Archive for May, 2006

Emotional Pain - Can Anyone Help Me?

Wednesday, May 31st, 2006

Where does it hurt, why does it hurt, how can one describe it? For some it’s an intense feeling of loneliness, a lost and lonely place of falling, spiraling into a shadowy place called no man’s land. For others it’s a sense of disorientation, of being stripped of attachments as if there are no hands to hold, no strength to grip, no lifeline to cling to or hooks to grasp. Standing in a place you’ve never been before, losing all sense of belonging, being, or beloved. No identity, no reasoning through, no purpose save within the pain itself…

Pain comes in different shapes, different forms, different identities but always it comes in the same color…shades of gray that ultimately turn to black! This is the atmosphere of emotional, mental, physical, spiritual pain!

All pain comes out of two basic ingredients…death and darkness – death brings pain to different dimensions of our being. Spiritual-this is where it begins, the struggle of wills that results in death to the old man, bringing times of emotional and mental struggle until our own will lies dormant. We live as spiritual beings, either dwelling in spiritual death or spiritual life, but the pain that bears upon us brings one eternal cry to the individual soul, the question comes…” why am I in pain, what is the purpose of my life”….Where is God!

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort; who comforts us in all our affliction so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ.” -2 Corinthians 1:3-5-

…no purpose save within the pain itself. Perhaps we should begin here, where we have landed deep in the pit of darkness and sense of hopelessness. Into this darkness the one who created us says…I AM here ..the one who created you in your mothers womb, there is no darkness in me, fall into Me, let go and know that I am your God, I am your strength, I am your hope, I am your purpose for being, I am the Light that dwells in gross darkness and…you are mine! I know your agony, I feel your pain… I am here for YOU!

Help me to understand?

Our relationship with God and others must change if we are to grow but there’s pain in the growing. Releasing of much loved ‘things’ brings pain as death comes to break the chains of inanimate objects on our hearts. Times and places filled with good or sad memories entangle us until the one who created us says…enough! And the links are broken and pain is part of the process.

New seasons, new ways, new tasks, new locations all bring the pain of isolation from the past, a sense of loneliness creeps in and pain and sadness overwhelm us. Sickness, weakness, frailty, the fear of growing old and impending death they all bring a label marked pain. Whatever the pain is today it is the fruit of death and darkness- our humanity has no cure and no course of action but to run into the darkness and discover the core of our own existence. What we find is the LIGHT that brings newness, freshness, wholeness and healing. When we are dwelling with HIM whether in this life or moving into the next, pain has purpose. Pain holds hope and pain can be the pressure that releases us into His awesome Presence and Peace. His everlasting arms are there to enfold us.

Whatever situation you find yourself in, whatever pain is even right now moving through your inner being, embrace it! When you embrace the pain you embrace the Presence of God with it. Isaiah said; “He Himself took our infirmities and bore our sicknesses.” (Matthew 8:17) Go there where He already is and His Holy Love will engulf you. Only He knows the deepest need of our soul but like the Psalmist we shall know the reality of His Presence bringing restoration to our soul…even though we walk through this valley of the shadow of death…we shall not fear…for He is with us to comfort us! (Psalm 23)

If you have never asked Jesus Christ to come into your heart, simply say this prayer of acceptance and begin your new life. If you know Christ but are in pain turn to Him and join me in praying for a renewing relationship with your Lord. In the place provided put your name and make this a day of healing in Christ!

Lord, I want to know you, in the depth of my being I need a Savior, I am (……. )
I am lost in the darkness of my sin, in my pain and in my need to find you. Come Lord Jesus and be my deliverer, my savior, my healer and my friend. I give my heart to you and receive your peace. Lord show me the way to truly live in your Presence. Amen

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” -2 Corinthians 5:17-

“Those who wait on the Lord, Shall renew their strength, They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint.” -Isaiah 40:31-

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope, Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you.” -Jeremiah 29:11-

Diane is the founder and director of Unique By Desgn a Market Place Ministry of discovering destiny. Assisting people in the reality of life’s plan, purpose and passion. Author of six books Diane is an internatinal speaker–thousands of lives have been turned around by the power of presence in her life. Written by Dian an on-line daily devotion called MORNING LIGHT affects the lives of thousands as every morning words of encouragement, empowerment and edification go around the world.

Dealing With Loss

Wednesday, May 31st, 2006

You know in your heart that nothing ever stays the same. People change, lives change, situations and worlds change.

The trouble with change is that you can feel insecure and without foundation when the reality you know and have got used to is no longer the comfortable way it was before.

Those changes bring with them the inevitability of letting go of the things that you believed made you feel secure and loved, and learning that life really does carry on and that you have a strong and true foundation in your heart to sustain you.

When you love with an open heart and you share yourself with the world, you respect another’s right to live free and unbounded to you by possessive love or need. You are you, and they are they, and the connection between you is built on respect and love for each other’s right to be.

Losing someone or something tests you by asking that you not only let go, but that you break free. It’s about learning not to be controlled by a fear of loneliness, or attachment and anxiety.

Remember, love asks nothing for itself. It just is. Letting go without regret of important things in your life frees yourself of imprisonment.

That’s not to say that you stop loving anyone or caring about them because you don’t want to risk the pain of loss or the lessons you can learn from it, difficult though that prospect may be. It means that you engage fully in that relationship and celebrate the time you have together despite knowing that everything is finite, and when the time comes for letting go, you wish them well for the journey that they’re on. Just as you are on your journey.

Think of people in your own life you have moved away from, or have lost as a partner or a friend. Reverse the situation for a second and imagine if they couldn’t or wouldn’t let you go. How claustrophobic that would have been? How little you would feel they valued your right to be and your life decisions? Would you have stayed, knowing that you were compromising your own journey and in so doing, compromising theirs? How would that have helped either of your grow?

Acknowledging loss and letting go is a deep and loving act, and the feeling of loss simply signals an emptiness of where something or someone once was. And you have the ability to fill that aching space with your own love and compassion. There is no emptiness where there is love.

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Can We Teach Creativity? Part 1

Wednesday, May 31st, 2006

What is Creativity I thought? This question came to mind while I was drawing one day many years ago.

It was the summer I was fifteen, and I was doing some colored pencil artwork, my friends all suggested that I go around town and ask if any of the store owners would like to display it.

I thought they were crazy but I did it anyway. I went to a health food store called Sang Sara it was
pretty cool, I had my artwork in my folder and presented it to the staff. They all looked at it and said you did this? I thought oh no, now what should I say, I said Yes I did. Well it is amazing work and we would love it to display it, and how much is it? So we can put a price on it for those that would like to purchase it.

I had to put a price on it? I thought would anyone would want my art. He said Janet, how much do you want to charge for these, I was totally surprised, and just stood there, I had no idea at all.

The manager of the store hung them up across the store on a clothesline type rope, and they were out for all to see. I was totally embarrassed but excited as well, because as soon as I leave the store no one will know that is my artwork in there, so I hurried up and made the deal for the price and left.

Wondering how I got to that place in the first place. How did my artwork get up there and have a price on it? It was artwork to fit the times, no direction, just colored pencils and oil pastels on paper with no direction, very colorful and distinct. People really seemed to love it, and I sold a many pieces, in a couple of months I went back to the store to take the ones I left there down and forget the whole thing, the manager asked if I was there to bring new ones in and rotate them. I just looked at him and laughed, no I said.

I am here to collect my artwork and be on my way, well that is certainly to bad, allot of people seemed to really love your work. Why don’t you leave it here for a while longer Janet, people really are into it. I thought to myself as I left I am artist, people pay for my work, and that is so cool.

It was not until years later that I remembered that part of my life. A friend of mine and I decided we were going to paint my forty foot fence it was six feet high. I asked her if she would do it, for me,
because I said I am not at artist like you and I can’t possibly do it.

She laughed at me and said I will help you but I will not do it. I thought okay I want her to do it for me, how can I convince her to do it for me. I asked her again this time saying I can’t reach the top of the
fence. But she did not buy it. I told her I could see what I want in my mind but I can’t possibly draw it; she looked at me and said, why? Can’t you draw it? Just get your chalk like you told me to, and go
and draw what is in your mind, so I did, and I began to sketch the whole length of the fence and she was smiling when I was done.

She told me again I was an artist, oh no not me I can’t do that, but you can and you can help me I said. The fence was finished and we went on to do the floor in my home, the dining room and the hallway, with a dark blue background and a big five foot by five and a half foot section with a sunflower in it, and the hallway with a runner painted on the floor with
sunflowers also.

It was during that time I remembered that part of my life when I was fifteen and I sold my artwork to people then, but it took allot for me to remember it.

So my question is now is like it was then, can we teach creativity?

No I don’t believe so, but we can help creative people rediscover what it is to be creative. The task is one of assisting individuals to unlearn the things that prevent them from being creative.

We need permission to let go, be disorganized, spontaneous, and even spiritual. We need to go back to our childhood minds and spirits in order to open up that world of wonder and curiosity that we have, most of us have shut this side of ourselves away. When we do this we can begin to get in touch with ourselves again. That is what I have learned about myself and how I kept myself from my creative side, in artwork.

What can you learn about yourself? Are you willing to let go and see what happens?

Janet Prince is a Creative & Spiritual Life Coach,
Poet, Artist, Natural Health Consultant and Instructor
Author, Professional Speaker and Entrepreneur

Working with people for over 25 years she has a passion for
assisting them in developing, their Vision, Inspiration, Authentic
Self

“Desire, Ask, Believe, Receive.— Stella Terrill Mann

Singletasking vs. Multitasking: Why Doing One Thing At A Time Is Faster Than Trying To Do Them All

Wednesday, May 31st, 2006

By Dave Marcotte

I’ve been bogged down of late. Probably just like you. I’ve been working on multiple projects and multiple tasks and completely unfocused for months, my mind a maze of unfinished and un-begun tasks. In fact, I have so many tasks I know I need to do that I hardly begin any it seems for fear of not starting others. Is this the logic of the successful? I think not. So today I decided to take stock of my behavior and really reflect on what is important to me and my results.

I’ve been wanting to create a business plan for months. One where I delineate exactly what is necessary to success based on my daily copious reading on the topic of Internet marketing and business results. I’ve felt the drain and dizziness of being unfocused for months now and the lingering frustration and funk of weeks without progress. Enough is enough! So out comes my trusty computerized notepad database in which I dump any and all errata related to this crazy thing we call “online business”.

I begin by writing a few cliché catch phrases like “Begin with the end in mind”, and “Division of labor is key to success”. Whatever key concepts I believe are essential to success. Phrases that concisely define those nuggets of wisdom I know yet allow to be forgotten in the daily actions and motions of the day. I write them in the hopes that they’ll somehow float to the top of my awareness and remain there after the session is over and somehow this will magically ensure my success.

I know this isn’t necessarily the case however, as I’ve done this futile exercise over and over again for years with nary a positive outcome in sight. But here I go again because this always seems to be the first soothing step I take whenever I feel the need to “get organized” and “take action” yet again.

I’m somehow hoping today will be different than all the times before. That somehow today I will think clearer, and stronger, and jot down some magical formula that has eluded me until today; some kind of epiphany so simple and elegant that all my past struggles will somehow seem comical in their limited and childish ways of toil. That today will be a new day. A new day of ease, flow, and grace that’ll take me to swift and concise successful action unlike any other time before. Ah, the dream. It feels good, very good. How I hunger for that insight and incentive to rally me into an ecstasy of gliding action. Off I go! Knocking down barriers and making things happen with ease and style. I am success in action and nothing can stop me!

Well,… that’s the hope. The reality is that each day brings with it its own confusion, frustration, and most days — little progress. So for a spell I get reorganized, refocused, and reenergized and start out on that invigorated path once again only to hit that molasses like stagnation of frustration and lack of results soon thereafter. Why? Why! I think I’m smarter than that. Am I not?

Now, I know success isn’t necessarily easy or fast as envisaged above. But based on my daily practices I’m beginning to think I’m more than a little leaning towards the ‘lack of progress’ sides most days and perhaps even going backwards. There must be some philosophical reasoning I have engrained in my mind and daily behaviors that keeps me in this cycle of short bursts of clarity and enthusiasm and long glides of stagnation and even perhaps retrogression overall. What is it that causes this lethargic cycle?

The very next thing I typed was “Singletasking vs. Multitasking”. Singletasking…, is that even a word? Well, I know what I mean by it. The basic concept is a proven one in business and scientific circles. One of such primitive and fundamental axiomatic importance it is almost laughable anyone would discuss it, never mind disobey it daily in their lives. But I believe I may be a victim of it at by own hands. And perhaps you are too.

The idea can best be illustrated in relation to multitasking on computers where too many simultaneous processes causes the system to bog down and delay outcomes to a much greater magnitude than if the same processes had been run sequentially. I’ve thought about this many times and each time come up with the same answer. E.g. if it holds true for a computer then it must also hold true for me. And I know it does. I’ve never been able to do two tasks as fast or as well concurrently as I can when focusing on one at a time. It’s just a basic law of nature.

So why do I disobey it daily to my own frustration, failure, and perhaps even peril? There must be a reason.

Pondering on this question immediately brings up many possible reasons, and most likely accurate ones, that I avoid daily acknowledging such as:

1. Focusing on only one thing is boring.

2. Choosing one to focus on makes me uneasy. What if something else is more important or urgent?

3. Doing one thing would mean I’d have to get something done which equates with work! I couldn’t do that!

4. Only doing one thing is rather ’simple minded’. If I were to do one thing, I’d have to block out all my wonderful ideas for the duration and that wouldn’t be as pleasurable.

5. I want to do them ALL now! Just one isn’t enough!

And a dozen or two more I’m sure if I wanted to keep at it. If you’ve got some more of you’re own, I’d love to hear them, so drop me a line. But the point is that regardless of how many ‘reasons’ I may have for trying to multitask, I know based on simple physics and past observable results that I do things better and faster when I do one thing at a time. And I’ll bet you do too.

This is the basic idea behind the assembly line, the industrial revolution, and specialization; the more complex the task the more it needs to be divided up into different sub tasks and assigned to different resources to carry out. So if you’re trying to wear all hats, then perhaps that’s the problem. It seems to be mine. This reinforces the idea of playing to your strengths and outsourcing your weaknesses or dislikes.

So for at least a week (and longer if I’m smart), I’m going to do myself a favor and pursue this concept in action and see what kind of results I get. The only problem I immediately foresee is in deciding what to focus on first and in what order. This is perhaps the second roadblock I’ve always had in maintaining a single-tasking work ethic, but I’ll not let that stop me this time.

Expect some ideas on that barrier in my next article…

Dave Marcotte runs fastresponsemarketing.com fastresponsemarketing.com , a marketing company designed to uncover and share the most efficient and effective methods to market and profit online. Be sure to stop by and share your insights while he shares with you new and insightful strategies related to Internet and viral marketing. Results are what count!

10 Easy Maintenance Tips vs Piling on the Chaos

Tuesday, May 30th, 2006

Whether you are in your own business or an employee (or neither) — if you have a family and a home you are in the business of having a life. I’m betting that none of you went into your profession to become hot at shuffling papers and reams of e-mail.

Eighty percent of the clutter at work and at home is a result of disorganization, not lack of space! So if it’s going to keep coming in and piling up, you’ve got to have an exit strategy. Regular maintenance is the best way to keep your office tuned up, same as your vehicle.

The key ’success’ habit is deciding immediately where each piece of paper or e-mail goes and what’s the next action required from you. Setting anything aside in the ‘decide later pile’ just makes it worse. Every piece of clutter at work and at home is an unmade decision.

Use my Daily, Monthly and Yearly Maintenance tips to keep ahead of all that information –whether it’s paper or computer. I guarantee you can manage your information more easily and successfully at work and at home when you do.

DAILY

Unlike some wines, no piece of information improves with age.
Set a certain time each day to sort, toss and refile both paper and e-mail. I do mine after lunch while I get through my post meal ’slump’. Daily maintenance, like brushing your teeth, keeps you from collecting build-up in your systems.

Sort all your incoming materials daily; stand over the recycle bins and get rid of all the junk first. Sort into Action categories that make sense to you: to pay, to file, to review, etc. The daily sort is crucial just to keep your filing separate from Action items, and keep the discards moving.

At home, your ‘To File’ first sort can be separated into personal and business filing (try a combination sorter:vertical for action/ horizontal for filing). At work, separate client or product materials from company administrative files in your first sort. More filing category help under Monthly tips.

Set up magazine files for Reference items (catalogs, magazines). At home, make separate sort places to put receipts that refer to warranties, personal property records, or that you need to reconcile with monthly credit card and bank statements.

Use a compartment, or envelope in your briefcase or purse where you can easily stuff any receipts (especially if you travel). Then, use it. In the office, have a drop box or action file for the day-to- day expensed receipts from your briefcase or pockets.

MONTHLY

Calendar definite times to do Maintenance and stick to them.
At home, try doing your paper filing only when you pay bills. As long as you schedule your maintenance every two weeks, you’ll never miss a payment and you’ll be up on your filing, too. In between bill paying time, simply do your daily sort: tossing, and putting bills, receipts, project materials in your Action area to be filed or paid when the time comes.

At work, try scheduling non-payday Fridays or before/after two different monthly meetings to keep it regular. Here are two suggestions on basic ‘To File’ systems you can use with your ‘file piles’ when you do your every day sort. No matter how you schedule it, you can cut your filing time in half by presorting your file piles into separate file trays in the following categories.

Pre-Sorted File Categories:

You can separate current business filing into three domains:

People; clients, staff, teams
Things; projects, programs, products
Administration; the business of doing business (financials, physical office).

You can separate current personal filing into three domains:

Personal/Family
Household

Finances/Insurance

If you don’t have a ‘business of having a life’filing system, check out the cost-effective Home and Small Business File Kits that I use in my own business, which makes it easy for me to guarantee your satisfaction at www.Organizer-Extraordinaire.com

YEARLY

Universal Archiving Rule: If they aren’t this year’s files and you don’t use them regularly — get them out of your office!

I recommend that every private individual and small business do an Office Blitz in April after you’ve filed taxes. Pull all the old financial, insurance and tax-related files out, and put them in an archive box. Put in a back-up disk of your accounting program and data for that tax year.
Pick up a retention schedule from your CPA or the Internal Revenue Service.

I store my archives on shelves in the garage. Just remember to label the paper archive or waterproof plastic file boxes on the front, so you can keep a matching archive list in your file drawer with an index of box contents. Then, if you need something you can retrieve it easily.

For larger companies I recommend an Office Blitz at least twice a year. Plan a Friday afternoon where everyone participates in cleaning out their offices and cubicles. (Order extra dumpsters.) If the finance year runs July to June do your archiving blitz in end July for the prior year.

Archive administrative files, and completed project or program files. Toss records for which you have already been reimbursed, or which you no longer maintain as part of your job. Archive the rest to off-site storage after making an index.

Separate essential records into current or archive storage:

File in current year filing system (by category)
File into archival filing system (by past year)
OR Scan into electronic document storage (both)

Now, that you know how to manage your information more successfully at work and at home, Peace of Mind is just an Office Blitz plus Daily, Weekly and Monthly Maintenance away!

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10 Easy Maintenance Tips vs Piling on the Chaos
By Eve Abbott, Excerpted from her new book,
How to Do Space Age Work with a Stone Age Brain TM

Copyright 2006 Eve Abbott All Rights Reserved.

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How Do You Do That? Demystifying People With Disabilities

Tuesday, May 30th, 2006

Introduction

Nearly all employers and human resource professionals are aware of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). Yet, how often do you, your colleagues, or the average individual have contact with someone who is visually impaired/blind, using a wheel chair, or profoundly deaf? When you do, how do you react? Interact? Ignore? Assist? Marvel at their ability to move through their environment living full and productive lives?

What can you do to put yourself and the person with a disability at ease? Well, this is our purpose here. It is not to attempt to answer all your questions. Rather, to discuss appropriate methods for interacting with individuals who are disabled while squelching many myths and misconceptions. You’ll learn what to do and not do, techniques and technologies used for employment as well as in daily living.

How many times have you heard the preferred or proper method for interacting with someone with a disability? Probably never, if at all. In fact, the average individual rarely has any contact with someone who is blind, deaf, or mobility impaired. Therefore, you will be exposed to common courtesy rules governing your interactions with these individuals.

How does someone who cannot see a computer monitor or manipulate the keyboard use this most valuable technological tool of the coming century? Techniques of daily living such as setting the alarm clock, cooking on the grill, and the simple task of matching your wardrobe are tasks most of us take for granted. Yet, how would you perform these simple jobs from a wheelchair, without your eyesight, or hearing? You’ll learn about specialized tools, adaptive electronic equipment, and techniques used to live a full and productive life.

Communicating – Putting one another at ease

When you meet or come in contact with an individual who has a disability, don’t be ill at ease. If you are uncertain how to assist or interact, always speak directly to the individual. After all, they are the experts! You can never go wrong by asking. The experience will be more pleasant for all by remembering and following some simple points of courtesy.

Mobility Impaired

When conversing with a person who is mobility impaired, speak directly to the individual rather than to their companion. People who use wheelchairs are particularly sensitive to this type of treatment. If your conversation goes on for more than a few minutes or is expected to do so, consider sitting to be “eye-to-eye” while talking. It can be uncomfortable to look straight up for an extended period when seated.

Don’t be reluctant to use words like “Walk”, “Run”, or “Stand” when talking with a mobility-impaired person. Wheelchair users and people who are otherwise mobility impaired use these words, too.

Blind/Visually impaired

As with all people with disabilities, don’t ask their spouse or companion what they may want. Speak directly to the individual – just as you would anyone else in a similar situation. It isn’t necessary to raise your voice or address them in a child-like manner.

Many blind people have excellent voice recognition. However, just as a sighted person may remember a face, yet forget a name, the same can occur with voices. Always introduce yourself by name… “Hi Mary! It’s Fred!” This simple courtesy will avoid embarrassment for both parties. On a similar note, it’s nice to know who’s in the room with you. Please speak when you enter and exit. It’s helpful if others with you are introduced. Additional information is also beneficial such as knowing if there are children, dogs, or cats in the room.

Hearing Impaired

Hearing Impairment is usually divided into two basic groups: the deaf and the hard of hearing. Individuals who are deaf fall into one of two categories - cultural or oral. Those persons who primarily rely on sign language for communicating are in the cultural category. In contrast, people whose preferred method of communicating is lip reading or speech reading are in the oral category.

You may have noticed that the speaking voices of people who are deaf can often sound different from the voice of someone who has normal hearing. Without the ability to hear their own voice as well as that of others, modulating tones are difficult for someone with a hearing impairment. If you cannot clearly understand a person’s speaking voice, do not hide it. Admit that you are having difficulty and use pen and paper if necessary.

On the other hand, many hard of hearing people have trouble discriminating between words with similar sounds. Just as some words may sound alike, they can have very different meanings. For example, “sale” and “sail” have identical sounds, but totally different meanings. While “pen”, “men”, and “bend” are not close in meaning, they can sound the same to a hard of hearing individual. Thus, comprehending your message requires serious concentration.

If you are familiar with American Sign Language (ASL), by all means use it. Those you are communicating with will be most appreciative. Deaf/blind individuals can spell out words that do not have a given sign by using a technique known as “Finger Spelling”.

Mobility – Moving THROUGH YOUR environment safely

People with disabilities want to be treated the same as anyone else. Never rush up and startle someone with a disability by grabbing him or her. Your best approach is to assume he or she is independent. If the individual is in need of assistance, they will ask for help. You will never go wrong by asking first, rather than making assumptions!

You are most likely familiar with dogs used as guides by blind individuals. However, a service dog assists some mobility-impaired people. Remember… interaction with the service animal is permissible only with the expressed permission of the handler.

Mobility Impaired

There are many people who use a wheelchair or motorized scooter to get from point A to point B; many other mobility-impaired people use crutches, canes, leg braces and/or walkers. If you should observe someone using one of these devices approach an entrance to a building, you may wish to offer assistance. DO NOT automatically rush to open the door at the instant you see someone approaching in a wheelchair, using crutches or a walker. Rather, calmly walk to the door and offer assistance allowing the individual to accept or reject the offer. DO NOT be insistent, and DO NOT wait until the person is about to fall before offering your help.

Be aware of slippery floors and ramps, which can cause these devices to easily lose traction and slide on wet surfaces. A service dog assists some mobility-impaired people. These animals have full access to businesses and all public places. They are working animals, not pets. Distractions such as petting, whistling, clicking, and even establishing eye contact are not acceptable.

Blind/visually Impaired

Three (3) basic mobility options are available to blind or visually impaired travelers - sighted guide, white mobility cane, or a dog guide. Combinations of the last two are also commonly used in specific situations.

When walking with someone visually impaired, don’t grab his or her arm. Allow them to take yours grasping gently at your elbow. In this manner, they will keep a half step behind you. Your body movement will communicate information about the travel environment. Following along with you in this manner, curbs and steps can be easily negotiated. It is very helpful if you alert your traveling companion to these changes as well as announcing if an Entry/Exit door is being held open. This avoids confusion and embarrassment for all.

The use of a mobility cane is the first major step to travel independence for a blind person. Utilizing all available sensory input (smell, sound, and touch), the traveler has a greater opportunity for proper orientation to their environment. Orientation and Mobility Specialists teach techniques for proper use of a white mobility cane. This occupation requires a Masters degree from a university. Governmental agencies, rehabilitation centers, schools for the blind, and some public school systems offer this training.

For many people a dog guide brings a great sense of independence. Hundreds of people who are blind and visually impaired are trained with well disciplined and dedicated dogs as guides each year. It is important that all people know something about the way a dog guide team works and how to act when encountering one of these guides.

If a person who is using a dog appears to be in need of some assistance, approach him or her on their right side. The dog guide will usually be on the left. Do not touch or take the person by the arm without first asking if you can assist them. Under no circumstances, should a person take hold of the dog guide or the harness, this will confuse the dog and startle the individual. If assistance is accepted, offer your left elbow by brushing it against their arm as explained in the sighted guide technique.

In some instances, the person may choose not to make use of the sighted guide system. Instead, they may instruct the dog to “Follow” you. (Since experience with this command varies, so does the quality of the team’s performance.) If this is the case, walk ahead of them at a normal speed letting the person know when they are approaching turns, doorways, stairs, and drop-offs. If the person is seeking assistance for a street crossing, walk with them completely across the street and up on the opposite curb. The dog guide will again resume its duties once on the sidewalk.

The most common mistake many people make is touching, calling, clicking, or whistling to a working dog. Absolutely Do Not pet or distract a dog guide when it is in harness or when working. Always interact with the person and not the dog.

Hearing Impaired

Moving around in their environment presents some problems for deaf and hearing-impaired people. Sounds and movements out of their field of vision can create hazards. They may not be aware of traffic and emergency vehicles approaching from behind. Hearing aids will amplify these sounds, but direction may be difficult due to distortion.

Tools & Technology – Enhancing quality of life

Many of the chores and routine tasks associated with daily living can be frustrating to individuals with disabilities. Thankfully, specialized tools, equipment, and devices have been developed to help alleviate this frustration and enhance the quality of life with increased independence. Local agencies, rehabilitation centers, and libraries are excellent sources for more information. However, one of our best resources is the Internet. Online catalogues provide details about each item in stock while explaining its function.

Mobility Impaired

When we think of a person with a mobility impairment most of us immediately envision someone in a wheelchair. For sure, this is the most common, but mobility impairment involves much more than that. While there are many people using wheelchairs or motorized scooters, other impairments may necessitate the use of tools or devices such as crutches, canes, leg braces and/or walkers.

Technology is providing assistance in ways other than mobility devices. Some individuals who are unable to manipulate a computer keyboard now rely on voice recognition software to operate personal computers and other tools to make their lives easier and more productive.

Blind/visually Impaired

Electronics have opened up a new world of independence for visually impaired people living alone. Talking devices like clocks, thermometers, blood pressure cuffs, and computers have brought blind people into the 21st Century.

In fact, computers with screen reading software have opened new areas of employment never considered viable for workers with vision difficulty. Scanners convert printed text into voice output or Braille on a refreshable display. Documents can be printed in text or Braille, or transmitted electronically for co-workers. Surfing the net, reading and writing email, as well as managing personal and business finances are now nearly as easy for the blind as it is for the sighted.

To be sure, there are many challenges. Yet, progressive minded technicians are moving forward with improvements at a rapid rate. Micrometers, levels, and tape measures are available which emit electronic tones or have tactile markings. With specialized training, workers who are blind operate equipment like table saws, stamping machines, and manufacturing tools. Unfortunately, not enough of these individuals are working in mainstream jobs usually due to unfounded fears over safety issues.

Hearing Impaired

Frequently, people think a hearing aid is a “cure-all”. It is not. These devices do not function like normal hearing. Rather, they amplify sounds. A hearing aid mainly helps to make speech clearer and understandable at a shorter range. This will help avoid raising your voice while communicating. Unfortunately, background noises are more amplified and cause more distraction than it would to a person with normal hearing. Amplification devices are available for Telephones & other office equipment. TDD equipment allows total deaf individuals the ability to communicate via the telephone. Lights can be installed on devices to signal when a tone is present. Examples might be alarm clocks, doorbells, and telephones.

Summary:

It is incumbent upon us to adhere to and follow the simple rules and guidelines presented here. Remember, people with disabilities are people just like you. They don’t want pity or condescending treatment. Their sense of smell, touch, or hearing did not improve when they lost their vision. They simply rely on them more and may get more information through those senses than you do.

The development of specialized tools and devices has opened up a new world of independent living for people with mobility, vision, and hearing impairments. Simple jobs and ordinary task no longer require an assistant. Electronic devices and computers have broaden employment opportunities and enhanced quality of life for many.

It is important for you to know the correct procedure to offer assistance while not interfering with their independence.

Finally, remember that while individuals with disabilities appreciate attention the way we all do, he or she wants their friends, and others, to act natural with them and not overly solicitous. Most will discuss their disability with you if you’re curious, but it’s an old story to them. They have as many other interests as you do.

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In 1972, Larry C. Colbert’s life changed suddenly and dramatically. He was diagnosed with retinitus pigmentosa, a degenerative eye disease, and learned he would soon be blind. But, as Larry’s eyesight gradually faded, his insight deepened. Now he’s a motivational speaker who travels the world sharing humorous stories about dealing with change, overcoming adversity, and promoting diversity.

In his first book, “Insights from an out-of-sight guy”, Colbert shares the poignant story of his deep personal struggle with blindness, and the fear that kept him from embracing change. With remarkably frank dialog, and powerful and humorous examples from the best of his keynote speeches, Insights reveals Colbert’s intimate 30-year process of coming to “see” self, and provides practical and meaningful help for learning to cope with constant change, as well as managing the ideas, emotions, and attitudes that affect us all.

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Listen From Your Heart

Tuesday, May 30th, 2006

Your heart is a powerful listening tool to capture the subtle nuances of tone of voice, body language and choice of words. All too often people listen on the surface with their egos—hearing the words, but failing to notice the subtle nuances—as they patiently wait for their turn to speak.

Too often we are preoccupied by what we want to say or by projecting our hopes or fears onto the other person’s words. Consciously using your heart, however, allows you to access a deeper part of yourself—a part that is both receptive and willing to listen to the depth and breath of the message that is being conveyed. In so doing your heart allows you to connect to others on a soul level, taking you beyond mere words into the realm of truer and more soulful, thus meaningful communication.

Consciously listening from the heart and thoughtfully hearing the nuances and deeper emotional meaning of the words is a wonderful way to truly tune into who people are.

You can learn to listen with your heart by imagining that your ears are in the center of your heart—that your heart is receiving the sound vibrations of the words, which helps you to access the more profound level of meaning. Listening from your heart brings greater meaning to your interactions as well as making it easier for you to respond in a genuine and heartfelt way to the emotional content of what is said.

As a metaphysical and energetic realm, the heart is the center of the human energy system. The new field of energetic cardiology has revealed that the heart is more than a muscular pump. It has wisdom; it is the metaphysical and energetic center of love, and knowing. It is unfortunate that we have been taught to distrust the wisdom of our hearts. We have become disconnected from who we truly are—spiritual beings having a human experience. We work when rest is called for, we eat even though we are not hungry, and laugh when it is a sad situation, and we harbor angry when forgiveness would set us free. It is our ego/intellect that drives us to prove ourselves when our heart may be hurting, we feel rejected or we are struggling with a sense of unworthiness. The intellect/ego personality knows only fear and lack. We have forgotten to forgive, nurture and honor ourselves. We have forgotten to live with an open heart.

The metaphysical wisdom of our heart is a gift from Spirit and our Higher Selves. Listen and develop the ability to discern and balance the intellect with heart wisdom. When you listen from your heart, you have moved into your Spiritual Consciousness. You are raising the energy frequency of your being, the Planet, and yourself. That is what you are here to do; that is your love to yourself and others made manifest.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Author, “101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life.” Dr. Dorothy has the unique gift of connecting people with a broad range of profound principles that resonate in the deepest part of their being. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s daily thoughts and feelings. drdorothy.net drdorothy.net

The Humility Of God

Tuesday, May 30th, 2006

Have you ever wondered how God can hear so many people praying at once, from all over the world? Our God is too small in our eyes, and when our eyes are opened to his greatness, it can be quite an awesome revelation.

I was driving on a highway one afternoon, when the clouds formed in such a way as to create great rays of streaming light fanning out all across the vista. As I looked in wonder at the vastness of area that the rays covered, it dawned on me: if my sister, on the other side of the country, were to look up at this very moment, she would see the same sunshine that I see. In fact, ALL people on this side of the world, even thousands of miles apart, could receive the same warmth of the same sun at the same time. And I came to understand more deeply how God can be present to each individual at the same time - just as millions across a hemisphere can be warmed simultaneously by the inexhaustible sunshine. As it says in Romans, “the same Lord over all is rich to all who call upon Him.” Not only to all, but to all at the same time! The more astonishing fact still, is that God not only made the sun, but he made millions, some say billions, more like it.

I got another glimpse of the greatness of God one day when I opened a magazine. I looked down upon a photo of what I thought was the sun with its planets revolving around it. But on closer look, I was struck by the fact that this photo was not of a solar system, it was a photo of an ATOM! An atom with electrons and protons revolving around it! And then this understanding burst upon my mind: the largest thing in creation is actually a picture of the smallest thing in creation! How great is our God!

Later, on the day when I boarded an airplane for the first time, I thrilled at the sensation of being lifted higher and higher into the heights. But as I looked down, people and then cars and then houses become smaller and smaller, and I began to reflect on the smallness of our puny beings with our puffed-up egos. We have no reluctance to step on an ant. Yet from the heights, we look smaller than ants. As we rose far above the earth, we finally could distinguish nothing at all anymore, and loudly the Scripture from the Psalms broke forth across my mind: “When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have ordained, what is man that you are mindful of him, and the son of man that you visit him?” Indeed!

The extravagance of the creation, such vast worlds, so many planetary systems, so many suns, suggests the most humbling question -why would this great God care about the likes of us mortal and rebellious humanity? Yet he not only created us, but gave his son to redeem us out of our fallenness. How the humility of God far surpasses the grandiose thoughts and intents of man

Socializing for the Unsocial

Monday, May 29th, 2006

Big cocktail parties have never been a favorite activity of mine. Somehow gathering a bunch of people in a room with deviled eggs, shrimp, and mini hot dogs, sticking a glass of wine, beer, or booze in their hands and watching them talk, is outside my comfort zone. For some unknown reason, I find myself at such gatherings fairly often so I have developed survival tactics. Last evening, I applied my tactics with varying degrees of success.

I approached the event with a goal of learning three fascinating facts about three people. This has worked well in the past. Sometimes, it has opened up some great stories. I was hopeful as I walked right up to a group of three people and said, “Tell me three fascinating things about you.” Two of them sort of looked at me funny, while the third said, “Well I have a black nail on the big toe of my right foot. I got it as the result of a water heater falling on it some twenty years ago when I was remodeling my basement.” Okay, so that didn’t work. I moved on.

Next I decided to ask a more harmless question, “Where were you born?”” I live in Florida. Nobody old enough to be at a cocktail party in Florida was born in Florida. After all, it wasn’t too long ago that this was a reptile infested swamp. Today the reptiles have clustered in less space to make room for an infestation of condos and golf course developments. Last night I asked a lady I didn’t know,”Where were you born?” She proudly informed me, “Tuscaloosa.” I said, “My sister’s college roommate’s next door neighbor was engaged to a guy from Tuscaloosa.”What’s his name?” she asked. “How would I know?” I said. “He was my sister’s college roommate’s next door neighbor’s fiancé, for crying out loud. That is really a stupid question.” I think my response offended her. She muttered something under her breath and turned away.

Finally, when all else failed, I employed what I call “purpose-filled pacing.” This is where I put a warm and fuzzy look on my face, fill my eyes with expectation and move with deliberate purpose across the room. I pretend that there is somebody on the other side of the party who really wants to talk with me. I say “excuse me” to those I bump into as work my way across the room. When I arrive, I look around as if I am seeking someone. Then, I feign that I see them clear on the other side and do my purpose-filled pace in the other direction. It always works like a charm.

Excuse me…I see ol’ what’s his name across the room is looking for me. Excuse me…

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Prison Is Not What You Think It Is

Monday, May 29th, 2006

Maybe you haven’t thought about prison lately. Maybe you try to avoid it and the people who are affected by it. Maybe you have no doubt – you are better than ‘they’ are. Haven’t you?

Who?

The people who build (physical) prisons; do you think they know God?

The people who are glad that more and more prisons are being built, because supposedly they protect them from those ‘criminals’ – are they Christians? Christians who claim to KNOW GOD AND Jesus the Christ?

Before going any farther, let’s summarize what we know God is, what He wants and what Jesus The Christ told us to do

1970 years ago!!

God is the ONLY power behind everything and every one. He is the ocean, the clouds, the grain of sand, the bird, and your roof-top.
There is nothing God is not. And NOTHING any one human thinks, says or does is going to change that.

God bore us from the womb so we could be what?

HIS SERVANTS

What else?

After ministering and praying, getting results and thus more power plus exerting greater obedience, we become God’s friends. No results, no promotion. So, we try again to affect some one.

Then what?

When we have stopped worrying about our own gain and benefits (lost our life and found it), we enjoy superseding the daily life of all ‘others’ God brings into our lives with the truth:

That’s when we are THE SONS OF GOD.

There IS NO ‘sickness’, ‘poverty’, ‘limitation’, ‘weakness’, not even STAINS in heaven!

Hey, you.

Do you consider yourself a positive person?

Yes?

Wouldn’t you like to know what the work of God really means?

Example:

When you drive past a person in a wheel chair, you are supposed to

THANK GOD FOR MAKING HIM OR HER WHOLE & LETTING THEM WALK AGAIN!

GOD WILL.

There is ONLY ONE power. This power is monitoring your heart. However, the activating part has to come from you.

The reason why you meet the person in a wheel chair?

To do God’s work of

-= denying imperfection

– making them whole

Whom did you make whole?

Yourself!

With each person you heal, you get more power and more GOODIES.

Get it?

Each time you wish well on any one you encounter, you

HELP JESUS THE CHRIST BEARING THE CROSS.

Whose cross?

Ours, for there is only one God, who plays all the parts.

When you hear some one who knows no different telling you ‘BAD’ news of any kind, you REVISE what they said in your mind.

He says “I just lost my job”.

You heard “I am gainfully employed, and I have more fun and make more money than ever before.”

What did you just do?

You lifted weight of Y O U R shoulder, because that is

HOW GOD SET IT UP.

Are you listening?

As long as you care about

“WHAT’S IN IT FOR YOU”

you will die.

How come?

God is ONE. Your purification process, that is the removal of one or more water drops from your octane depends on whom, or what He brings to your attention. If you want God’s power (which is unlimited), you have to keep removing.

As soon as you lift a burden of any one but you, you move toward eternal life.

Can you affect Freedom to any prisoner?

Of course you can.

God’s power, the ONLY power, overrides, or supersedes any so-called power on earth, be it in uniform, or not.

More at:
telechurch.org/prison_ministry.htm telechurch.org/prison_ministry.htm
Dr. Ina Bliss – the woman of Revelation 12, whose hour is come, with her ‘prison’ ministry.