire motivation seeks rewards for success. It leads to volition (e.g., “I can.”) and propulsion (e.g., “I want to.”).

Not initially knowing where he would go next, my client was moving “from” an undesired position, mistakenly motivated by penalties for perceived failure. Of course, he had not failed; his job had failed him. The way we express our feelings will shape our beliefs, intentions, and actions, often without our awareness.

My client’s initial affirmation, “I can’t stand this job,” was working to keep him there. The mind is unable to focus on the reverse of an idea. It will delete a negative such as “can’t” and move directly to its dominant thought. What he had actually affirmed with strong emotion was, “I stand this job!”

Filled with energetic dislike for his job, he had not only been affirming that he would continue to “stand” his job. He had also intensified his unwanted staying power by mixing strong negative emotion with his words.

He went on to identify the position and job he wanted. Then he began to create statements focusing on rewards for moving to a satisfying and fulfilling position. Within two months, he had acquired a satisfying position with a new company, and, to his delight, an employer who regularly compliments him on his work.

Clearly focus on your desires each day. Ask yourself, “What do I want, exactly?” “What am I moving toward?” Allow your thoughts and words to move you toward your desires with faith in your God-given talents and potential.

For additional information about effectively combining positive emotions with desire, see the article, Affirm Your Intentions - Achieve Your Goals at: achieveezine.com/articles/affirmations.shtml” target=”_blank achieveezine.com/articles/affirmations.shtml

Remember that most successful achievers focus on the rewards of success. Think of one of your strongest desires and imagine what its attainment will make possible for you. The deepest desires of your heart will produce the energy to carry you forward to success. May the rewards of every success that you desire be yours!

© Copyright 2005 by Steve Brunkhorst. Steve is a professional life success coach, motivational author, and the editor of Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration, a popular mini-zine bringing great stories, motivational nuggets, and inspiring thoughts to help you achieve more in your career and personal life. Get the next issue by visiting achieveezine.com” target=”_blank AchieveEzine.com

Fear Is The Mind Killer

Thursday, March 29th, 2007

Fear.

In the words of a sci-fi film, “Fear is the mind killer. There is nothing to fear, but fear itself!”

Anyone remember the film? It was “Dune”.

It has often been said the fear we feel when attempting something new, is the fear of failure, of rejection, or of appearing foolish. It might not be a life-threatening fear, but it has been with us for as long as we can remember.

As children, (in my generation anyway), if you made a mistake in primary school, you stood a good chance of a ruler across the knuckles for ‘not listening’. We were taught from an early age – don’t take the risk, everyone will laugh at you, in fact the fear of failure became so bad at times, (because of the resultant whack over the knuckles), that I was so scared of the ‘result’, I couldn’t get the words out, even though I knew the answer.

You know I read a book once, a great book called, “Think and Grow Rich.” A great book full of great advice, but you know what I have found any time I have been faced with a challenge where I might be made to look foolish. I’ve found the opposite to be true, don’t think, do!”

The more you think about it, the more excuses you can think up, not to do it. It’s not quite the right time, everything’s not quite in place. You might fail.

I have come to the conclusion that success in anything doesn’t come about by thinking about it, (the ‘Paralysis Analysis’ approach), but getting out there and getting something started. More often than not you find that ‘Fear’ is nothing more than what people have been telling you all along – ‘False Evidence Appearing Real’.

I think it was Socrates who said that ‘Action equals knowledge’, so this is not a radical new concept, but in fact a secret of hundreds of years old.

I might think I could write an article, but before I get thinking of too many excuses to fail, I find that if I stick my neck out and jump in, the article gets written. Perhaps not well enough for a Pulitzer Prize, but it gets done!

Do you think my grammar and spelling are perfect? I use the spell checker my friend.

I’m a private pilot. You realise of course that at some point, the trainee student has to take the aircraft up on their own? Go ‘Solo’. I guarantee there are not many situations you will find yourself in that are as frightening.

So how did I get to be a pilot? I overcame my fear of flying alone, by doing it alone the minute the instructor stepped out and said, “You’re ready, away you go!” If I’d thought about it, I guarantee you I wouldn’t be a pilot today. I flew that aircraft shaking like a leaf, saying to myself, “Now you’ve done it, you fool! You have to get down again!” If I had thought about it for any length of time, I think I might honestly say that today, I might still be thinking about it.

I guess my point in writing this article is to encourage you not to think just do.

If you shoot for the stars, you might just hit the moon.

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